Value judgments, and why they are useless ...
There's a big difference between promiscuity and seeking attention
A don't apply any value judgment to promiscuity and seeking attention, and I refuse to.
Yes, if a woman who rarely has sex is intimate with myself, and a woman who has sex often does as well, the former feels "more flattering."
But I don't make a value judgment at all, not at all.
I spent many years dating women early in high school and getting dumped by them because I wouldn't cross first or second base.
I even prided myself as "being more respectable" and other value judgments.
But by the age of 15, I had my first full figured girlfriend, and that was that.
I realize it was only my lack of sexual drive prior that was keeping me from doing anything.
So the second I discovered women who sent it into hyperdrive, I realized my values were not as others had told me.
My values became things like responsibility, respect for values, and realizing values were relative.
Because values are defined by people, their experiences, their ability to be responsible (or not), and the consequences of having values that you could not be responsible enough for.
For the next 5 years, I was intimate with nearly 50 women, and I decided to have safe sex using the female breast as a raw sex object.
I love the hourglass form of a woman, it makes her breasts, and the body is the first thing I notice about a woman (in a social setting).
But I purposely became fixated on just the bust for reasons of safe sex, and I love it, and I didn't deny myself at all.
Women that were shy, were forward, were rare catches and those who caught everyone and took everyone, no difference in judgment.
I took their values, and I didn't focus on "respect" of those values for "respect's sake," but so she felt comfortable with myself.
I had one woman I entertained several times between her boyfriends, and woman who was very easy, but I limited my "action" with her, often to her amazement.
At the same time, she couldn't stand the fact that I was the most fulfilling lover for her, and she couldn't get over the fact that I didn't ask (let alone didn't want) to have intercourse.
With all her lovers, she kept trying to define me in what she thought of men, the typical few views, and that's why she never understood.
Because it was about pleasing myself in a way that was compatible with pleasing her as well, and I was more than content.
She was a beautiful and enchanting person, something I'm sure not only many men missed, but most women as well.
Why? Because she was a "slut" in their view, yet there was just a promiscuous woman, who was fully of original beauty, and I loved her for that.
Between the boyfriends as well as possibly loved her more than her boyfriends when she was with them.
People want to use value judgments, standards, comments and other, external "branding," external to their own thoughts, on people to define how they approach them.
That's the absolute worst thing you can do to yourself, to deny yourself your own feelings, your own experiences, because you know best for yourself.
You just have to find values you trust to keep you happy and safe, and stick to them, all while ensuring you don't cross the values of others with regards to them.
I stress don't cross the values of others with regards to them, not with regards to people in general.
Because some people are just going to judge and those are the people who have values you adhere to when with them and with regards to them.
But you clearly (and you should tell them clearly) do not apply to how you deal with others, because it's the values of others that matter.
I have had so many women comment that I am "misguided" or otherwise "wrong," yet when I asked them anytime I had "cross their values" with regards to them, they were dumbfounded.
I've dated multiple women at the same time, but all women were okay with it first.
Any woman who wanted a monogamous relationship either got it, or we didn't have a relationship (other than a friendship), and it wasn't about "changing" or "discussing" either.
Value judgments are really about looking outside the values that really matter, the values that people use for themselves.
They are useless so I don't deal with them, which is why the virgin gets the same consideration as the slut.
The same reason why the deep cleavage gets the same look at the turtleneck where I can't see anything.
And heck, in a social setting, breasts are just part of the equation anyway, I want the whole figure, and I'm picky.
Before I was married, I just had to limit myself to the breasts for my lust of a woman, so they were clearly a sex object.
And I won't deny I get a mega-boner thinking about my wife's DDs alone sometimes, but it's still in the background of her figure that make them even more sultry.
My wife values a lover who loves full figured women, and gives into her large mammaries along with her hips.
She not only values it, she wants it, and her mouth won't stop sometimes and even goes almost overboard for my tastes (I said almost
).
I am a man, I'm not denying what I want, so that's why I have loved women who have values that are compatible with mine.
And it's why I've not only been so happy, but ironically, most people who know me think I am "respectable" -- ha!
People who don't know my lustful nature are just the ones that either have values incompatible with mine or just never open that door, so I don't.
I actually take issues with statements like such ...
There's a big difference between promiscuity and seeking attention
A don't apply any value judgment to promiscuity and seeking attention, and I refuse to.
Yes, if a woman who rarely has sex is intimate with myself, and a woman who has sex often does as well, the former feels "more flattering."
But I don't make a value judgment at all, not at all.
I spent many years dating women early in high school and getting dumped by them because I wouldn't cross first or second base.
I even prided myself as "being more respectable" and other value judgments.
But by the age of 15, I had my first full figured girlfriend, and that was that.
I realize it was only my lack of sexual drive prior that was keeping me from doing anything.
So the second I discovered women who sent it into hyperdrive, I realized my values were not as others had told me.
My values became things like responsibility, respect for values, and realizing values were relative.
Because values are defined by people, their experiences, their ability to be responsible (or not), and the consequences of having values that you could not be responsible enough for.
For the next 5 years, I was intimate with nearly 50 women, and I decided to have safe sex using the female breast as a raw sex object.
I love the hourglass form of a woman, it makes her breasts, and the body is the first thing I notice about a woman (in a social setting).
But I purposely became fixated on just the bust for reasons of safe sex, and I love it, and I didn't deny myself at all.
Women that were shy, were forward, were rare catches and those who caught everyone and took everyone, no difference in judgment.
I took their values, and I didn't focus on "respect" of those values for "respect's sake," but so she felt comfortable with myself.
I had one woman I entertained several times between her boyfriends, and woman who was very easy, but I limited my "action" with her, often to her amazement.
At the same time, she couldn't stand the fact that I was the most fulfilling lover for her, and she couldn't get over the fact that I didn't ask (let alone didn't want) to have intercourse.
With all her lovers, she kept trying to define me in what she thought of men, the typical few views, and that's why she never understood.
Because it was about pleasing myself in a way that was compatible with pleasing her as well, and I was more than content.
She was a beautiful and enchanting person, something I'm sure not only many men missed, but most women as well.
Why? Because she was a "slut" in their view, yet there was just a promiscuous woman, who was fully of original beauty, and I loved her for that.
Between the boyfriends as well as possibly loved her more than her boyfriends when she was with them.
People want to use value judgments, standards, comments and other, external "branding," external to their own thoughts, on people to define how they approach them.
That's the absolute worst thing you can do to yourself, to deny yourself your own feelings, your own experiences, because you know best for yourself.
You just have to find values you trust to keep you happy and safe, and stick to them, all while ensuring you don't cross the values of others with regards to them.
I stress don't cross the values of others with regards to them, not with regards to people in general.
Because some people are just going to judge and those are the people who have values you adhere to when with them and with regards to them.
But you clearly (and you should tell them clearly) do not apply to how you deal with others, because it's the values of others that matter.
I have had so many women comment that I am "misguided" or otherwise "wrong," yet when I asked them anytime I had "cross their values" with regards to them, they were dumbfounded.
I've dated multiple women at the same time, but all women were okay with it first.
Any woman who wanted a monogamous relationship either got it, or we didn't have a relationship (other than a friendship), and it wasn't about "changing" or "discussing" either.
Value judgments are really about looking outside the values that really matter, the values that people use for themselves.
They are useless so I don't deal with them, which is why the virgin gets the same consideration as the slut.
The same reason why the deep cleavage gets the same look at the turtleneck where I can't see anything.
And heck, in a social setting, breasts are just part of the equation anyway, I want the whole figure, and I'm picky.
Before I was married, I just had to limit myself to the breasts for my lust of a woman, so they were clearly a sex object.
And I won't deny I get a mega-boner thinking about my wife's DDs alone sometimes, but it's still in the background of her figure that make them even more sultry.
My wife values a lover who loves full figured women, and gives into her large mammaries along with her hips.
She not only values it, she wants it, and her mouth won't stop sometimes and even goes almost overboard for my tastes (I said almost
).I am a man, I'm not denying what I want, so that's why I have loved women who have values that are compatible with mine.
And it's why I've not only been so happy, but ironically, most people who know me think I am "respectable" -- ha!
People who don't know my lustful nature are just the ones that either have values incompatible with mine or just never open that door, so I don't.
