Have you ever read a book called; "The Game"?
It's about a guy similar to you, though quite a lot worse in his situation, who one day finds a underground society of pick-up artist and by the end of the book, he becomes the world's greatest pick-up artist over the space of about two years.
There is quite a lot of stigma attached to such words as "Pick-up artist" and "seduction", those I believe are selling points to those in desperate need of guidance along the subject of attracting girls and should not be left to those under the banner of the Quagmire-types.
There are many schools of thought of about this particular subject, some of which I have read, primarily the mainstream techniques and such, and I can say that while it seems at first glance to be full of sleazebag dickheads who try it on with girls by using stupid chat-up lines and lies to get what they want. Rather, they are just a bunch of nerds who one day got pissed off with watching girls walk on by while the rest of the popular guys (you Americans still call them Jocks right? :o) made love to them whenever they felt like it. You of course, knew would be better with you than them, if you had them, you'd treat them right, you wouldn't cheat on them or make them upset, you'd worship the ground they walked on if you had them in your arms. So they went out to search for the magical formula as to why girls go for those "bad boy" types instead of the good guys.
I'm assuming you're a good guy if I might so place you in that dogmatic category of a moment?
"But Desolrit? that's crap! What about all those nice girls who want a nice guy? Surely they are looking for someone like me?"
Correct, there are nice girls who are looking for a nice guy like you.
As friends.
The reason all those girls aren't wanting anything past a friendship is because they have no sexual feelings for you. Generally, they ask you to do something for them and the nice guy you are does it, which is all very well for your morals and such, but builds no attract to you what so-ever. True you may see displays of affection for you but they are flirting, a thing women so often do as an expression of fun and light-heartedness. Some men will see this as however, the girl being attracted to them....and then it spirals down when you express your feelings for her, she says she wants you and her to be "just-friends" and ends up going nowhere leaving you feeling like a loser.
On views of sexuality....Women are -highly- sexual creatures; many believe that women think about sex more than men! Every single healthy woman on earth, love sex or at least, the thought of sex and I can make that a fact of life for you. Yes, even that old, scraggy, strictly religious teacher who you would vomit at the thought of even pecking on her on cheek has had sexual thoughts at one time or another, perhaps she is even now! And about you!!! D:
Point is, women -want- to share their bodies with you, so there is nothing wrong with that as long as you both establish what you want from each other, so don't feel bad.
I've gone severely off-topic here and could write for hours but....
Seriously, no using escorts!!!!111two!!
There are many ways you can learn to have a more varied choice of women who you want to be with and who want to be with you, while keeping your morals and ethics intact.
I also think yeah, you should go out and socialize more and just have fun around girls without the expectation of "getting laid tonight" and there are many things out there that can help. When you're ready, then you will even attract girls to you as you go about doing whatever you're doing on your average day. It all boils down to your frame of mind.
But I'm guessing you know most of this?
I think Progressive Psi, that if you think your current reality isn't okay, then you should change it and no forum I found while looking for porn can contain all the help I can give so I'll just direct you to where I found help.
Suggested reading;
For all those procrastinators;
Self Discipline
Quintessential for those who wish to learn about how a nerdy dork turned into the worlds greatest seducer of women;
"The Game" Neil Stratus
A pratical guide for guys who want to succeed with women by being themselves;
"Natural Game" 'Gambler'
Guide to female sexuality, a truly awesome read (You're more of a man if you can accept you can improve)
"David Shade's Manual" David Shade
If you can't "acquire" these eBooks, feel free to PM and I shall send them to you via email.
(PS. I'm currently on a personal journey atm myself and as such, don't have time to practice what I preach, but hey a guy has needs! :1orglaugh)
Deso
