Cheating While Engaged...

[ChefChiTown]

I just got done watching the show Cane (which is awesome by the way) and something got me thinking...

The main character's son was getting married. During the day of the wedding, his bride-to-be confessed that she had cheated on him during her bachelorette party with one of her ex-boyfriends. Well, he still married her, so my question is...

If your fiance confessed that he/she had cheated on you, would you still marry them?

 

[Will E Worm]

If your fiance confessed that he/she had cheated on you, would you still marry them?

:nono:

 

[cartman24]

Probably not, she would have to have a damn good excuse.

 

[Imagine]

I doubt it. If someone cheats that early, I wouldn't say it's a good sign for the rest of the marriage.

 

[Will E Worm]

Probably not, she would have to have a damn good excuse.

There's not an excuse for it, especially right before you're married.

If anyone can cheat the day before they are married, then it's time to find someone else.
Well, any time someone cheats it's time to find someone else or no one else.

Become a monk. :hatsoff:

 

[Christmas_Ape]

My policy is, if I don't cheat, then she doesn't get to cheat.

 

[dirtydubled]

Heres a radical thought.... Don't fuckin tell me! You think i wanna hear that shit? I may well have boned another babe at my Bachelor Party... You think i'm gonna announce it? 'Oh and by the way honey...' Thats stupid!

If you aren't married yet, it means exactly that. 'YOU AREN'T MARRIED YET!' Why hurt the one you love by bringing up indiscretions that occured BEFORE you were married. If you and your bride truly love each other... this is what matters. Not my and Becky Boobs banging at my bachelor party or her and Don Anchovy at her bachelorettes.

Complete honesty is not always the best policy.

 

[Will E Worm]

Complete honesty is not always the best policy.

A liar doesn't make a good partner. What if they cheat and don't tell you then you contract AIDS, herpes, etc?

 

[boobidy mcb00bs]

A liar doesn't make a good partner. What if they cheat and don't tell you then you contract AIDS, herpes, etc?

you save THAT for the first anniversary.:hatsoff:

 

[dirtydubled]

Perhaps not but you'd hope that your selected partner was smart enough to protect themselves 'as i'd hope anyone would' before entering such an encounter. If not than i'd hope that said person was aware of their partners risky proclivities. When the truth will hurt, one must take that into account before dropping a bomb on your loved one. "hon, does this dress make me look fat?" 'And then some!' i hope you catch my drift.
The greater good should always be served!

And remember kiddies... Put a helmet on that soldier! :hatsoff:

 

[McRocket]

If you aren't married yet, it means exactly that. 'YOU AREN'T MARRIED YET!' Why hurt the one you love by bringing up indiscretions that occured BEFORE you were married. If you and your bride truly love each other... this is what matters. Not my and Becky Boobs banging at my bachelor party or her and Don Anchovy at her bachelorettes.

Complete honesty is not always the best policy.

Three things come to mind:

1) You obviously consider fooling around on your girlfriend/fiance an acceptable thing.
2) Your idea of not hurting the 'one you love' is by fucking another woman the night before the wedding and not telling your partner about it.
and 3) Me thinks you have some direct experience on this subject (thou doth protest too much).

When the truth will hurt, one must take that into account before dropping a bomb on your loved one. "hon, does this dress make me look fat?" 'And then some!' i hope you catch my drift.
The greater good should always be served!

The greater good? The greater good is served by keeping major facets of your personality from your perspective mate?
Marriage is a huge commitment. And one that requires as much information as possible to make the right decision. And I would definitely say 'having sex with other people behind your back' would constitute important information.


And I agree very much with your posts on this Will E Worm.


And my answer to this thread question is I would hope I would end it on the spot.

 

[D-rock]

Heres a radical thought.... Don't fuckin tell me! You think i wanna hear that shit? I may well have boned another babe at my Bachelor Party... You think i'm gonna announce it? 'Oh and by the way honey...' Thats stupid!

If you aren't married yet, it means exactly that. 'YOU AREN'T MARRIED YET!' Why hurt the one you love by bringing up indiscretions that occured BEFORE you were married. If you and your bride truly love each other... this is what matters. Not my and Becky Boobs banging at my bachelor party or her and Don Anchovy at her bachelorettes.

Complete honesty is not always the best policy.

Why hurt the one you love by doing any indiscretion in the first place? If people truly loved each other that would be what matters.

 

[dirtydubled]

1. Yes i do.
2. Love and sex 'while fantastic together' are two entirely separate things.If one does do such a thing prior to their marriage? then certainly i'd recommend to let sleeping dogs lie. One should not have to air out all their past indescretions or dirty laundry. For what purpose? To have "as much information as possible to make the right decision?" Cause you have a guilty conscience? If you do, by all means tell em about every girl you ever banged or spot of trouble you stumbled into and what does that get you? 'A solid base to build a relationship on?' Please! I think what counts is your feelings towards one another and how you interact. I don't have the burning desire to know every little thing that happened to my girl prior to our coupling. What she chooses to share is fine. What she doesn't is probobly for OUR own good. What i choose not to tell her is so that i don't hurt her feelings is likewise for our own good. Whats past is in the past. What happens in the present is what matters.

3. If i do... so be it. At least i have direct knowledge on the subject to which im speaking. I protest nothing. It's merely my opinion.

I'm a realist. Over half of all marriages end in divorce for one reason or another. The majority of society at large is quite selfish and self centered. While marriage is huge commitment, in this society of instant gratification people get blinded by the short term and pay lip service to the long term. Communication is important but total honesty? i'm not sure a lot of marriages could handle that!

 

[McRocket]

I'm a realist. Over half of all marriages end in divorce for one reason or another. The majority of society at large is quite selfish and self centered. While marriage is huge commitment, in this society of instant gratification people get blinded by the short term and pay lip service to the long term. Communication is important but total honesty? i'm not sure a lot of marriages could handle that!

In other words, 'Sure, my way ain't perfect. But the rest of society sucks as well, so that means I am no worse then them.'

It's rather amazing to me how many people that do hurtful things to others use that arguement (or one similar) to justify their thoughts/actions.
Just an observation.

 

[dirtydubled]

Justification is merely an excuse for those who need one.
and excuses are like assholes, Everyones got one.
Shit just happens.... Thats it. No big mystery to it at all.
It is what it is. Good, Bad or indifferent.
The nature of the beast!

 

[Vanilla Bear]

If your fiance confessed that he/she had cheated on you, would you still marry them?

No never!
Its an abuse of confidence.

 

[jumbo_jim]

I just got done watching the show Cane (which is awesome by the way) and something got me thinking...

The main character's son was getting married. During the day of the wedding, his bride-to-be confessed that she had cheated on him during her bachelorette party with one of her ex-boyfriends. Well, he still married her, so my question is...

If your fiance confessed that he/she had cheated on you, would you still marry them?

Not a chance. Once they have cheated, there would be no trust so without the trust I would always wonder if they are cheating again.

 

[hedonis]

Probably not, she would have to have a damn good excuse.

I can imagine no good "excuse" for cheating on you while you're engaged. See ya, whore- enjoy paying for the wedding that's not going to happen! :glugglug:

H

 

[slowhand]

I just got done watching the show Cane (which is awesome by the way) and something got me thinking...

The main character's son was getting married. During the day of the wedding, his bride-to-be confessed that she had cheated on him during her bachelorette party with one of her ex-boyfriends. Well, he still married her, so my question is...

If your fiance confessed that he/she had cheated on you, would you still marry them?

Yeah I watch that show last night.


There is no way that I would have forgiven her that's something to me that is not forgivable once a cheater always a cheater that's my :2 cents: worth.

 

[member006]

If somebody cheats on me before, after ,during or when the moon is in the seventh house its adios amigo. No I never would have married her and would have informed everyone at the wedding WHY!

If a person feels attracted to another, tell your s/o and move on then. As I have stated before in here many times on these threesome threads etc. Nobody eats from my plate but me. I don't do share, not even in fantasy.

Then again I don't sleep around with people I'm not emotionally tied to. I must have deep feelings to lay with someone and on my wedding day I can't imagine having those for anyone other than my groom.

LL