So my girlfriend is about to sign to LAX:thoughts?

[Harley Spencer]

I say good luck to you both, and I'm sure she'll do fine. I don't have any experience with LAX, nor have I ever heard of them, but their website looks great.

Don't listen to all these guys, only you can know how your relationship with her will work out. Can't base judgments on the stereotypes of adult models/porn starlettes. I'm an adult model, I've done hardcore, and am currently in a really wonderful relationship with my boyfriend, nothing high maintenance about me. Getting into the adult business, or any part of the modeling business, doesn't automatically mean that said girl is going to forget about who she is, what her goals are, and what she wants out of life, including her relationships.

I say that if it's what she wants to do, go for it. If it turns out that she doesn't like it, she can always move on to something else.

 

[Aaliyah Love]

I think the best advice I could give you isn't about her agency, but about YOU.. and controlling the jealousy and insecurity which WILL surface once she starts shooting. Even if it's "just solo and g/g"
Every guy thinks it's great to have a pornstar girlfriend, until they get one.
Be cool, be respectful, or you will be a thing of the past.

 

[JBham]

I think you should say goodbye to both your self confidence AND your girlie....

Tell her to get in the kitchen and work on her sandwich swag instead, ya heard me?

Hey this is the girlfriend here, why don't you hit the shower, wash your fake tan off and scrub that stank pussy and try to get that awful stench off that obviously causing you mental problems.

 

[DOA82]

Hey this is the girlfriend here, why don't you hit the shower, wash your fake tan off and scrub that stank pussy and try to get that awful stench off that obviously causing you mental problems.

Amazing input, truly.

 

[Sicario]

... and here I thought that LAX was about Los Angeles International Airport.

 

[Jack Davenport]

Hey this is the girlfriend here, why don't you hit the shower, wash your fake tan off and scrub that stank pussy and try to get that awful stench off that obviously causing you mental problems.

Everybody that has been here a while knows that alex gets a real Jersey Shore tan.

At least we know who wears the pants in the relationship.

JB you're toast.

 

[288gto]

Ha, christ, what should I expect from a bunch of dudes posting on a porn forum. She isn't on LAX site yet, we just sent the contract and photos off yesterday, but she is going by the name Lucy Jay. I'm not in the least worried about her, she isn't doing hardcore unless it's with me so calm down everyone.

she really loves you

 

[xfire]

JB you're toast.

I had to dump a chick that was trying to break into the music business because I recognized that for her to get ahead she had to be open to suggestions I might be opposed and take offense to. She never got a big break, I'm sure it wasn't for lack of trying, but I kept my dignity. If JB doesn't mind holding her purse, more power to him, though I suspect sooner or later shit won't end well.

 

[Maggie Green]

I say good luck to you both, and I'm sure she'll do fine. I don't have any experience with LAX, nor have I ever heard of them, but their website looks great.

Don't listen to all these guys, only you can know how your relationship with her will work out. Can't base judgments on the stereotypes of adult models/porn starlettes. I'm an adult model, I've done hardcore, and am currently in a really wonderful relationship with my boyfriend, nothing high maintenance about me. Getting into the adult business, or any part of the modeling business, doesn't automatically mean that said girl is going to forget about who she is, what her goals are, and what she wants out of life, including her relationships.

I say that if it's what she wants to do, go for it. If it turns out that she doesn't like it, she can always move on to something else.

Exactly! And it's very important to keep very good communication going between you two.

 

[Aaliyah Love]

and KEEP YOUR OWN JOB. Even if she makes more in a day than you do in a month. Driving her around, helping her pack for shoots, answering her emails for her, etc doesn't make you "part of the team" it makes you a suitcase pimp, and a chump. Keep your dignity, keep your life separate from hers, TRUST ME! She can handle her bookings on her own. She can get to and from set by herself, just like the rest of us. Remain a 2 income household!

 

[Harley Spencer]

and KEEP YOUR OWN JOB. Even if she makes more in a day than you do in a month. Driving her around, helping her pack for shoots, answering her emails for her, etc doesn't make you "part of the team" it makes you a suitcase pimp, and a chump. Keep your dignity, keep your life separate from hers, TRUST ME! She can handle her bookings on her own. She can get to and from set by herself, just like the rest of us. Remain a 2 income household!

Speaking of 2 income households, I completely agree with that. I will never be the type of person who gets married and combines our bank accounts, sharing our income. That concept is so weird to me. It's not fair for one partner to make more money and the other to have free access to that, using it at their disposal as they please.

 

[Aaliyah Love]

Speaking of 2 income households, I completely agree with that. I will never be the type of person who gets married and combines our bank accounts, sharing our income. That concept is so weird to me. It's not fair for one partner to make more money and the other to have free access to that, using it at their disposal as they please.

Everything that can be said about a man who lets his girl take care of him and the bills aside, it will also cause her to resent you. (as it should, IMO) You will pose as the guy who is "helping her and her career" and she will appreciate the effort and the help, in the beginning.. then she will realize she's out busting her ass every day while this guy gets a free ride.. pfft.
I have seen it happen SO MANY TIMES..

And I'm not saying the poster is like this.. I hope he isn't! I'm just letting you know what not to do

 

[lurkingdirk]

Speaking of 2 income households, I completely agree with that. I will never be the type of person who gets married and combines our bank accounts, sharing our income. That concept is so weird to me. It's not fair for one partner to make more money and the other to have free access to that, using it at their disposal as they please.

Everything that can be said about a man who lets his girl take care of him and the bills aside, it will also cause her to resent you. (as it should, IMO) You will pose as the guy who is "helping her and her career" and she will appreciate the effort and the help, in the beginning.. then she will realize she's out busting her ass every day while this guy gets a free ride.. pfft.
I have seen it happen SO MANY TIMES..

And I'm not saying the poster is like this.. I hope he isn't! I'm just letting you know what not to do

I'm married, we have one bank account. We both make money, I make quite a bit more than she does. We don't fight about money. We pay the bills from the account. We buy the groceries from the account. We fix the house from the account. If one of us needs something, we buy it from the account. We work together to make life comfortable, and we aren't trying to spend our percentage. If we need something, we get it. If we earn something, it goes in the account. I have no worries about my wife having complete access to the money I've earned. If she needs something, she'll get it, and I'm going to trust her to use good judgement in spending money, just as I know she's trusting me to do the same.

To me separate accounts creates possibilities of financial secrecy between partners, and that's a dangerous thing in my opinion. 100% openness includes 100% disclosure about finances, and 100% trust with said finances. We review our finances twice monthly together. It works well for us.

 

[Harley Spencer]

I'm married, we have one bank account. We both make money, I make quite a bit more than she does. We don't fight about money. We pay the bills from the account. We buy the groceries from the account. We fix the house from the account. If one of us needs something, we buy it from the account. We work together to make life comfortable, and we aren't trying to spend our percentage. If we need something, we get it. If we earn something, it goes in the account. I have no worries about my wife having complete access to the money I've earned. If she needs something, she'll get it, and I'm going to trust her to use good judgement in spending money, just as I know she's trusting me to do the same.

To me separate accounts creates possibilities of financial secrecy between partners, and that's a dangerous thing in my opinion. 100% openness includes 100% disclosure about finances, and 100% trust with said finances. We review our finances twice monthly together. It works well for us.

See but I've always been open about how much/little money I make with my partners. I see no need to set time aside to have discussions together about it, as it just comes naturally to me to randomly make comments about money. Like if I have a shoot and it's paid, I'll look over at my boyfriend and say, "I have this shoot on the 29th with a photographer in Brooklyn, it's going to be 4-5 hours for $300." I've never viewed money as a.... I dunno, as a topic that needs to be discussed regularly, because I talk about it all the time on my own.
If I need something that I don't have enough money for, he'll help me if needed, and I reciprocate. No big discussion necessary. Just, "God damn it, my dentist appointments are going to be a total of nearly $2,000 after everything is said and done." And he might say, "Ok well let me know if you need any help with the payments." That's all. Simple.

I guess shared accounts work for some couples and others they don't. Some couples might need it, some may be indifferent to it, some find it necessary, or others might not care. Works different for everyone. In my case, I don't see it necessary to have joint accounts, other than the one paypal account we recently created to help with my business for customers to send money to it, and from there I transfer the payments that are sent to me to my personal paypal, and then to my bank account. Even with that, we aren't sharing the expenses, we're just using it for business purposes.

 

[lurkingdirk]

See but I've always been open about how much/little money I make with my partners. I see no need to set time aside to have discussions together about it, as it just comes naturally to me to randomly make comments about money. Like if I have a shoot and it's paid, I'll look over at my boyfriend and say, "I have this shoot on the 29th with a photographer in Brooklyn, it's going to be 4-5 hours for $300." I've never viewed money as a.... I dunno, as a topic that needs to be discussed regularly, because I talk about it all the time on my own.
If I need something that I don't have enough money for, he'll help me if needed, and I reciprocate. No big discussion necessary. Just, "God damn it, my dentist appointments are going to be a total of nearly $2,000 after everything is said and done." And he might say, "Ok well let me know if you need any help with the payments." That's all. Simple.

I guess shared accounts work for some couples and others they don't. Some couples might need it, some may be indifferent to it, some find it necessary, or others might not care. Works different for everyone. In my case, I don't see it necessary to have joint accounts, other than the one paypal account we recently created to help with my business for customers to send money to it, and from there I transfer the payments that are sent to me to my personal paypal, and then to my bank account. Even with that, we aren't sharing the expenses, we're just using it for business purposes.

Surely different couples will do it differently. When you start talking about college funds for a whack of kids, retirement for which you're planning together, and the like, it becomes a necessary topic of conversation. It isn't like we use it as foreplay (Oh, God, your 401K is so big...fuck me with it! [There may be a niche market for that, actually]), but it's just part of our life together. It's about planing ahead for us and for the kids.

However, I also know couples that do finance separately. Things like rent/mortgage and utilities get split, and they manage their own finances. Whatever floats your boat.

 

[Harley Spencer]

Surely different couples will do it differently. When you start talking about college funds for a whack of kids, retirement for which you're planning together, and the like, it becomes a necessary topic of conversation. It isn't like we use it as foreplay (Oh, God, your 401K is so big...fuck me with it! [There may be a niche market for that, actually]), but it's just part of our life together. It's about planing ahead for us and for the kids.

However, I also know couples that do finance separately. Things like rent/mortgage and utilities get split, and they manage their own finances. Whatever floats your boat.

See I dunno about creating a college fund for my kid(s). My parents never did that for me or any of my siblings, I grew up managing my own money, buying my own things with money I earned from my own jobs. If I wanted to go to college, I'd have to pay for it myself. Most kids have mummies and daddies who pay for their every desire, going through college jobless, partying all the time, their parents paying their rent, groceries and tuition. Must be nice. I can't see myself doing that. I grew up independent, I'm still very independent, and I'll be damned if I don't raise my kids the same way. I had nothing handed to me in my life, I've worked for everything I have, and in my opinion, that's the best way to do it. Earn what you have, not be a spoiled mummy and daddy child who never has to lift a finger, just gliding through life, not facing the real world until after college.

But that's just me.

 

[lurkingdirk]

See I dunno about creating a college fund for my kid(s). My parents never did that for me or any of my siblings, I grew up managing my own money, buying my own things with money I earned from my own jobs. If I wanted to go to college, I'd have to pay for it myself. Most kids have mummies and daddies who pay for their every desire, going through college jobless, partying all the time, their parents paying their rent, groceries and tuition. Must be nice. I can't see myself doing that. I grew up independent, I'm still very independent, and I'll be damned if I don't raise my kids the same way. I had nothing handed to me in my life, I've worked for everything I have, and in my opinion, that's the best way to do it. Earn what you have, not be a spoiled mummy and daddy child who never has to lift a finger, just gliding through life, not facing the real world until after college.

But that's just me.

I grew up managing my own money, too. My parents were not able to help with college, but we are able to help. My kids will have summer jobs, they'll work, they'll manage money, but as I'm able to pay college for them, I'm going to do that. I certainly won't enable them to be the college party kids. That shit won't happen. My kids will know the value of a day's work, and the value of a dollar. They turn into the shite college party kids who feel that huge sense of entitlement, they'll be working at Burger King and paying rent at whatever apartment they can afford until they figure it out.

 

[Harley Spencer]

I grew up managing my own money, too. My parents were not able to help with college, but we are able to help. My kids will have summer jobs, they'll work, they'll manage money, but as I'm able to pay college for them, I'm going to do that. I certainly won't enable them to be the college party kids. That shit won't happen. My kids will know the value of a day's work, and the value of a dollar. They turn into the shite college party kids who feel that huge sense of entitlement, they'll be working at Burger King and paying rent at whatever apartment they can afford until they figure it out.

Fair enough.

 

[Aaliyah Love]

I'm married, we have one bank account. We both make money, I make quite a bit more than she does. We don't fight about money. We pay the bills from the account. We buy the groceries from the account. We fix the house from the account. If one of us needs something, we buy it from the account. We work together to make life comfortable, and we aren't trying to spend our percentage. If we need something, we get it. If we earn something, it goes in the account. I have no worries about my wife having complete access to the money I've earned. If she needs something, she'll get it, and I'm going to trust her to use good judgement in spending money, just as I know she's trusting me to do the same.

To me separate accounts creates possibilities of financial secrecy between partners, and that's a dangerous thing in my opinion. 100% openness includes 100% disclosure about finances, and 100% trust with said finances. We review our finances twice monthly together. It works well for us.

I don't even see the correlation tho.. there's a big diff between a married couple who are both working, having a joint bank account than a young couple "in love" where 1 person is making 100% of the income..off of porn.

 

[Ace Boobtoucher]

Still waiting to see some tits. acing: