Would you date a women who has a kid?
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If I was that bothered about what values and morals my kid was learning - I would make it a priority to still be his Father.
Not be off elsewhere.
Yes, I know that sometimes, women take the child and end the relationship - but you still have visitation rights and the biological relationship with the child.
Sorry D-man, but I still don't see what "moral" and "ethical" issues are involved here. My question remains unanswered.
To wit: What is "morally" wrong in raising another man's child?
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I'm sure its been covered, but I wasnt on here then.
The only issue would be the potential complications and problems if things got serious between you and the lady. Esp if the child is a boy, cos after a certain age simple male ego kicks in,and not being the father would surely cause resentment.
Maybe less hassle down the line if the child is a daughter-she could probably see things more from the mother's POV of wanting a stable relationship irrespective of picking poorly the first time.
Opinions?
My wife has a son from her first marriage, and when I met her, the son was 8 years old. The other male influences in his life (Save for my wife's father) were hardly good, as most of them are either alcoholics, out of work, or out of work alcoholics.
He's now 14, and we just went to his school conferences the other day- straight A student, favorite of the teachers, plenty of friends, good head on his shoulders. So no, his ego hasn't kicked in and created problems.
So yeah, I guess I'd date a woman who has a kid. :rofl:
H
In my opinion I see no problem with it at all. Hypothetically if I were single and I was interested in dating a woman, I would date her, kids or not. If the relationship got to a serious point, by then I (we) would have thought about the children and the impact of the relationship. The hardest part for me would be the biological father and whether or not he had any issues.
I guess I look up to my Dad in this case. My Mom was divorced when we (three of us kids) were very young, she met my Dad, dated and got married, been happy for 45 years now, raising us kids as his own. Of course my biological father was not in the scenerio however.
I guess I look up to my Dad in this case. My Mom was divorced when we (three of us kids) were very young, she met my Dad, dated and got married, been happy for 45 years now, raising us kids as his own. Of course my biological father was not in the scenerio however.
angelfire1972
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of course
This is an interesting question - mostly just because I'm curious how FreeOnes folks respond.
It should've been a poll, though, to get an idea of the percentages of answers w/o having to read through everyone's answers (although some of them are pretty interesting)...
It should've been a poll, though, to get an idea of the percentages of answers w/o having to read through everyone's answers (although some of them are pretty interesting)...
I do not have a child but I would not date a man who I did not think would not date a girl who had a child.
I think a healthy man would find pregnant girls or mum's especially attractive and would at the same time feel especially protective towards them.
Mel
I think a healthy man would find pregnant girls or mum's especially attractive and would at the same time feel especially protective towards them.
Mel
I would feel extremely uncomfortable raising any other man's children. Like McRocket said I don't feel it's right, at least not for the most part. I would even feel uncomfortable disciplining them. Just like I don't tell the next-door neighbors how to raise their children. On the same token by the "golden rule" I would never want somebody else doing that to me if the situations were reversed.
Anybody that thinks visiting every so often as being anywhere close to the same as living with the person and being totally involved with almost every aspect of their lives is fooling themselves. That makes it so either the person has to have much more influence in the day-to-day lives of the children than their actual father, or he has to constantly be an outsider in the whole mess of things with the people he lives with. I don't want to be the person that influences somebody else’s children’s outlook on life in a way even one of their parents doesn’t like. I also don't want to be "the other guy" in the household. I don't want anybody else besides me and the child’s' mother to ever be the ones that become the formative influence of my child’s' moral outlook or their world view on life, not their grandparents, not their teachers, not their neighbors, not the guy that lives with them after I'm not allowed to for some reason.
As far as the ethical/moral questions are concern you yourself answered the biggest aspect of it already.
Notice you said "other man's" and not your child. They aren't yours. In that respect it seems pretty simple,…they aren't yours.
In some cases, I will admit, it might work out better for the child if the parent that is gone is a complete scumbag. Then again even something like that shouldn't necessarily be my call to make either. I see people teach their kids things I don't agree with all the time. I still think it's their right to raise them how they wish.
:glugglug: nice one, h, good to see a happy outcome for you & your family
i've seen from folks i know it can work, but also it being a bit of a nightmare
i guess never say never,
but, at the moment, i'll stick by my original "nope"
i wouldn't want to date a woman with a kid. i once did. and i dont fell like raseing sombody elses child
When I was 22, I was trying out different dating websites.
On one, the only response I received was from a 32 year old woman with a 12 year old son.
I was afraid I would have more in common with the kid than the woman!
On one, the only response I received was from a 32 year old woman with a 12 year old son.
I was afraid I would have more in common with the kid than the woman!
very much agreed
It has double edge side. Thing is that you can have great fun with a nice hot mom but other thing is taht you fell too deep in love and that one day her husband learns it, you wil have it rough and perhaps according to the person be hurt very badly. Jaleous and possessive husbands can be unpredictable. I am wondering myself when the milf hunter fucks some hot milfs that he doesn't get beaten or injuried by their husbands. I think having a relation with a milf in a very discrete way can be a good thing. However taht kind of relationship is for mature and grow up people not for childish or not forward thinking people.
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I just found this thread, and think it's an important one, especially to modern times. I can definitely say with no doubt in my mind, I would definitely date a woman with children. If you find someone you love, then it shouldn't matter whether they have children already or not.
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