Marriage: Is It Obsolete?

[JacknCoke]

Not very many people have a realistic outlook on what marriage really is. It's not something fun to do when your bored & it's also not going to be perfect bliss and solve all your relationship issues either.

I know quite a few people who should read everything you wrote but especially this little excerpt.

I agree with what looks like the majority in here, I don't think marriage is obsolete, it just seems to be taken much less serious now a days?

 

[Atar554]

Marriage used to be so pure.

 

[Connor Macleod]

its a fluke it they think its a fluke. you know why they think its a fluke? the media and the celebrities.

they make it look like a fucking joke. every fucking sitcom makes fun of marriage. my mean ugly wife this, my stupid husband this, my asshole ex this, marriage is like *joke*. fuck them.

but, for gods sake, dont be stupid! know who you're marrying. do it for the RIGHT reasons.

people just dont think.

I once read an interview that Sandra Bullock did where she said no marriage should last more than 7 years. Most celebrities, her especially, are just full of shit. My opinion is, if you think it's not gonna last, don't do it.

 

[Moonchild22]

Married people piss me off. They always think they're better and more 'civilized' or more adult than single people. I think, at least deep down, that's why they get married. They think it makes them better and more 'legitimate' to mankind. I take some joy whenever I hear a marriage torn apart - and face it, married people take some joy from it as well, hearing another couple 'not make it'. The 'haha I win' attitude.
Marriage was invented by the church. I guess that explains why I take similar joy out of hearing about one burned to the ground.

 

[Atar554]

Married people piss me off. They always think they're better and more 'civilized' or more adult than single people. I think, at least deep down, that's why they get married. They think it makes them better and more 'legitimate' to mankind. I take some joy whenever I hear a marriage torn apart - and face it, married people take some joy from it as well, hearing another couple 'not make it'. The 'haha I win' attitude.
Marriage was invented by the church. I guess that explains why I take similar joy out of hearing about one burned to the ground.

I haven't read that much venom in a post in a while.

Perhaps it's not the Church's fault for failed marriages? But the Western idea of "Amore" or love at first sight rather than arranged marriages.

There's been types of marriages though long before any churches.

 

[PirateKing]

*stabs with fork*

That all ya got?
*puts in headlock*

 

[meesterperfect]

I have so many theories about this that I can't put them in words at the moment.
I can articulate that different countries have different norms when it comes to marriage and family.

 

[squallumz]

That all ya got?
*puts in headlock*

*licks arm*

 

[Facetious]

I know that this is gonna piss some of you guys off, but the married guy has the better chance of landing that big job you applied for last week....
the less partying, more understanding, more responsible and better listener he is.

 

[meesterperfect]

I know that this is gonna piss some of you guys off, but the married guy has the better chance of landing that big job you applied for last week....
the less partying, more understanding, more responsible and better listener he is.

yeah probably. I have been discriminated against in the workplace for not being married.

I'd like to say that in The USA given the consequences of divorce and even just having children unmarried that the universities should have a course on the dangers of marriage for the male of the species.

When a guy gets married its like putting a gun to his head and going through life everyday with it rubbing against his scalp.

Once he says " I do" he puts himself in a position so vulnerable, and most men don't realize this because theyre blinded by love.

Here is a textbook example:
A guy I knew had a wife and 2 small children.
They had a nice house. He decided to start working 2 jobs, one day, one night from 6am until 9 pm not counting 2 hours of driving.
The plan was to make about as much as possible to start a small business.

So after a year or so they have the cash plus they get a bank loan in the wifes name, plus put his mothers house up as collateral.
As soon as the business opens she tells him, "I have a boyfriend who I've been fucking everyday in our bed while youre working and I want you out of the house now".
So she calls the cops, gets an instant restraining order because they give them out like candy on October 31st ( no judge will deny a restraining order from a woman, it only takes a phone call) and he's taken out in cuffs the same night with just the clothes on his back.

Now he has lost all rights including custody of his children or even the right to speak to them.
Next day she cleans out the bank accounts, now he has no money.

time for court. he has no money, no car, no clothes, no lawyer, no nothing.
The judge slams him.
Pay the mortgage, pay her, pay child support, pay insurance for all, even pay for daycare for the children so she can fuck her boyfriend in the afternoon.
The monetary judgement was based on the fact that he worked 2 jobs the year before and made around 100 grand before taxes.
Oh, and the business was dead and they eventually forclosed on his mothers house.
They, he and his mother, wound up living in a small apt paid for by her SS.
He was a good man who was kind and gentile and she used the system to ruin him.
between her and the family court system they ruined his life both emotionally and finacially.

He killed himself about a year later, his mother found him.

This could happen to any married man if the woman chooses to do it, it happens everyday in the good ol USA........so beware and choose your spouse very very carefully .

 

[mrtrebus]

Of course not!!

 

[tartanterrier]

Yes.It's a load of bollocks

 

[Alyssa Rose]

yeah probably. I have been discriminated against in the workplace for not being married.

I'd like to say that in The USA given the consequences of divorce and even just having children unmarried that the universities should have a course on the dangers of marriage for the male of the species.

When a guy gets married its like putting a gun to his head and going through life everyday with it rubbing against his scalp.

Once he says " I do" he puts himself in a position so vulnerable, and most men don't realize this because theyre blinded by love.

Here is a textbook example:
A guy I knew had a wife and 2 small children.
They had a nice house. He decided to start working 2 jobs, one day, one night from 6am until 9 pm not counting 2 hours of driving.
The plan was to make about as much as possible to start a small business.

So after a year or so they have the cash plus they get a bank loan in the wifes name, plus put his mothers house up as collateral.
As soon as the business opens she tells him, "I have a boyfriend who I've been fucking everyday in our bed while youre working and I want you out of the house now".
So she calls the cops, gets an instant restraining order because they give them out like candy on October 31st ( no judge will deny a restraining order from a woman, it only takes a phone call) and he's taken out in cuffs the same night with just the clothes on his back.

Now he has lost all rights including custody of his children or even the right to speak to them.
Next day she cleans out the bank accounts, now he has no money.

time for court. he has no money, no car, no clothes, no lawyer, no nothing.
The judge slams him.
Pay the mortgage, pay her, pay child support, pay insurance for all, even pay for daycare for the children so she can fuck her boyfriend in the afternoon.
The monetary judgement was based on the fact that he worked 2 jobs the year before and made around 100 grand before taxes.
Oh, and the business was dead and they eventually forclosed on his mothers house.
They, he and his mother, wound up living in a small apt paid for by her SS.
He was a good man who was kind and gentile and she used the system to ruin him.
between her and the family court system they ruined his life both emotionally and finacially.

He killed himself about a year later, his mother found him.

This could happen to any married man if the woman chooses to do it, it happens everyday in the good ol USA........so beware and choose your spouse very very carefully .

Okay, so that's a really shitty story but that's one case of marriage.. It doesn't mean that every marriage will turn out like that. I was the exact opposite of that wife, I worked full time, ran 2 girl scout troops & was the treasurer of the FRG (Family Readiness Group/its a military thing) and still managed to have dinner on the table for my husband every night, still woke up at 5 am to get his uniform ready so he could sleep an extra half hour.. Not to mention cooked Thanksgiving & Christmas dinner for him and 15 of his soldier friends who didn't have family in the area. I remained 100% faithful to him through out our whole relationship, Living in a military town its safe to say I was hit on quite a bit, even by his so called friends but time after time I would say the same thing, "I love my husband and I'm not interested in anyone else but him." I did everything I could to make him happy, yes, including morning wake up blow jobs :1orglaugh But it still wasn't enough to keep him faithful to me.. When there's only one person in the relationship that's trying, it's not going to work. In the end it comes down to, be careful who you marry because you don't want to become a statistic, but if by some chance you find the right person, it can be a really awesome & beautiful thing. I don't think I'll ever give up on hope that the right person is out there.. but then I'm a girl so maybe I'm just wired that way?

 

[PirateKing]

*licks arm*

You've been trying to eat me for years. I want a divorce.

 

[BlueBalls]

Marriage? Isn't that what the gays do?

 

[meesterperfect]

Okay, so that's a really shitty story but that's one case of marriage.. It doesn't mean that every marriage will turn out like that. I was the exact opposite of that wife, I worked full time, ran 2 girl scout troops & was the treasurer of the FRG (Family Readiness Group/its a military thing) and still managed to have dinner on the table for my husband every night, still woke up at 5 am to get his uniform ready so he could sleep an extra half hour.. Not to mention cooked Thanksgiving & Christmas dinner for him and 15 of his soldier friends who didn't have family in the area. I remained 100% faithful to him through out our whole relationship, Living in a military town its safe to say I was hit on quite a bit, even by his so called friends but time after time I would say the same thing, "I love my husband and I'm not interested in anyone else but him." I did everything I could to make him happy, yes, including morning wake up blow jobs :1orglaugh But it still wasn't enough to keep him faithful to me.. When there's only one person in the relationship that's trying, it's not going to work. In the end it comes down to, be careful who you marry because you don't want to become a statistic, but if by some chance you find the right person, it can be a really awesome & beautiful thing. I don't think I'll ever give up on hope that the right person is out there.. but then I'm a girl so maybe I'm just wired that way?

Of course thats just one example. And your post was great, very true.

My point was that what happened to my co-worker friend could happen to any married man.
Most women aren't so cruel, greedy and calculating as that guys wife was but almost any average married man is leaving himself vulnerable for something like that to happen.
btw it was a lawyer who advised her to play it like that every step of the way, for maximum leverage and profit.

 

[squallumz]

You've been trying to eat me for years. I want a divorce.

:bawling: fine. but im keeping the cats.

 

[freeryan]

If you wanna spend the rest of your life with someone you love, a piece of paper doesn't help the matter and let's be honest, the wedding is mainly a show off party leading into an excuse to fuck without any guilt (if you're religious ofcourse) and then years and years of forcing yourself to make it work because divorce can be pretty expensive. Now, I don't plan on getting married because I find it irrelevant but if it finally gives opressed people a more equal position in society, let them suffer with the "normal" couples.

 

[emceeemcee]

Man made prison. And a legal weapon.

 

[smoknn]

the problem is you're talking about celebrities.

fuck celebrities.

i dont know why fuck the media shoves them down our throats so much! i dont give 2 bloody rats asses wtf they're doing, who they're dating, and whos getting divorced. i have my own life, thank you very much.

well put... my very own words