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totally addicted to porn - HOW DO I STOP!!
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Yeah but look what's happened to your spelling! :tongue:
1. Do not work at home. Try to work in an open area with partition in an office setting so you can not look at porn during work. Many companies block porn sites.
2. When you go home, you can spend sometimes to watch but by jerking off quickly within 10-15 minutes after watching porn, you reach the point of getting tired and rest in late evenings.
3. Find a girlfriend who is caring and loving, so when she comes home, you won't watch porn.
2. When you go home, you can spend sometimes to watch but by jerking off quickly within 10-15 minutes after watching porn, you reach the point of getting tired and rest in late evenings.
3. Find a girlfriend who is caring and loving, so when she comes home, you won't watch porn.
I'm a former drug and alcohol counselor and have a great deal of experience working with addicts of all kinds (including sex addicts). See if there is a "sex addicts anonymous" meeting in your area. If so, go to one, and see if the stories others tell sound like your own. In time, you may feel comfortable enough to share your own story, and to ask for advice from those who are just like you, but who have been able to manage things for a while.
Be honest, open-minded, and willing to follow their advice. Addicts are notorious for trying to solve their problem by themselves, then beating themselves up for failing. The fact that you're seeking help is very promising!
The tricky part about sex addiction is that, like food addiction, you can't just abstain completely like a drug addict or alcoholic. You could conceivably stop watching porn, but you'll still have natural sexual desires.
Be honest, open-minded, and willing to follow their advice. Addicts are notorious for trying to solve their problem by themselves, then beating themselves up for failing. The fact that you're seeking help is very promising!
The tricky part about sex addiction is that, like food addiction, you can't just abstain completely like a drug addict or alcoholic. You could conceivably stop watching porn, but you'll still have natural sexual desires.
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IMO If you stop your addiction to porn, you will just reapply your compulsion to something else.
I know that there are some people that think that addictions are weaknesses, and claim not to have any, but in my experience, everyone has addictions.
I think that Homerise really made a good portrayal of the craving for porn. I'd add that porn is an easy craving to fill, just by the fact that Freeones is here.. not to mention every other corner, street and highway on the 'net.
Porn is easy, quick and light - like gumdrops or whatever pocket candy people pop. If porn were expensive and or elusive, the cravers would then be easier to divide from the addicts.
OTOH Porn has definitely helped nudge me indirectly spend more on "it" or miss doing real work in the office or at home. (Bigger computers, storage, displays, RAM... all upgraded not only for porn, but certainly somewhere it played a role.) And there are times, like right now, that I should be doing some odds and ends work, but instead I am here, doing some modding, but soon to be checking out what's new in my subscribed babes' lists.
I think, and this is something that I was told by "the older kids" a long time ago - when you have a compulsion or a craving for something sexual (going on a date, calling an ex, going to a sex club, picking up a girl on the corner...)..... just pinch one out at home. Suddenly, the world can seem level again and the craving (and whatever side effect it would have had - spending money, spending time) is at least reduced or even better pushed away, at least for a while.
And, at least porn doesn't chemically make you dependent in the same ways that drugs, smoking or even alcohol can... so at least that's one plus.
I would not say that I am addicted to porn, and I wouldn't even say that I really crave it that much. I have just gotten used to the idea of being around here, and checking out babes, in my free time, instead of reading the paper or watching something (stupid) on TV. Call it a pleasant diversion when I say I have the time. :2 cents:
I know that there are some people that think that addictions are weaknesses, and claim not to have any, but in my experience, everyone has addictions.
I think that Homerise really made a good portrayal of the craving for porn. I'd add that porn is an easy craving to fill, just by the fact that Freeones is here.. not to mention every other corner, street and highway on the 'net.
Porn is easy, quick and light - like gumdrops or whatever pocket candy people pop. If porn were expensive and or elusive, the cravers would then be easier to divide from the addicts.
OTOH Porn has definitely helped nudge me indirectly spend more on "it" or miss doing real work in the office or at home. (Bigger computers, storage, displays, RAM... all upgraded not only for porn, but certainly somewhere it played a role.) And there are times, like right now, that I should be doing some odds and ends work, but instead I am here, doing some modding, but soon to be checking out what's new in my subscribed babes' lists.
I think, and this is something that I was told by "the older kids" a long time ago - when you have a compulsion or a craving for something sexual (going on a date, calling an ex, going to a sex club, picking up a girl on the corner...)..... just pinch one out at home. Suddenly, the world can seem level again and the craving (and whatever side effect it would have had - spending money, spending time) is at least reduced or even better pushed away, at least for a while.
And, at least porn doesn't chemically make you dependent in the same ways that drugs, smoking or even alcohol can... so at least that's one plus.
I would not say that I am addicted to porn, and I wouldn't even say that I really crave it that much. I have just gotten used to the idea of being around here, and checking out babes, in my free time, instead of reading the paper or watching something (stupid) on TV. Call it a pleasant diversion when I say I have the time. :2 cents:
I'm taking what sputnik said a little out of context, but I agree that your problem is that you are getting gratification out of images instead of real people. I think you should get gratification out of real people. When you are getting horny you should get out of the house and peep in people's windows until you find people having sex, or at least a hot housewife. Then jerk off in the bushes along side their house. Eventually you'll be caught and go to jail, where there is not likely to be any porn. By the time you get out of jail, you'll realize you don't need porn anymore, since you've lived without it while in jail. You'll have cured your addiction. And as an added deterrent, you probably won't want to see anyone else's penis either for awhile.
seriously ive been through like 100's of gb's of porn and its like shiiit i've seen it all! it gets boring and gets to the point that u just need real pussy.. of course you gotta look at it every now and then. and seriously u just get tired RIGHT after and cant work!? shit i bust a nut n get goin to work lol its not like u just smoked a joint and ur burning out!
angelfire1972
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don't stop just go on
Sputnik is correct here.
I would simply add that once you realize that "Porn will still be there when you want it" you'll realize that you can easily go 1, 2, 3, 4 days without surfing for it.
I used to think "Shit! I need to surf and find it before it goes away!"
Now..I frankly get bored looking at the same shit over and over and over...It gets somewhat boring to see the same clips.
Maybe you should sign up for WantedList and let yourself have 2 Movies for a week...you can let the mailing process be your "Porn Detox"...it takes about 5-6 days to get a new movie thru WantedList...
Fwiw...you don't really sound like an addict. You sound more like a "excited fan" for lack of a better word. Have you surfed for porn for 6-8 hrs a day? Have you had multi-sessions in a day? Have you lost business, missed appointments because you wanted to or lost track of time while surfing for porn?
The other thing to do...is to pick up a sport to play in a community league. Start playing golf or tennis and maybe you'll find some women who you can have actual sex with. I wouldn't worry about "attractive" girls, just find a girl who you think might be a good lay...most of the time the plain janes are the Sexual Tigresses in the sack...attractive girls, like men with huge cocks, sometimes just lay there expecting to be serviced...
I would simply add that once you realize that "Porn will still be there when you want it" you'll realize that you can easily go 1, 2, 3, 4 days without surfing for it.
I used to think "Shit! I need to surf and find it before it goes away!"
Now..I frankly get bored looking at the same shit over and over and over...It gets somewhat boring to see the same clips.
Maybe you should sign up for WantedList and let yourself have 2 Movies for a week...you can let the mailing process be your "Porn Detox"...it takes about 5-6 days to get a new movie thru WantedList...
Fwiw...you don't really sound like an addict. You sound more like a "excited fan" for lack of a better word. Have you surfed for porn for 6-8 hrs a day? Have you had multi-sessions in a day? Have you lost business, missed appointments because you wanted to or lost track of time while surfing for porn?
The other thing to do...is to pick up a sport to play in a community league. Start playing golf or tennis and maybe you'll find some women who you can have actual sex with. I wouldn't worry about "attractive" girls, just find a girl who you think might be a good lay...most of the time the plain janes are the Sexual Tigresses in the sack...attractive girls, like men with huge cocks, sometimes just lay there expecting to be serviced...
It's nearly impossible to quit looking at porn through just willpower, especially if you're at the computer all day. I've tried thousands of times trying to get past a week without porn but eventually by the 2nd or 3rd day (trying my best) I cave in. Part of the reason I think is because i have too much time on my hands whereas if I had places to go,people to see I probably woud've faired better even if it was less time viewing porn (still better than a whole day of viewing).
But again it's almost impossible to stop looking at porn completely.
If you absolutely want to STOP at all cost, here is a start:
(a) install a web filtering software. here's a free one: Naomi freeware internet filter
(b) backup all the porn from your harddrive onto dvd's (if you want to keep it)
(c) delete all the porn from your hardrive (manually) or start clean slate (reformatting computer)
(d) buy a small safe and put all the porn relatated material in it (dvd's,magz,videos etc.)
(e) have someone you trust (a close friend,spouse) be the only person to know the safe combination and have him hold onto it until specified date.
(f) have that same person (or some other trusting person) set a password into the web filtering program so you can't unlock it and look at porn
(g) hide your safe somewhere impossible to find just incase your trusted friend decides to break in your house and steal your porn safe
So now there's no possible way for you too look at porn (atleast not in your house)
goodluck:thumbsup:
But again it's almost impossible to stop looking at porn completely.
If you absolutely want to STOP at all cost, here is a start:
(a) install a web filtering software. here's a free one: Naomi freeware internet filter
(b) backup all the porn from your harddrive onto dvd's (if you want to keep it)
(c) delete all the porn from your hardrive (manually) or start clean slate (reformatting computer)
(d) buy a small safe and put all the porn relatated material in it (dvd's,magz,videos etc.)
(e) have someone you trust (a close friend,spouse) be the only person to know the safe combination and have him hold onto it until specified date.
(f) have that same person (or some other trusting person) set a password into the web filtering program so you can't unlock it and look at porn
(g) hide your safe somewhere impossible to find just incase your trusted friend decides to break in your house and steal your porn safe
So now there's no possible way for you too look at porn (atleast not in your house)
goodluck:thumbsup:
I get tired of porn too sometimes, then I just wanna get laid. But I get lazy to front on easy women and I get too cheap to pay for sex. I also don't wanna go to jail so I rarely blaze since college. I also try cutting down on smoking and drinking at times. But I keep coming back. There are also trading card games and sports, and oh yeah - work. Basically, what I'm trying to say is that for Average Joes like myself, we're too young/old to quit most of the things that keep us happy. Keep everything in moderation. Just have fun.
go get a girl ... porn is cool but damn you need to live your own dreams... I love porn but i love being on top of a hot asian chick too....:thumbsup:
Tie your hands behind your back and see how long it takes you to type with your nose, you'll soon get tired. Hehe!:thumbsup:
Is it really that bad for you???
Is it really that bad for you???
why the fuck stop this addiction?
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