Why the fuck would you ever get married?

[JayJohn85]

I dont understand why anyone would ever get married.I dont know a single person that is happy with their marriage and my one buddy that acts like he is cheats on his wife all the time.Divorce,child support,drama and bullshit is all that seems to come with tying the knot.So,why do it?

Praticality and companionship.

All of the above mostly occurs due to break down of communication I know its cliche but thats fact. I am single so I admit I aint speaking from experience but common sense tells me that if you and the missus talk about crap like even admit things like you feel like straying or some shite you can then both address the problem. Like spicing up your sex life. Of course this wouldnt apply to every situation but I still feel the ridiculous global divorce rates are due to communication break down and ignoring of problems until the shit has hit the fan (you or her sleeping with someone else etc) instead of nipping it in the butt before that.

 

[shayd]

I heard the divorce rate in America is 67%. Most people still think it's only 50%. Either way, that's pretty steep and Americans should consider that when getting married.

That statistic reveals more about the people getting divorced than marriage itself. The reason that number is so high is because people don't realize what marriage is. Honestly, I feel that the correlation between marriage and divorce is quite useless, as it's akin to saying, "Well, car accidents happen, so it must be because of the cars", which obviously isn't the case. In both cases, it's the people involved that are to blame.

Nowadays, people are willing to go get a divorce simply because they don't agree on everything. People don't seem to realize that married couples will disagree on things, and moreover that all humans will disagree, it's our nature. They'd rather just divorce and find someone who they'd agree on everything with, and that's just not realistic. The disagreements are, for me, where you learn just how much you care about the other person.

Marriage to me is a simple form of personal enrichment. I find that my wife enriches my life in ways I'd never even thought of before. That is why I got married, and that's why I'm proud to say it to this day.

 

[Neutron66]

I dated a girl a few years ago I wanted to marry. She was perfect. Both in body and personality. Alas...I let her go. And I've regretted it ever since.

So I'm into the idea of getting married but I seriously doubt I'll ever find another girl that inspires me to get married the way that girl did.

 

[Jagger69]

I heard the divorce rate in America is 67%. Most people still think it's only 50%. Either way, that's pretty steep and Americans should consider that when getting married.

According to the U.S. Census (last taken 2004), those numbers are nowhere close to being correct:

http://www.census.gov/population/www/socdemo/marr-div/2004detailed_tables.html

Actual figures are about 22% unless divorce has skyrocketed in the past 5 years. There are no data that I could find to indicate that this is the case.

 

[pussy+dickdenice]

Thank you Jagger, for providing facts and figures.

The more I read the posts, the more I feel, it's not why, but actually how. How the marriage should work? And If it doesn't work why should I take the pain of break-up?
It's a very pertinent question and needs answers. In my opinion it stands on "AAAC".
A = Accommodation. Accommodate the need of your partner's need. He/She is a separate person having separate needs and dreams. Accommodate those.

AA = Adjust/Acknowledge. Adjust to the partner's needs to the best of your ability. Acknowledge, that, apart from you and your family, your partner has a different circle of important persons. Include them in your life.

C = Commitment. Commitment to your partner and the society.

And most of all Communicate with each other.

Please consider the above as my opinion. If you think happily married means we don't throw things (verbal or otherwise), you are mistaken.

Some one said they don't need to marry to be happy and be together. I would request him to consider, didn't he follow all the above, even when they were not married? Marriage is not an event in your life, it's a way of life, happier, healthier life. The ceremony does not mean any thing if you don't believe in all the above.

 

[mrtrebus]

Because you love someone & want to spend the rest of your lives together I guess? :dunno:

 

[mrtrebus]

I heard the divorce rate in America is 67%. Most people still think it's only 50%. Either way, that's pretty steep and Americans should consider that when getting married.

No they shouldn't. If you are thinking of getting married to someone why would you go, "hang on a minute, the divorce rate is 67%. Lets not get married!"

 

[feller469]

We live in a fast-paced society and most of the children and young adults today see only til the end of the week. Look at how many try to change their phone plan after signing a two-year contract. the idea of commitment lasts until the wind changes directions. You have to pass a test to drive a car, but not to commit to a marriage or even having kids. Go back thirty years and look at how few options people had for everything. Now, with so many options and choices for everything, commitment doesn't mean what it once did.

I can see why some people get married, and more power to them. I just haven't found the right woman yet. Then again, i don't know if I ever will. For now i am 0-1 in the marriage department. i'm not saying "no" to doing it again, but I will be much more diligent in making sure she is worth it.

 

[Boothbabe]

The whole soul mate thing?I mean that sounds nice,but I think its more likely that wont happen.

It happened to me. I found my soulmate in my girlfriend. She completes me.

 

[CunningStunts]

My personal opinion is that unless it is a really, really special connection, you SHOULDN'T get married! I see way too many people marry too soon or for the wrong reasons, and I just don't understand why you would do that to yourself... life is far too short to be miserable!

 

[mrtrebus]

My personal opinion is that unless it is a really, really special connection, you SHOULDN'T get married! I see way too many people marry too soon or for the wrong reasons, and I just don't understand why you would do that to yourself... life is far too short to be miserable!

You've never been in love. Common sense goes out the window!!

 

[CunningStunts]

You've never been in love. Common sense goes out the window!!

I have been in love, but I didn't get married right away! :thumbsup:

 

[mrtrebus]

I have been in love, but I didn't get married right away! :thumbsup:

Well you jolly well should have if you wanted to make an honest woman of her sir!! You cad! Ruining a woman's reputation like that!!
:nono:

 

[ezteban]

:dunno:

 

[Hot Mega]

Why is because human beings need family and a marriage structure is the most practical foundation for it. Secondly because when a man shares a love with some woman based on trust, honor, respect and intense affection. And once you determine some woman is the one you want to share everything to be shared in your life with. Once you're reasonably convinced she's demonstrated the same belief in you, the woman should be asked for her hand in marriage out of respect and honor for her (in a perfect world).

One caveat, selfish, self absorbed people need not apply. Marriage being the beautiful institution that it is, is only as good as the ingredients of each individual case.

In my mind, the necessary constituents for a healthy marriage relationship are like the legs of four-legged chair. Being that the relationship for it to be a successful one must be based on trust, honor, respect and affection. The analogy is that if you don't have or remove one of those "legs", the relationship like the chair becomes more difficult to balance and will occasionally tip over...the more "legs" that are removed or not present the more difficult if not impossible for the chair or marriage to stay upright.:2 cents:

 

[D-rock]

My personal opinion is that unless it is a really, really special connection, you SHOULDN'T get married! I see way too many people marry too soon or for the wrong reasons, and I just don't understand why you would do that to yourself... life is far too short to be miserable!

I'd say that in my opinion love is a really really special connection almost by definition.

 

[zell]

No they shouldn't. If you are thinking of getting married to someone why would you go, "hang on a minute, the divorce rate is 67%. Lets not get married!"

I think the point is more like,"67% of couples divorce.Let's try our hardest to not contribute to those statistics,and make sure that we know what we are getting into."

 

[MetalGearSolid]

I would never get married, or have children, and I don't even have any desire to have sex. I'm a loner, and I'm fine with that, no reason to complicate things.

 

[mrtrebus]

I think the point is more like,"67% of couples divorce.Let's try our hardest to not contribute to those statistics,and make sure that we know what we are getting into."

But divorce is not always a bad thing, sometimes, despite the best efforts of all involved marriages break down. Or women leave because of domestic violence etc. There seems to be an inherently negative attitude towards divorce, an overly simplistic attitude.

 

[CunningStunts]

I'd say that in my opinion love is a really really special connection almost by definition.

Very true sir, but I think the point is that people get married to others they are infatuated with after a short time, then find out it aint really love! Of course, there are some people who do love each other, but shit happens and they grow apart. I feel the latter is much more rare than the former, and the divorce rate reflect that something is definitely not working out there.