Re: the Official Nikki Nova thread
A wise man once told me that sometimes less is more.
And I would like to second the Happy Father's Day wishes as well.
And Jon I look at it this way, while most guys can become fathers, not all are cut out to be Dads.
You're absolutely right on target there who??? Though my dad has been dead now for 18 years, I still can not muster any feelings for him either way. When I was a doe eyed young boy, I guess I loved him. I grew to have no feelings about him whatsoever. I can't say I hated him...because I never really felt that way...but, like I said, at the same time, as I grew more aware of things, the love I had went away & by the time he died, I had nothing but apathy for him.
Heck I didn't even learn that he died until I filed for child support again because I had enrolled in college. I got a letter from Domestic Relations stating that the hearing had been cancelled because the Petitioner (me) was deceased. I called and found out that that was a typo, and in fact the defendant (or whatever they are called in support cases) was dead. And I guess that must have been about 4-5 months after the fact. What can I say, the man had great timing.
But seriously, In college, in my early 20s, I would talk to girls about the fact that my dad was dead, and they would all act like it was really sad and try to comfort me...funny thing is that, like I said, I had nothing but apathy for the man and I couldn't even pretend to be devastated, distraught, or even really sad for that matter...not even as a play for more sympathy from girls who felt it was really sad. Honestly, I've always had a hard time being fake...and my feelings for my dad are no exception.
Like I said, I could say I hate him...but I don't. I just don't have any feelings for him at all. The fact that he has been dead for 18 years is just another thing to make me feel old...little more. Am I glad he's dead...of course not. Am I sad? I just can't muster that emotion for him. He had a good job with the State...and pissed it away because of his drinking...even though they offered to let him do rehab on the weekends...he refused. I guess I can be thankful that I was not exposed to his boozing anyway & he was an inspiration to me never to start.
Bottom line, my dad basically never did anything for me or my brother, and didn't give anything that he wasn't forced to do. I remember my mom telling me when she first filed for support in the 70s & my dad told her if she showed up for the hearing that "there would be trouble"! She asked her attorney what she should do. He told her "get a gun"! She did! Of course my dad was a pussy and was all talk...but still!
Like I said, my dad wasn't the worst because I wasn't around him enough for him to be. But, if you are a father and a good one at that, or you have a father who is a good one, you should be proud and/or grateful!
Cheers again to those fathers who are also real dads and not merely "donors"!
