I know I'll catch flak & there'll be a stream of BS, but...

[vodkazvictim]

The missus is driving me fucking nuts. I'm STILL angry right now, 2 days later. It's affecting my studies; I sit and try and concentrate and I just think the situation over and I'm SO FUCKING ANGRY.
I can't talk to anybody about it because that will affect how they talk to the missus and make them think bad of her, so I'm expressing my feelings here in the hope that I'll feel better for it.

A bit back, she flew off to Greece to book our wedding. We argued because I said I'm thinking of quitting job because they don't give me any break at all in 8 or 12 hours of solid work and don't pay me right (approx. 60% of hours).
She of course heard this as me wanting to quit because I don't get paid break and told me that she didn't get paid break and I shouldn't moan. Cue big argument. I think a major cause of the argument was that I was fucking furious with work and so when I phoned her I accidently just directed my fury onto her.

Argument was recovered from, she returned to her city in the UK and off I trot to go see her... First night, we're about to have sex and she does something, can't remember what, to piss me off so much that I just said "fine, fuck it, we'll not have sex."
I remember I was getting a lil frustrated because she's allways the boss and wouldn't let me be the boss in bed, not even just fucking once!
She then said sorry and we went ahead with it.
We then had some drinks and when her female housemate came home her attitude to me was so noticably different that I wrote the following on my phone as a note:

"Housemate's new attitude - has something happened with the missus those 2 know about I don't?"

So anyways, I took the opportunity to stay up and chat with her female housemate because recently when I haven't been working I've been studying and I'm saving all my cash for the wedding so I never go out to see my friends and chat face to face; all my chatting has been done on Freeones! (That's why I'm such a board-whore) and we stayed up having a good chat, then I went to bed.
The next day, she was a lil upset that I chatted to her housemate instead of coming straight to bed, I said that she was so tired there would have been no sex and that I missed face to face chats because I never have 'em no more.
She was slightly upset, but we went out shopping, I bought quite a bit of her shopping for her, saying that I was earning my right to be the man, we then went home, set up a Christmas tree, went out for a night out with her colleagues, came back, she started blowing me on the sofa and again she wouldn't let me be the boss. She even teased me about it.
This, cumulative with a million other things really pissed me off;

I BECAME SO ANGRY WITH HER I STOPPED HER BLOWING ME.

Now if a guys that angry, he's angry.
We argued again and she says that I'm not the boss enough most of the time, she says that I'm too kind to her.
This is because I've always taken care of her, looked after her and let her make the choice (fav cafe, restaurant, etc) because I'm nice like that.
The only time I get pushy is in bed and even then I've been holding back on that.

I countered that I could never be the boss if she didn't let me be and she said "Listen to yourself: Let you be the boss?!

Now silly me: I thought I was dating a mature girl and that we could reason things through and be rational adults and both be happy, but no, she expects me to be some caveman concept of real man and is pissed off with me because (out of concern for the environment) I don't drive. She says I'm not the boss enough and I should book and organise all the trips.

This really fucked me off. Like the 16 year old girl I used to date who also complained that I was too nice to her:
If you have something that really is too good to be true, why be unhappy with it?
What kind of a fool kills the goose that lays the golden eggs?
We kind of patched things up, but I'm still unhappy and very very angry. I like a bossy gal, but this is beyond reason.

I feel like booking a prostitute to do what I want to a gal and when she inevitably finds out (she can read me like a book) telling her that she gave me the right to do it (she says that I give her the right to be a bitch by not being bossy enough, she seems to think being nice and considerate of your partner is not being "the man" enough.).

I can't talk to my friends because I don't have time (I worked yesterday, I studied today, I'm in class tomorrow, I study wednesday and I teach on Thursday, then work will want me to work the weekend).

I've considered cancelling the engagement.
I've considered dumping her; a little bit of me thinks she WANTS me to dump her and that's why she's doing this.

I feel angry: I come home from my shit job (no respect, no breaks, nearly half pay) to my shit studies (example: two classmates submitted identical answers, classmate 1 was told to change answers A & C and that answers B & D were fine, classmate 2 was told to change answers B & D and that answers C & D were fine - this from IDENTICAL ANSWERS!)
and the break I hope for; time to see the missus which I take even knowing that I should study, she totally fucks up and destroys for me.
I feel like I just never get a break. I feel unapreciated. Does she wanna go back to other men, who might be unfaithfull, who might beat her, treat her like shit? Big things aside: does she want to go back to other men who don't treat her like a Goddess? I don't think she's thinking.
Maybe she's just venting her stress & anger from work on me, maybe it's payback for the argument we had in Greece.
She's not a conventional beauty; she's fucking lucky to have me.
Sometimes I just feel like dumping her.

I feel like she's really overstepped the line this time (she's really fucked me off before, but I've recovered) and I just need to write this down and get this out there to see if it calms me some, makes me feel better. I don't wanna carry it as baggage into the next time we see each other, I want things to feel good without a permanent undertone of anger.

I also feel slightly trapped: The church is booked. I've met the family, I was at her sister's wedding. She's met the family. I do love her and nobody else.
I know I could have other women (I've had offers) but I also remember that it's not easy getting women to order, being a single guy.
I love her, but at the same time I fucking HATE her, I feel the hatred burning away. Hopefully it's just temporary.
Part of me is scared to hang on in case I get hurt.

What do you guys think? You may now begin flaming and all that BS.
Maybe I'll show her this to show her how I feel, but I'm sure she'll just take it as a competition and start saying "no but..." and excusing her actions with BS, or by pointing out the fact that I sometimes shout at her when she drives me nuts.

 

[Roald]

Cliffnotes?

 

[vodkazvictim]

Cliffnotes?

What are they?

 

[TheOrangeCat]

having tossed the dirt over two marriages, I can honestly say, no matter how fucked up things got, they never got me to the point of the apparent rage you seem to have expressed here. We're all different, all deal with things in our own ways, but this is NOT a good start to a marriage.
Good luck Bro, I wish you all the best. I hope you can work it out, cuz nothing is better than a great marriage. But believe me, there is little worse than a bad one .....

 

[Hot Mega]

The missus is driving me fucking nuts. I'm STILL angry right now, 2 days later. It's affecting my studies; I sit and try and concentrate and I just think the situation over and I'm SO FUCKING ANGRY.
I can't talk to anybody about it because that will affect how they talk to the missus and make them think bad of her, so I'm expressing my feelings here in the hope that I'll feel better for it.

A bit back, she flew off to Greece to book our wedding. We argued because I said I'm thinking of quitting job because they don't give me any break at all in 8 or 12 hours of solid work and don't pay me right (approx. 60% of hours).
She of course heard this as me wanting to quit because I don't get paid break and told me that she didn't get paid break and I shouldn't moan. Cue big argument. I think a major cause of the argument was that I was fucking furious with work and so when I phoned her I accidently just directed my fury onto her.

Argument was recovered from, she returned to her city in the UK and off I trot to go see her... First night, we're about to have sex and she does something, can't remember what, to piss me off so much that I just said "fine, fuck it, we'll not have sex."
I remember I was getting a lil frustrated because she's allways the boss and wouldn't let me be the boss in bed, not even just fucking once!
She then said sorry and we went ahead with it.
We then had some drinks and when her female housemate came home her attitude to me was so noticably different that I wrote the following on my phone as a note:

"Housemate's new attitude - has something happened with the missus those 2 know about I don't?"

So anyways, I took the opportunity to stay up and chat with her female housemate because recently when I haven't been working I've been studying and I'm saving all my cash for the wedding so I never go out to see my friends and chat face to face; all my chatting has been done on Freeones! (That's why I'm such a board-whore) and we stayed up having a good chat, then I went to bed.
The next day, she was a lil upset that I chatted to her housemate instead of coming straight to bed, I said that she was so tired there would have been no sex and that I missed face to face chats because I never have 'em no more.
She was slightly upset, but we went out shopping, I bought quite a bit of her shopping for her, saying that I was earning my right to be the man, we then went home, set up a Christmas tree, went out for a night out with her colleagues, came back, she started blowing me on the sofa and again she wouldn't let me be the boss. She even teased me about it.
This, cumulative with a million other things really pissed me off;

I BECAME SO ANGRY WITH HER I STOPPED HER BLOWING ME.

Now if a guys that angry, he's angry.
We argued again and she says that I'm not the boss enough most of the time, she says that I'm too kind to her.
This is because I've always taken care of her, looked after her and let her make the choice (fav cafe, restaurant, etc) because I'm nice like that.
The only time I get pushy is in bed and even then I've been holding back on that.

I countered that I could never be the boss if she didn't let me be and she said "Listen to yourself: Let you be the boss?!

Now silly me: I thought I was dating a mature girl and that we could reason things through and be rational adults and both be happy, but no, she expects me to be some caveman concept of real man and is pissed off with me because (out of concern for the environment) I don't drive. She says I'm not the boss enough and I should book and organise all the trips.

This really fucked me off. Like the 16 year old girl I used to date who also complained that I was too nice to her:
If you have something that really is too good to be true, why be unhappy with it?
What kind of a fool kills the goose that lays the golden eggs?
We kind of patched things up, but I'm still unhappy and very very angry. I like a bossy gal, but this is beyond reason.

I feel like booking a prostitute to do what I want to a gal and when she inevitably finds out (she can read me like a book) telling her that she gave me the right to do it (she says that I give her the right to be a bitch by not being bossy enough, she seems to think being nice and considerate of your partner is not being "the man" enough.).

I can't talk to my friends because I don't have time (I worked yesterday, I studied today, I'm in class tomorrow, I study wednesday and I teach on Thursday, then work will want me to work the weekend).

I've considered cancelling the engagement.
I've considered dumping her; a little bit of me thinks she WANTS me to dump her and that's why she's doing this.

I feel angry: I come home from my shit job (no respect, no breaks, nearly half pay) to my shit studies (example: two classmates submitted identical answers, classmate 1 was told to change answers A & C and that answers B & D were fine, classmate 2 was told to change answers B & D and that answers C & D were fine - this from IDENTICAL ANSWERS!)
and the break I hope for; time to see the missus which I take even knowing that I should study, she totally fucks up and destroys for me.
I feel like I just never get a break. I feel unapreciated. Does she wanna go back to other men, who might be unfaithfull, who might beat her, treat her like shit? Big things aside: does she want to go back to other men who don't treat her like a Goddess? I don't think she's thinking.
Maybe she's just venting her stress & anger from work on me, maybe it's payback for the argument we had in Greece.
She's not a conventional beauty; she's fucking lucky to have me.
Sometimes I just feel like dumping her.

I feel like she's really overstepped the line this time (she's really fucked me off before, but I've recovered) and I just need to write this down and get this out there to see if it calms me some, makes me feel better. I don't wanna carry it as baggage into the next time we see each other, I want things to feel good without a permanent undertone of anger.

I also feel slightly trapped: The church is booked. I've met the family, I was at her sister's wedding. She's met the family. I do love her and nobody else.
I know I could have other women (I've had offers) but I also remember that it's not easy getting women to order, being a single guy.
I love her, but at the same time I fucking HATE her, I feel the hatred burning away. Hopefully it's just temporary.
Part of me is scared to hang on in case I get hurt.

What do you guys think? You may now begin flaming and all that BS.
Maybe I'll show her this to show her how I feel, but I'm sure she'll just take it as a competition and start saying "no but..." and excusing her actions with BS, or by pointing out the fact that I sometimes shout at her when she drives me nuts.

Don't argue with women you need to fuck and definitely not one you plan to be fucking exclusively for the rest of your life.

There is scarcely a rational one among them on most things and that's aside from when they're on the periods.:eek:

Step 1.) Find your worst pair of socks in your drawer. Step 2.) Tie each sock into 2, separate knots. Step 3.) Carry one around with you at all times. Step 4.) Bite on it whenever you sense and argument coming. Step 5.) Fuck the hell out of your missus at the first opportunity in order to make her happy. Step 6.) Whack to your favorite porn babe the next day in order to make you happy. Step 7.) Remember where your backup is when you need to wash primary.:2 cents:

Oh and....lower your flashpoint and get over shit easier.

What are they?

The de-hydrated versions of study material.

 

[lurkingdirk]

Don't argue with women you need to fuck and definitely not one you plan to be fucking exclusively for the rest of your life.

There is scarcely a rational one among them on most things and that's aside from when they're on the periods.:eek:

Step 1.) Find your worst pair of socks in your drawer. Step 2.) Tie each sock into 2, separate knots. Step 3.) Carry one around with you at all times. Step 4.) Bite on it whenever you sense and argument coming. Step 5.) Fuck the hell out of your missus at the first opportunity in order to make her happy. Step 6.) Whack to your favorite porn babe the next day in order to make you happy. Step 7.) Remember where your backup is when you need to wash primary.:2 cents:

Pretty good, Mega, but I think I can simplify it like this:

If this is a pattern of behaviour that you can not live with, move on. You aren't going to change her.

However, if you really are in love with her, decide these things are not a big deal.

It also sounds to me like you need to spend some time talking to her about how unsatisfied, unfulfilled, and unchallenged you are in your job. To me, that sounds like the heart of the issue.

 

[vodkazvictim]

Don't argue with women you need to fuck and definitely not one you plan to be fucking exclusively for the rest of your life.

There is scarcely a rational one among them on most things and that's aside from when they're on the periods.:eek:

Step 1.) Find your worst pair of socks in your drawer. Step 2.) Tie each sock into 2, separate knots. Step 3.) Carry one around with you at all times. Step 4.) Bite on it whenever you sense and argument coming. Step 5.) Fuck the hell out of your missus at the first opportunity in order to make her happy. Step 6.) Whack to your favorite porn babe the next day in order to make you happy. Step 7.) Remember where your backup is when you need to wash primary.:2 cents:




The de-hydrated versions of study material.

Thanks.
But Xmas is coming, so I get to arsefuck her.
She's gonna pay; Imma make her arse bleed :elaugh: :ak47:

Thanks for all your contributions guys. Makes me feel way better to talk it over
:thumbsup:
See, I really do love her; I had never even wanted to be faithful before, so in way, my hands are tied... :dunno:
As for the job, tips will be big over Xmas, I've already started handing out DVs. Hopefully I will soon move on. I've not been there 3 months even...

 

[TheOrangeCat]

Thanks.
But Xmas is coming, so I get to arsefuck her.
She's gonna pay; Imma make her arse bleed :elaugh: :ak47:

You, Sir, are a Prince!

 

[Hot Mega]

Pretty good, Mega, but I think I can simplify it like this:

If this is a pattern of behaviour that you can not live with, move on. You aren't going to change her.

However, if you really are in love with her, decide these things are not a big deal.

It also sounds to me like you need to spend some time talking to her about how unsatisfied, unfulfilled, and unchallenged you are in your job. To me, that sounds like the heart of the issue.

^^ Good post. Point is, you'll need to establish pretty quick what you're willing to live with and what you're willing to live with out.

If you really love her and have more things with her than you have without her...then learn to let the pedestrian, unimportant things go.

You have wedding coming up...you're stressed, she's stressed your job is stressing you...I know it's easier said than done but try to put it all into context before the rage happens.

 

[PlasmaTwa2]

One night, tie her up on the bed, tape her eyes open and make her watch a movie that says "vodkazvictim is the boss" over and over for twelve hours.

 

[meesterperfect]

what country do you live in vodka?
what country is this woman from?
how long have you been together?
whats the date of the wedding?

 

[L3ggy]

My eyes are too tired for to read all that.

 

[Hot Mega]

My eyes are too tired for to read all that.

Cliffnotes version;

He got in an argument with his soon to be wife again over shit couples normally argue about and he's coming to FOs to vent because he's still pissed.:hatsoff:

 

[Peter Gazinya]

You don't drive because of your concern for the environment? You whine because your woman is the boss of you? Then in another thread you ask how to "be a man"?

I'm not sure it's possible buddy, you ain't working with much.

 

[TheOrangeCat]

Cliffnotes version;

He got in an argument with his soon to be wife again over shit couples normally argue about and he's coming to FOs to vent because he's still pissed.:hatsoff:

You missed the key parts out.

He's so angry he stopped her blowing him - mid blow.
He loves her but he 'fucking hates her', feels 'the hatred burning away', but hopes it's just 'temporary'

 

[L3ggy]

Cliffnotes version;

He got in an argument with his soon to be wife again over shit couples normally argue about and he's coming to FOs to vent because he's still pissed.:hatsoff:

Thank you Mega.

 

[Hot Mega]

You missed the key parts out.

He's so angry he stopped her blowing him - mid blow.
He loves her but he 'fucking hates her', feels 'the hatred burning away', but hopes it's just 'temporary'

Details schmetails Cat.:1orglaugh In the target rich environment of shit couples can argue about, they picked a few and he's so pissed (again) that he needs to vent to FOs because he doesn't want to drag "the boss'" name through the mud.

 

[vodkazvictim]

You don't drive because of your concern for the environment? You whine because your woman is the boss of you? Then in another thread you ask how to "be a man"?

I'm not sure it's possible buddy, you ain't working with much.

1:Correct. You can assert that this makes me less manly all you like, but you're still the one not utilising your brain by ignoring global warming and thinking of his car as a phallus. You know what they say about men like that don't you? Now you can be a reasonable man and think things through or you can be a caveman, drink beer (because that's what men do, right? I'll let everybodies opinion of what a man should be decide my actions, because I can't decide my actions for myself), watch football (because that's what men do, right? I'll let everybodies opinion of what a man should be decide my actions, because I can't decide my actions for myself) and hate gays (because that's what men do, right? I'll let everybodies opinion of what a man should be decide my actions, because I can't decide my actions for myself), but it's telling which sections of society you find the latter kind of "real man" in, don't you think? Of course you don't think...
2:I like her to be the boss, I just think she should know where to draw the line and not be silly.
3:That thread was started to make fun of eyesorefan (or whatever the damned name is) thread about "how do I prove to people I'm a chick?"
http://board.freeones.com/showthread.php?t=464521
4: :thefinger

 

[Ace Bandage]

Bitches be crazy.

I didn't read you post because it was too long, but I'm fairly certain those three words sum up your current predicament.

 

[TheOrangeCat]

Details schmetails Cat.:1orglaugh In the target rich environment of shit couples can argue about, they picked a few and he's so pissed (again) that he needs to vent to FOs because he doesn't want to drag "the boss'" name through the mud.

I may be jaded by experience, failure and the crushing of all my love-based hopes and dreams (awwwwwww), but something about the post makes me think there might be bigger issues at hand here than Who's The Boss and blowjobus interuptus.