Have you ever got caught staring at a woman's...
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I remember this story from a long time ago (back before most members on this board were born), back when I was a rookie paramedic stationed at a podunk hospital (meaning: sticksville. "The boonies". Middle of nowhere. Armpit of the nation. You get the picture, yeah?). It was a fairly large, rural community - with just a small hospital and we only had two ambulance services in the entire county! As such, medical (doctors and nurses), paramedical/fire-fighter and law enforcement staff knew each other pretty well (anyone who lives in rural communities knows what I'm talking about).
So here I am, running my first "major call" - mildly unstable male patient who had suffered a heart-attack. My partner and I managed to stabilize him (somewhat) on the way back to the hospital. As we wheel the patient into the ER, I'm mentally going over my "report". On the way to the trauma room, we meet one of the ER nurses "JR" and I start rattling off a quick report to her...
Now I must mention, JR is a young nurse. All of 5'0" tall with grey eyes and an every present smile. She's new to the woods but she's an excellent competent nurse with brains and stamina to match her cute.
.... we hit the trauma room and everyone is in there - ER Doc, more nurses, assistants etc. Doc tells me "Ok Roughneck, gimme the bullet"...
And so I start my rapid-report, while helping the staff transfer the patient from our stretcher to the bed... and about half way through my first sentence of report....
.....there before my astounded eyes, as JR is straining to complete the transfer, my eyes fall upon the two most wonderful pair of breasts/cleavage I've ever seen. It wasn't like her boobs were popping out of her uniform - on the contrary, they were nicely covered! But damn! I never ever imagined that she had such big boobs!
I freeze. In fact, I freeze so bad, that the whole freaking trauma room notices!! :o My partner gave me a quick silent kick on my shin and I ruefully tear my eyes away from this awesome spectacle only to look down on my patient --- guess what? His eyes are popping from the view too! In fact, "the view" sent my 'stable' patient's heart racing! :1orglaugh
I hurriedly gave report and beat a hasty retreat to the desk to finish my paperwork. I was so embarrased that I dared not look up from my paperwork - I occassionaly glanced at my partner (he was a senior paramedic) only to see him smirking. I made a mental tally of practical jokes I'd pull on that bastard when we got back to station.
While I'm busy finishing the transfer sheets, an unopened can of Coke is deposited by my side. I look up.
It's JR. She doesn't seem mad. She is not angry. In fact, she has a sly grin on her face (and despite all these years, I swear it looks something like what my partner has plastered onto his face).
I stutter and stammer... "Uhhhh, Hi JR. How's the patient doing?" I say, trying to deflect the question.
"Ohh he's fine! Once he SAW what he needed to see, other than a minor glitch, he settled down and seemed like he was comfortable as he could be!"
"Oh? Ohhh! Umm... yeah.... er... yeah. That's good.That's good.That's good..... Ummm yeah. That's good."
"So Roughneck, saw something interesting tonight?"
I caught that twinkle in her eye as she said that.
Being the brash young feller I was then, I said, "Yeah. I think I saw what heaven looks like".
We both looked at each other and had a good hearty laugh. I then apologized to her if I'd made her uncomfortable. She accepted my apology.
We've been good friends since that day (and we still are)
I've since branched out to more than just being a paramedic within the health care profession, and there are some other stories of similar nature; but that one always stays fresh in my mind. Of course, given the nature of my job I often joke that "I've seen more penises than a prostitute and more boobs than a porno star".
Example: We'll be out shopping/out on town/etc. and there have been times when my wife has noticed me "checking out" other women. Being the darling that she is, she rarely says much then... she'll just raise an eyebrow and put on a wry smile.
But later when we are bit more private and "alone", she'll gently ask me about 'that woman'. And I'll honestly tell her why - "She looked HOT in that dress" or "I think her boobs led my nose!"
Sometimes, I do notice my wife "checking out other men". I pretend not to notice... and later it become an object of conversation when we are alone, when I ask her about it: (example) "Well, he had a nice air about him." or "Whoo! He looked good!!!"
Sometimes, in fact, my wife and I will notice other folks "checking" us out and we 'secretly' inform the other of it.
I honestly think that my wife and I are somewhat of a "different couple". My darling wife and I are rather "open" on this subject. After all - we didn't get married, raise three children and endure all that because we thought we where the "hottest looking couple in town".
As such, I don't think I've had an "awkward" situation with my wife.
cheers,
R.
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Like Becks, I catch men staring at my chest all the time. It used to bother me, I'd feel like snapping my fingers in their face. That was a while ago, back when I felt awkward with myself as a sexual creature.
Now, it doesn't bother me. Unless I'm in a workplace situation. I want people to be focusing on what I'm saying rather than my chest. lol
If DrDeath looks at other women...I'll admit to pangs of jealousy, but then I laugh and we enjoy the view together
I feel that if I catch them its to the rude point myself. I have said many times "Helloooo I'm up here." trying to make lite of the situation and get the person to stop. However, I do think looking as I approach, before we begin to speak much more polite. I don't mind being looked at coming or going, its flattering, but if we're already talking look at my face/eyes, not stare at my chest.
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I would stare at your chest if I only wasn't distracted by your annoying hair.
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When I'm on a date or with a girl I never look at any other woman. When I'm at work I never "notice" women coworkers or guests.
When I'm by myself...I keep it discrete with the peeks/peaks. I pretty much only peek at boobs and cleavage. There was a point in time about 18 months ago when you couldn't go to the mall and avoid exposed thongs. It was very, very strange.
In work or class situations...I can understand if women complain about "looks." They are there, presumably, for their qualifications or to learn. But out in "public" I think chicks only complain if ugly, creepy losers are checking them out. That seems pretty obvious to me.
When I'm by myself...I keep it discrete with the peeks/peaks. I pretty much only peek at boobs and cleavage. There was a point in time about 18 months ago when you couldn't go to the mall and avoid exposed thongs. It was very, very strange.
In work or class situations...I can understand if women complain about "looks." They are there, presumably, for their qualifications or to learn. But out in "public" I think chicks only complain if ugly, creepy losers are checking them out. That seems pretty obvious to me.
today at walmart, a spanish chick with DD's was walking around with a tee-shirt 2 sizes too small. The shirt on the front had the handprints right on her boobs.
She had her little attitude and rolled her eyes when she saw me staring at them puppies.
Fuck her....and yeah I'll fuck her tits!
Peace.
She had her little attitude and rolled her eyes when she saw me staring at them puppies.
Fuck her....and yeah I'll fuck her tits!
Peace.
Depends on my mood and how much of a repeat offender the person is.
Good point. :hatsoff:
I would stare at your chest if I only wasn't distracted by your annoying hair.
Roughneck you rock! That was a great story. You just inspired me to talk to my wife to try to get her to loosen up and not be so tense/insecure about my human nature. I'm not asking her to let me look down women's blouses. She gets uncomfortable with me simply acknowledging another woman's attractiveness in the context of small talk.
Maybe then it won't be so taboo and threatnening to the security of our marriage. She knows I get hard for her, but she sometimes thinks it's my job to flatter her. As the country song goes "She don't know she's beautiful".
Maybe then it won't be so taboo and threatnening to the security of our marriage. She knows I get hard for her, but she sometimes thinks it's my job to flatter her. As the country song goes "She don't know she's beautiful".
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once i got in big trouble with an ex for totally checking out this girl once at lunch. i mean i kinda knew i was doing it but at the same time i didnt. there's points to be given to natural sexual behavioral actions after all.
my ex got so pissed. and well, shes my ex now so thats that eh?
i do look at girls all the time, i cant help it. they are so fucking beautiful, i have no control. my wife doesnt have a problem with it, we are at that point where she actually points out hot girls too now so im kinda lucky in that way. she looks too.
my ex got so pissed. and well, shes my ex now so thats that eh?
i do look at girls all the time, i cant help it. they are so fucking beautiful, i have no control. my wife doesnt have a problem with it, we are at that point where she actually points out hot girls too now so im kinda lucky in that way. she looks too.
I only remember doing the first one, but, amazingly, the girl looked flattered. I would imagine she would be - she had big beautiful tits and was wearing a tight shirt. She probably enjoyed getting me off.
I keep it eye-level, unless prompted ...
I keep it eye-level, unless prompted. And when I am prompted, I look head to toe, and treat every portion with the same level of interest. The breasts, to me, are just "the added bonus."
What is a prompt? A woman saying she is fat, needs to lose weight, etc... There are ways to keep it professional without getting sexual. Talking about the female form, and being blunt, but tasteful in telling select women (in all honesty) that are just wide, not fat, is also easy to do. At the most, I'll leave it with, "don't want to be a HR issue, but I feel that was a professional observation."
It's easy to avoid the sexual or even cliche words like "beautiful." Stick with words like "charming," "enchanting" or, when prompted, say a dress or other set of clothing is "a flattering, but professional fit for your form," etc... There are many ways to put things forward without dipping into a HR issue, even when others are around.
About the only time I will notice open cleavage, is when it's too much for an environment. And then I will silently walk by the woman and mention something softly like, "I think you may be showing a bit too much, unless that is your intent, just wanted you to know in case it wasn't."
In many cases, an extra button comes undone and the woman didn't realize it. And in most of those cases, the woman will come by later and thank with as well as say "sorry." And many times I have flat out stated something like, "oh, no, I wouldn't mention it except I assume you'd normally reserve such a devine view for a more selective audience." I.e., I'm with Redneck, using the "heaven," "devine," etc... related attribute is typically a good way to put even the most right-wing at rest.
Now if she's a little more open minded, oh, after that I make for more direct of a comment. Oh how I love some women at work.
I keep it eye-level, unless prompted. And when I am prompted, I look head to toe, and treat every portion with the same level of interest. The breasts, to me, are just "the added bonus."
What is a prompt? A woman saying she is fat, needs to lose weight, etc... There are ways to keep it professional without getting sexual. Talking about the female form, and being blunt, but tasteful in telling select women (in all honesty) that are just wide, not fat, is also easy to do. At the most, I'll leave it with, "don't want to be a HR issue, but I feel that was a professional observation."
It's easy to avoid the sexual or even cliche words like "beautiful." Stick with words like "charming," "enchanting" or, when prompted, say a dress or other set of clothing is "a flattering, but professional fit for your form," etc... There are many ways to put things forward without dipping into a HR issue, even when others are around.
About the only time I will notice open cleavage, is when it's too much for an environment. And then I will silently walk by the woman and mention something softly like, "I think you may be showing a bit too much, unless that is your intent, just wanted you to know in case it wasn't."
In many cases, an extra button comes undone and the woman didn't realize it. And in most of those cases, the woman will come by later and thank with as well as say "sorry." And many times I have flat out stated something like, "oh, no, I wouldn't mention it except I assume you'd normally reserve such a devine view for a more selective audience." I.e., I'm with Redneck, using the "heaven," "devine," etc... related attribute is typically a good way to put even the most right-wing at rest.
Now if she's a little more open minded, oh, after that I make for more direct of a comment. Oh how I love some women at work.
Re: I keep it eye-level, unless prompted ...
Well aren't you just a gentleman's gentleman!:thumbsup: That takes courage and discipline and respect, and some more stuff.
I keep it eye-level, unless prompted. And when I am prompted, I look head to toe, and treat every portion with the same level of interest. The breasts, to me, are just "the added bonus."
What is a prompt? A woman saying she is fat, needs to lose weight, etc... There are ways to keep it professional without getting sexual. Talking about the female form, and being blunt, but tasteful in telling select women (in all honesty) that are just wide, not fat, is also easy to do. At the most, I'll leave it with, "don't want to be a HR issue, but I feel that was a professional observation."
It's easy to avoid the sexual or even cliche words like "beautiful." Stick with words like "charming," "enchanting" or, when prompted, say a dress or other set of clothing is "a flattering, but professional fit for your form," etc... There are many ways to put things forward without dipping into a HR issue, even when others are around.
About the only time I will notice open cleavage, is when it's too much for an environment. And then I will silently walk by the woman and mention something softly like, "I think you may be showing a bit too much, unless that is your intent, just wanted you to know in case it wasn't."
In many cases, an extra button comes undone and the woman didn't realize it. And in most of those cases, the woman will come by later and thank with as well as say "sorry." And many times I have flat out stated something like, "oh, no, I wouldn't mention it except I assume you'd normally reserve such a devine view for a more selective audience." I.e., I'm with Redneck, using the "heaven," "devine," etc... related attribute is typically a good way to put even the most right-wing at rest.
Now if she's a little more open minded, oh, after that I make for more direct of a comment. Oh how I love some women at work.
Well aren't you just a gentleman's gentleman!:thumbsup: That takes courage and discipline and respect, and some more stuff.
I usually find girls like getting looked at. I've been caught and just looked up and smiled..they either smile back or turn away in disgust. If the girl's bf notices then he usually stares me down.
My gf once got me looking down her sister's shirt. I said the i was looking at the floor or some bs like that.
My gf once got me looking down her sister's shirt. I said the i was looking at the floor or some bs like that.
True! I usually find a girl enjoys me looking at her breastes! So who the fuck cares?
I'm always catching a glimpse of my co-worker's cleavage - I don't know if she's ever noticed me. But I always wonder if a woman is going to show cleavage, shouldn't she expect guys to be stealing glimpses? Can women really be that clueless about the attractiveness of their cleavage? If she's doing it on purpose, that's pretty awesome!
No (to my knowledge) to both.
I was raised by women and I would never disrespect them by staring at their breasts while I am speaking to them. Also, I have more self control then that (though I have more so now then when I was younger). And also, I realize how many guys do that. So it makes me look fractionally better if I don't while others do.
And the only reason I would be looking at another woman with desire is because I am not happy with the woman I am with. In which case I would end it (hopefully).
And also, I wouldn't like it one bit if someone I was dating were doing it. And if she did and I caught her, I would definitely say something. So if I am going to complain about it then I had better not be doing it myself.
I was raised by women and I would never disrespect them by staring at their breasts while I am speaking to them. Also, I have more self control then that (though I have more so now then when I was younger). And also, I realize how many guys do that. So it makes me look fractionally better if I don't while others do.
And the only reason I would be looking at another woman with desire is because I am not happy with the woman I am with. In which case I would end it (hopefully).
And also, I wouldn't like it one bit if someone I was dating were doing it. And if she did and I caught her, I would definitely say something. So if I am going to complain about it then I had better not be doing it myself.
It's not about respect, but impression (1/2)
It makes an impression with women when they don't have to worry about you when you don't make a "big deal" (even if with just your eyes) out of any distraction.
Sure, she could be showing cleavage and other physical enticements, but I want to give the impression I'm there to interact professionally.
When I was an intern during college, everyone wondered why the hot blond geologist in the office used to call me instead of anyone else with computer problems.
It had everything to do with how I interacted with her, and ironically, she eventually told me (after about a year) that she would have asked me out by then if I wasn't engaged.
When you treat women like ladies, it's really not about them or "respect" anything else, it's about the impression that is made all around.
Of course, if women prompt a discussion on physical details, oh, I can channel my most selfish pig nature into a dissection of the female form.
Ironically, they even think that is "respectful" -- probably partially because I'm typically talking to under-appreciated women, but also because I'm not giving the typical responses.
Women like complements that aren't cliche, they aren't just about common anatomy, but the woman as her complete presence.
I have never been a catch in my entire life, but I have just seem to make some women feel completely comfortable with myself, and that seems to be it.
It's definitely not about "respect," because I tit-fucked one executive right down into her bra in her office at work when I was an intern as well.
About the only thing I didn't do is go around and brag about doing it, because there's a lot to be said about not kissing'n telling.
Everything I do is in my own, selfish interest -- because I want to present myself in a way that makes feel comfortable.
I always wait to be prompted, and then people are just floored, but in a good way because of that "lead" I give to listen and understand them before I go down that road.
In all honesty, "getting laid" is more about how comfortable women feel with you than looks in many cases.
That's why I don't have to worry about women or their boyfriends getting upset, much less have to deal with HR issues at work.
As far as the women who like getting looked at, if they don't, you don't have to worry if you don't.
And if they do, then if it bothers them enough that you haven't looked, then they will eventually vocal that.
And that's when I floor them on their ass, because what they thought was a "respectful" guy is actually a very lustful male, but he is able to channel it in a way that makes them better than the typical stare or vocal response.
Staring at breasts is just focusing on one small part of the anatomy, lacking so much of the view.
You make a woman feel that she's not "fat" when there is a world that says you're fat if you're not a size 3, 5 or, in the worst case, 7, makes all-the-difference -- especially when she's slender and hot, but just wider.
I never get laid as good as when I talk to my wife from behind while she's standing in front of a mirror.
Oh, and I don't lie -- if she's straight shaped or spoon/bell shaped (80% of women) and clearly has a protruding stomach or no hint of a hourglass, I won't comment at all.
I only "engage" women who "prompt" me when they are my type of full figured lover.
At the same time, again, it's really not about "respect," but making yourself "different."
"Different" in how you approach her, view her, treat her and engage her, at least professionally or socially.
If I'm in a social environment, sure, I'm staring at her -- but head-to-toe, looking for that hourglass -- and women do notice that (especially when she's a "lesser appreciated beauty").
I'm a selfish, male pig, I notice a hourglass figure first, not eyes, hair or anything else, I'm forward on that and you will never hear me say otherwise, as I'd only be lying to myself.
But I reserve that for social settings or, when prompted in conversation, by a woman.
I love it when a woman prompts it, because I get to unleash that lust, even if it's channeled into "lesser used prose."
When she does, I will fully look her up and down, head to toe, and do it blantantly, often with, "well since you asked."
I will analyze her legs, thighs, mid-section, chest as much as bust, how her shoulders and overall presentation match.
And from that point forward, whenever she wears a dress or other attire that sports her curves, I'll be forward in saying something like, "now today's attire definitely highlights your enchanting female presence and form, head to toe."
If she's sporting cleavage, sometimes it pays not to notice, especially if she wants you to.
At the same time, some men notice when women are focused on work or something else, and don't want the distraction.
So, it can't hurt to always keep it "eye level" and treat her like a lady.
If she wants more, then she will eventually prompt it, especially if you don't notice.
But make no mistake, many women wear V-cuts not merely because of style.
It's actually not about "respect," but more about "impression" -- although it could be considered "discipline."
It makes an impression with women when they don't have to worry about you when you don't make a "big deal" (even if with just your eyes) out of any distraction.
Sure, she could be showing cleavage and other physical enticements, but I want to give the impression I'm there to interact professionally.
When I was an intern during college, everyone wondered why the hot blond geologist in the office used to call me instead of anyone else with computer problems.
It had everything to do with how I interacted with her, and ironically, she eventually told me (after about a year) that she would have asked me out by then if I wasn't engaged.
When you treat women like ladies, it's really not about them or "respect" anything else, it's about the impression that is made all around.
Of course, if women prompt a discussion on physical details, oh, I can channel my most selfish pig nature into a dissection of the female form.
Ironically, they even think that is "respectful" -- probably partially because I'm typically talking to under-appreciated women, but also because I'm not giving the typical responses.
Women like complements that aren't cliche, they aren't just about common anatomy, but the woman as her complete presence.
I have never been a catch in my entire life, but I have just seem to make some women feel completely comfortable with myself, and that seems to be it.
It's definitely not about "respect," because I tit-fucked one executive right down into her bra in her office at work when I was an intern as well.
About the only thing I didn't do is go around and brag about doing it, because there's a lot to be said about not kissing'n telling.
Everything I do is in my own, selfish interest -- because I want to present myself in a way that makes feel comfortable.
I always wait to be prompted, and then people are just floored, but in a good way because of that "lead" I give to listen and understand them before I go down that road.
In all honesty, "getting laid" is more about how comfortable women feel with you than looks in many cases.
I never make excuses and I never lie, hence why I don't do it unless prompted.
That's why I don't have to worry about women or their boyfriends getting upset, much less have to deal with HR issues at work.
As far as the women who like getting looked at, if they don't, you don't have to worry if you don't.
And if they do, then if it bothers them enough that you haven't looked, then they will eventually vocal that.
And that's when I floor them on their ass, because what they thought was a "respectful" guy is actually a very lustful male, but he is able to channel it in a way that makes them better than the typical stare or vocal response.
Staring at breasts is just focusing on one small part of the anatomy, lacking so much of the view.
You make a woman feel that she's not "fat" when there is a world that says you're fat if you're not a size 3, 5 or, in the worst case, 7, makes all-the-difference -- especially when she's slender and hot, but just wider.
I never get laid as good as when I talk to my wife from behind while she's standing in front of a mirror.
Oh, and I don't lie -- if she's straight shaped or spoon/bell shaped (80% of women) and clearly has a protruding stomach or no hint of a hourglass, I won't comment at all.
I only "engage" women who "prompt" me when they are my type of full figured lover.
As I've hinted to, if you can make a woman feel good about more than just her breasts, you've topped how the majority of other men have made her feel.
Most women sport what they have, and they should because they have it, so that's almost a natural law.
At the same time, again, it's really not about "respect," but making yourself "different."
"Different" in how you approach her, view her, treat her and engage her, at least professionally or socially.
If I'm in a social environment, sure, I'm staring at her -- but head-to-toe, looking for that hourglass -- and women do notice that (especially when she's a "lesser appreciated beauty").
I'm a selfish, male pig, I notice a hourglass figure first, not eyes, hair or anything else, I'm forward on that and you will never hear me say otherwise, as I'd only be lying to myself.
But I reserve that for social settings or, when prompted in conversation, by a woman.
I love it when a woman prompts it, because I get to unleash that lust, even if it's channeled into "lesser used prose."
When she does, I will fully look her up and down, head to toe, and do it blantantly, often with, "well since you asked."
I will analyze her legs, thighs, mid-section, chest as much as bust, how her shoulders and overall presentation match.
And from that point forward, whenever she wears a dress or other attire that sports her curves, I'll be forward in saying something like, "now today's attire definitely highlights your enchanting female presence and form, head to toe."
If she's sporting cleavage, sometimes it pays not to notice, especially if she wants you to.
Not true. Many women flaunt it because they want to be noticed.
At the same time, some men notice when women are focused on work or something else, and don't want the distraction.
So, it can't hurt to always keep it "eye level" and treat her like a lady.
If she wants more, then she will eventually prompt it, especially if you don't notice.
But make no mistake, many women wear V-cuts not merely because of style.
