It is becoming an outdated tradition and more so than marriage itself a monogamous marriage/relationship is becoming harder and harder to maintain. I think humans as a whole are moving away from monogamy to more open relationships since it makes no sense to deny attraction or acting on it when it has nothing to do with emotions or love. :2 cents:
Marriage: Is It Obsolete?
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[QUOTE=NikkiValentine; well im a guy...and your wired fine...problem is..after a few realationships..you get lessons from most of those..some bad some good..and the thing that i see the most..keep a eye on the people your around everyday and watch...some act much differnt when wife or husband is not around......after seeing married people divorce and go through a bunch of shit (you see more and more everyday) its sooooo hard to believe in or trust anyone (you cant help but hear that voice whisper remember last time) but as you said..you gotta believe yours is still out there..our the game would be over
PirateKing
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Not to women.
Jagger69
Three lullabies in an ancient tongue
It isn't obsolete for me. I love being married to my wonderful wife....she's terrific. It's been 33 years and we're still going strong. I also wouldn't have wanted to give my kids anything less than the strong foundation that comes from the traditional nuclear family. Call me old-fashioned if you desire....I couldn't care less.
Petra
Cult Mother and Simpering Cunt
I think 'having' to be married in order to live with someone is either a religious idology or cultural (such as it being a 'must' in a good part of America).
I'll admit, while hubby and I wanted to get married, mostly so I could get rid of my maiden name (which I found out I can't totally get rid of grrrrrrr), you don't really need to. A registered partnership gives you all the protections marriage does in the event of a breakup or death and is a fuck of a lot easier to dissolve than a divorce.
The only difference is when it comes to kids, but there's additional paperwork that you can do to cover that base.
My SIL probably will die unmarried.
Though I do agree that weddings these days are dog and pony shows where people spend waaay too much money to impress people and end up spending a long time paying it off. I'll admit we spent a tad over what we planned but we had the money. And the 1928 Rolls Royce we rented to arrive in, and the vintage double decker bus we hired to transport our guests, was just fucking awesome.
And a dutch wedding is a lot less faff then an American wedding tends to be...hardest part was finding our rings!
I'll admit, while hubby and I wanted to get married, mostly so I could get rid of my maiden name (which I found out I can't totally get rid of grrrrrrr), you don't really need to. A registered partnership gives you all the protections marriage does in the event of a breakup or death and is a fuck of a lot easier to dissolve than a divorce.
The only difference is when it comes to kids, but there's additional paperwork that you can do to cover that base.
My SIL probably will die unmarried.
Though I do agree that weddings these days are dog and pony shows where people spend waaay too much money to impress people and end up spending a long time paying it off. I'll admit we spent a tad over what we planned but we had the money. And the 1928 Rolls Royce we rented to arrive in, and the vintage double decker bus we hired to transport our guests, was just fucking awesome.
And a dutch wedding is a lot less faff then an American wedding tends to be...hardest part was finding our rings!
33 years is the key here bro...sounds like you got what everyone is reaching for these days but its just..not there anymore..a wife and children is everymans dream...nowdays it just looks so far away..trust me bro..you been wife shopping lately...(no offence to women) ragly ass men is just as bad..been a long time since i seen one i wanted to take home
Don't know... it works for some people, but for a lot, it's an outdated idea... I mean, forever is a long fuckin time.
I'm saving myself for Miss Hybrid now.:yesyes:I love being married. I hated being single. Porn and masterbation give me all the variety I need. My wife and I are in a contest to see which one of us can make the other feel most like the most important person in the world. We have great sex. It will never replace the rush of first-time sex with a girl, but that is nothing with the depth of having sex with someone with whom love is deep and mutual.
No need to apologize. The post was very informative and interesting to read.
I'm a 24 year old guy and I have never found the "right" woman yet. The thing is... it's hard. Marriage is harder than you think, not because I can't commit, but because it's a 50/50 responsibility. Let's say I can do my 50%, then is it guaranteed that the woman I marry will fulfill her 50% responsibility. I have to sacrifice my freedom to be with her, I have to give up dating other women, and also do my part to provide for us. Can she do the same? The thing is.... you don't really know for sure until AFTER you're married. Then the true color starts showing and once you find out who you really married and it's not what you expected, then you're screwed because you're already married.
I find marriage to be A LOT more of a commitment and sacrifice than being a Catholic priest. With a Catholic priest, you only have to worry about yourself. But with marriage, two people are involved and you both have to learn to live with each other and deal with all hardships that come your way. You BOTH have to work together and do your part. This is why I don't understand why so many people rush into marriage. I know 3 of my old high school classmates that got married a few years ago in their early 20s. Why the rush?? You are entering a serious commitment here. Wouldn't it be better to take your time? This is no different than walking into a store and buying a big, expensive TV just because it looks nice at the store. When making such a big investment, you should take your time and learn about what you're buying. The same rule applies to marriage. That's why I don't understand people's rush. I can understand people in their 50s and 60s in a rush because they're getting older and can use company, but someone in their early 20s shouldn't rush into something serious like marriage. You are going to be with this person until death. You need take some time to get to know the person.
I'm sure marriage can be this wonderful fairytale provided that you marry the right person. But the thing is.... how can you ever be so sure that you're marrying Mr./Mrs. Right?? There really isn't a sure fire way of knowing beforehand. That's the thing. It's all luck and chance. I know a few people personally who were beautiful couples when they were dating, but then when they got married, things turned ugly and they ended up divorced. Some others, on the other hand, are still happily married (or so they claim).
PirateKing
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What's a well balanced and successful man like you doing on this forum Jagger?
And yes, that was a come on.
emceeemcee
Banned
as someone who likes new things, that's the end of the argument as far as I'm concerned!
I was wondering the same thing. But then again, maybe him and his wife regularly visit the site together in order to help spice up their sex life. Nothing like finding new things to experiment.
