Would you date a women who has a kid?

[prof_porn]

I'm sure its been covered, but I wasnt on here then.

The only issue would be the potential complications and problems if things got serious between you and the lady. Esp if the child is a boy, cos after a certain age simple male ego kicks in,and not being the father would surely cause resentment.

Maybe less hassle down the line if the child is a daughter-she could probably see things more from the mother's POV of wanting a stable relationship irrespective of picking poorly the first time.

Opinions?

 

[Iamforever]

The only issue would be the potential complications and problems if things got serious between you and the lady. Esp if the child is a boy, cos after a certain age simple male ego kicks in,and not being the father would surely cause resentment.

speak for yourself.

 

[bodie54]

Yes, I've dated a couple of single moms, and would have no problem with doing so again.

 

[sputnikgirl]

My boyfriend is a dad. I don't have much of a problem with it.

 

[tartanterrier]

I would if I liked her enough,but I rather stay away.

 

[squallumz]

the only downside is the kid? no big deal. i like moms.

 

[rian_evilclown]

yeh no big deal

 

[dave_rhino]

I didn't date one, but I fucked one.

It wasn't the kids I should of been worried about, it was the chlamydia...

 

[rian_evilclown]

ive fucked a few mums (not hot ones unfortunately) and ive slept with (and got a tug job from) one hot mum

 

[member006]

I don't see why anyone would not. Whats the big deal? Men just get scared I think.

Children are a blessing. If you're lucky enough to find love with someone who has one or several I'm sure if you're a good person it will all work out. *shrugs*

Potential complications and problems? LMAO I feel even if they are yours or a bonus in a relationship you will endure endless complications and problems, but in the end children are worth every last one. Just be the adult, be a dad and be there for them and never make them feel you aren't their dad. Many stepmothers and dads try too hard. Putting all emphasis on being a friend. To me that's a bad move, be their friend too, but never let your place as a father figure go unnoticed. Like in adoptions, they will feel the love if unconditional and that you aren't biological will never matter. Watch your words and when/if they throw any, remember they are children. Let them have that bitter moment, it will pass. When they grow up they will know who buttered their bread. Just IMHO only of course.

LL

 

[dick van cock]

I made it habit not to.

I had a vasectomy very early in life, because it has always been clear to me not to have any kids myself. Hence, I chose the girls in my life very carefully: A child has always been a knock-out argument.

 

[USNinc]

Sure.
I wouldn't go looking for a mommy but if I met a women and she had a kid then I wouldn't head for the door.

My older sister met a good man who took her and her two kids in. He adopted her boys and only a real good man could do that.

My other sister married a man with two daughters.

It's all in how you look at it.

 

[Iamforever]

I don't see why anyone would not. Whats the big deal? Men just get scared I think.

being male, i have thought about why this is. i think its not the fact that she has a kid, but the fact that the ex could be a psycho. its drama that isnt needed or wanted.

 

[dave_rhino]

i think its not the fact that she has a kid, but the fact that the ex could be a psycho.

Yup. I nearly got a cricket bat in the back of my head.


Also, you need to think of this:

The kids father/her husband probably left her for a reason...

 

[TallCowboy]

I am now!! and its the best time I've had with a woman...love her kids...2 girls ages 2, 6

 

[ChefChiTown]

I would have a very hard time dating a woman who has a child. Personally, I just know I wouldn't be able to deal with all of the underlying issues that would come along with the child. Dealing with the fact that I wasn't the child's biological father, handling the fact that there would potentially be another man in my girlfriend's life, etc.

Now, let me very, very briefly explain myself before I make another comment...

My mother was raped twice in her teens and was impregnated both times. Long story short, she had to give them up for adoption because she couldn't take care of them, so I have 2 brothers that I have never met. Many people who are very, very close to me have been raped and it is honestly the thing I hate most in life. I could write thousands of pages about this, but I won't. I'll save that for rainy day.

Now, for the comment...

I would only be able to date a woman who has a child, if that child was due to a rape.

Yes, there are also underlying issues that come along with this scenario too, I am well aware of that. But, they are issues that I can personally connect with and would have no problem supporting.

 

[Facetious]

Depends on what your definition of dating is.


If you were to ask "Would you settle down . . . . . . . ?" NO !

There's too many complications (not of your making) to deal with. I wouldn't wanna deal with any ex boyfriends . . . hubbys etc. The last thing I want is to get in a brawl, I have too much too lose ! If I can help it, I'd rather not fight ! I will . . any day ! If you hurt somebody, even in a defensive realm, you're subject to a possible felony prosecution, a civil lawsuit, and so forth.

Again, too much to loose. I'm blessed that I don't have to worry it.

 

[gmaxman1212]

absolutely.and i have being over thirty and single it is almost impossible not to in this day and age

 

[AFA]

I'm sure its been covered, but I wasnt on here then.

The only issue would be the potential complications and problems if things got serious between you and the lady. Esp if the child is a boy, cos after a certain age simple male ego kicks in,and not being the father would surely cause resentment.

Maybe less hassle down the line if the child is a daughter-she could probably see things more from the mother's POV of wanting a stable relationship irrespective of picking poorly the first time.

Opinions?

I think it's a matter of being all grown up.

 

[member006]

being male, i have thought about why this is. i think its not the fact that she has a kid, but the fact that the ex could be a psycho. its drama that isnt needed or wanted.

You my friend may just pass up an orchid while looking for a rose with that thinking. Her ex could also be a great guy and they aren't together simply because sometimes things just don't work. Why would you risk losing a woman that may be just right for you?

Yup. I nearly got a cricket bat in the back of my head.


Also, you need to think of this:

The kids father/her husband probably left her for a reason...

Did you think of this? Maybe she left him, maybe it was mutual. Why does something have to be her fault or any ones fault for that matter? Sometimes things don't work out, I don't understand why everyone always looks to lay blame in everything in life that goes wrong.

S*** happens and someone smarter than us turned that fact into a fortune in bumper stickers and T-Shirts.

LL