Ex-coworker ex-girl drama

[jasonk282]

Geez, when you put it like that it sounds bad...lol

well 3 out of the 4 people where fucking her at the same time, just saying

 

[raychik]

well 3 out of the 4 people where fucking her at the same time, just saying

Well 2 out of 4 since she claims her fiance has E.D...And I am sure that she wasn't fucking my friend and me at the same time (maybe someone else but definitely not him) but I see what you are saying.

 

[skechers]

Geez, when you put it like that it sounds bad...lol

Wonder why. :wave2:



But at the same time, if you've had your good times, then you have something to take with you. So think of it like that, if it helps. Not like that other way.

People mostly just want to feel needed. Life is confusing. Don't hold it against her.

 

[jasonk282]

Well 2 out of 4 since she claims her fiance has E.D...And I am sure that she wasn't fucking my friend and me at the same time (maybe someone else but definitely not him) but I see what you are saying.

she also claimed to care about you.

 

[raychik]

Wonder why. :wave2:



But at the same time, if you've had your good times, then you have something to take with you. So think of it like that, if it helps. Not like that other way.

People mostly just want to feel needed. Life is confusing. Don't hold it against her.

Good post. I didn't think of it like that "people mostly just want to feel needed". And I guess I did have my share of crazy sex with her (she was the best I ever had btw) so, thinking that way, hopefully this grieving process will be quick.

 

[Rey C.]

Just sad because she burst out into tears the first time we had sex, told me that I made her consider having kids again (she has 2 with an ex-husband...not the fiance) and just the little things.

Uh, Jason... is that Aria Giovanni in your avatar? If this girl looks 10% better than Aria, I can understand why you feel the way that you do. But considering the tidbits that keep coming out about ths girl (now an ex husband and two kids?!), I hope that you have enough self-esteem that you'd feel lucky to get away from this situation. And you're now 3000 miles away from her?! Consider yourself lucky! Go to your bathroom RIGHT NOW, give yourself a good clean shave and splash some straight alcohol on your face. :eek: That's right. Wake the fuck up and snap out of it! :thumbsup:

It's just fucking with my head that someone could be like that just for cock...I thought she really cared about me.

From another board, I have a saved picture of Gia Jordan wearing a t-shirt that says, "Whores Lie". Getting played or conned never feels good. But learn from Gia's words of wisdom. You just need to stay plugged into reality and remember that.

 

[Magnet]

You should tell her how you feel before its to late.
1) Before things get more serious with your ex-wife
2) Before she gets more serious with this other guy

If it works out, great, but you do have to take into consideration, like everyone has said, she cheated once and she might cheat again.

 

[raychik]

Uh, Jason... is that Aria Giovanni in your avatar? If this girl looks 10% better than Aria, I can understand why you feel the way that you do. But considering the tidbits that keep coming out about ths girl (now an ex husband and two kids?!), I hope that you have enough self-esteem that you'd feel lucky to get away from this situation.

I guess it does boil down to my self-esteem which was shot after the wife left me (she is a religious nut and I'm an atheist, that was one of the reasons why we clashed so much). That is Aria Giovanni in my avatar btw, that is my favorite pic of her.

You should tell her how you feel before its to late.
1) Before things get more serious with your ex-wife
2) Before she gets more serious with this other guy

If it works out, great, but you do have to take into consideration, like everyone has said, she cheated once and she might cheat again.

I am going to tell her how I feel, I don't want to keep it bottled up even though I agree with everything you guys are saying.

 

[Bantu]

Get over her and move on, plain and simple. Well, it will take time to erase her out of your mind especially if you had a great time (mind-blowing sex) together. Do not try a revenge mission, this will only hurt you more because you will be in denial. Two options:

1) Take some time off (from relationships/dating), and do some deep soul-searching. There's more to life, and I'm sure you are fully aware of that. Clear your mind and do not escape reality (drugs/alcohol) because the pain will worsen.

2) Get back with your ex if (and only if) you guys iron out your differences and agree to stay together. Do not do it out of desperation, you will regret it.

 

[mrtrebus]

Forgive me for the length of this rant, you don't have to answer if you don't want to, of course.

Fucked up situation and question: I have been messing around with a chick from work, whom has a Fiance who treats her like trash, for quite some time. Mostly sex but I actually really cared about her and she seemed to care about me. I moved out of the state not too long ago because I got offered a better job elsewhere but we continued to chat and I flew and visited her every now and then to hang out and have sex (when she could get away from her boyfriend). I was the best sex she ever had, or so she claimed, and would get crazy wet from like 10 seconds of kissing me (I verified this to be correct)

I got tired of being alone, so I started to reconcile with my ex-wife and things have been going great. I got tired of having my ex-coworker as a fuck-buddy since I really cared and I am not a cheater so I decided I was going to tell her that we don't have a future together (since she'd never leave her fiance) and that I was getting back with my ex. Before I could do so, however, I spoke to my friend from my ex job (who was the only person that knew about your relationship) and told him my plans. He then told me that she has actually been seeing another guy and it seems to be getting serious (i.e. he brings her flowers, treats her right, etc.)

For some reason, this got me crazy depressed, it was like I got punched in the stomach. My friend told me he didn't mention it to me before (this has been going on for 3 weeks now and I last saw her 4 weeks ago) because he didn't want to hurt my feelings but thought that I could handle it now because I was chatting with my ex-wife and we were going to get back together. He assured me that she probably does really care about me and we'd be together if I was still in the same state but I made the decision to leave. Again sorry for the rant, I just haven't been this depressed since the wife left me and now I am just torn...I think I really want to be with my ex-coworker...Do you guys have any thoughts on this?

No, you're just an accessory to someone else cheating!
Get over it!

 

[raychik]

Get over her and move on, plain and simple. Well, it will take time to erase her out of your mind especially if you had a great time (mind-blowing sex) together. Do not try a revenge mission, this will only hurt you more because you will be in denial. Two options:

1) Take some time off (from relationships/dating), and do some deep soul-searching. There's more to life, and I'm sure you are fully aware of that. Clear your mind and do not escape reality (drugs/alcohol) because the pain will worsen.

2) Get back with your ex if (and only if) you guys iron out your differences and agree to stay together. Do not do it out of desperation, you will regret it.

I guess not number 2 since I am just really tired of being alone...Also, what do you mean by "revenge mission"?

 

[CunningStunts]

This, boys and girls, is why you don't poop where you eat.

Sorry, it had to be said.

It's just drama and pain waiting to happen...

 

[raychik]

So I just spoke with her and told her that I love her and want to be with her. She paused and told me that she can't say the "l" word back because she has been through so many bad relationships and said she needs some time before she can love someone back.

I told her: "Don't spare my feelings, I'd much rather know how you really feel about me, if you don't love me back that is fine but I would much rather know now": She said "I truly adore you...you are a wonderful person, kissing you puts a goofy smile on my face and really turns me on, you make me feel like everything will be okay when I'm in your arms, we have the same sense of humor-we get each other, and sex with you is amazing...toe-curling orgasm inducing." I asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said no...she says she's relationship'd out at the moment but that she could see herself being with me in the future. I am so fucking confused...

 

[Krawzer]

Sounds like she's confused also (and a liar). I thought love and adore were the same thing?

 

[Big Poppa Pump]

The simplest advice - please just stay away from her man. Girls like that will always cause you trouble.

Good Luck!

 

[jasonk282]

So I just spoke with her and told her that I love her and want to be with her. She paused and told me that she can't say the "l" word back because she has been through so many bad relationships and said she needs some time before she can love someone back.

I told her: "Don't spare my feelings, I'd much rather know how you really feel about me, if you don't love me back that is fine but I would much rather know now": She said "I truly adore you...you are a wonderful person, kissing you puts a goofy smile on my face and really turns me on, you make me feel like everything will be okay when I'm in your arms, we have the same sense of humor-we get each other, and sex with you is amazing...toe-curling orgasm inducing." I asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said no...she says she's relationship'd out at the moment but that she could see herself being with me in the future. I am so fucking confused...

Did you add that part? Her is the thing your over 3,000 miles away. She is a liar and is playing with your feelings cut your losses and move on.

Also you NEVER say the "L" word first:wtf:

 

[raychik]

Did you add that part? Her is the thing your over 3,000 miles away. She is a liar and is playing with your feelings cut your losses and move on.

Also you NEVER say the "L" word first:wtf:

She actually used that phrase "toe-curling" lol I don't speak like that. I just wanted to see how she'd respond to the love thing.

 

[slasher]

So I just spoke with her and told her that I love her and want to be with her. She paused and told me that she can't say the "l" word back because she has been through so many bad relationships and said she needs some time before she can love someone back.

I told her: "Don't spare my feelings, I'd much rather know how you really feel about me, if you don't love me back that is fine but I would much rather know now": She said "I truly adore you...you are a wonderful person, kissing you puts a goofy smile on my face and really turns me on, you make me feel like everything will be okay when I'm in your arms, we have the same sense of humor-we get each other, and sex with you is amazing...toe-curling orgasm inducing." I asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said no...she says she's relationship'd out at the moment but that she could see herself being with me in the future. I am so fucking confused...

There is your answer. Pat your ass at her and move on. You will just regret it the longer you string this out.

 

[raychik]

Oh so she is definitely not interested in anything?

 

[slasher]

Oh so she is definitely not interested in anything?

My opinion is she is playing you. The best thing you could do is just move on.