If that's what it takes, a "date night," then that's good. It means you guys have at least one night a week when you push everything else aside and focus on each other.
Now you just need to work up to doing it when the *** is in the house. But that'll come with time.
BTW, it did say a lot when you said she still does things that make you feel like she loves you. That's important. That and honesty, being forward with what you want, etc...