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The Loneliness
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You can get attached to me if you want. :shy:
Lol, sure thing man. :1orglaugh
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Big Poppa Pump
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Lol, you seem to be doing ok making friends on here! :hatsoff:
Well, I have to say FO's is a lot better than Facebook and its motherfucking status updates!!!:cussing:
Stop doing stupid things already and let's hang-out people!!!
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Big Poppa Pump
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Yeah, i hate facebook with a passion. I can understand using it if you have old friends in other parts of country or world, but all my friends live in the same city and know each other so why facebook, why not just meet up. My best friend kept taking pictures of The patriots Tampa Bay game on Sunday to put on facebook so his friends could see it but most of them went to the game anyway and took their own pictures. I just don't get it!
Years ago I listened to an interview with Kurt Vonnegut Jr. In it he was talking about the sixties when he was a figure of some standing amongst, for want of a better term, I will call the counter culture. He would recieve letters from guys coming back from Vietnam or getting out of jail etc about what to do. He suspected that they were looking to join communes or find some sort of radical alternative lifestyle. He used to tell them to go and join a church. You will find people there who genuinely care for you and want to help you.
I'm not religious in the slightest but here in Cincinnati it is impossible not to know churchgoing people. A good friend of mine (female in her 40's) joined crossroads megachurch for the social scene. It has been a real boost for her. She can meet men outside of bars etc. A month or two ago I went along for drinks with a group of her friends. Eight women and me, you gotta like those odds. I was expecting a gang of pious bible thumpers but met a bunch of attractive normal women out for a laugh. I'll be seeing one of them tonight.
Loneliness is corrosive. I'm guessing you are too young to meet people down the pub. Try a church social, if the young women look like the ones in their 30's and 40's you can't lose.
I'm not religious in the slightest but here in Cincinnati it is impossible not to know churchgoing people. A good friend of mine (female in her 40's) joined crossroads megachurch for the social scene. It has been a real boost for her. She can meet men outside of bars etc. A month or two ago I went along for drinks with a group of her friends. Eight women and me, you gotta like those odds. I was expecting a gang of pious bible thumpers but met a bunch of attractive normal women out for a laugh. I'll be seeing one of them tonight.
Loneliness is corrosive. I'm guessing you are too young to meet people down the pub. Try a church social, if the young women look like the ones in their 30's and 40's you can't lose.
I wonder if your studies cost so much pain is it worth it? What about missing ome classes or exams and take a vacation instead or go see old friends.
I know I had a bad period during my college time. So I decided to quit and worked for a while. I did simple work, but it gave me the opportunity to make new friends. After a while I got bored and desperately wanted to go back to school, which I did.
I know I had a bad period during my college time. So I decided to quit and worked for a while. I did simple work, but it gave me the opportunity to make new friends. After a while I got bored and desperately wanted to go back to school, which I did.
Yea I think I'm going to move back home after this quarter and attend the college near there. That way I can take a less rigirous schedual and get a part-time working at a restaurant or something.
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I kind of relate, all my friends are married and have kids and I dont. I get tired of all the "why aint you married or have a steady GF yet?" BS and I tend to just stay away from hanging with them or putting myself in that situation cause it makes me uncomfortable.
I find going for walks or runs with my favorite CD in the IPod and just being friendly to other people by just saying "hi" puts me in a good mood or just going and doing normal things like shopping or going gambling once in a while helps alleiviate the drudgery. Also, concentrating on my work helps keep the mind active sometimes.
I find going for walks or runs with my favorite CD in the IPod and just being friendly to other people by just saying "hi" puts me in a good mood or just going and doing normal things like shopping or going gambling once in a while helps alleiviate the drudgery. Also, concentrating on my work helps keep the mind active sometimes.
Rey C.
Racing is life... anything else is just waiting.
I actually feel for you, Preto. But one of the hardest parts of being 19, or being an adult in your early 20's, is understanding that what you're doing now WILL have a big affect on your future... and I don't just mean money (if you want to become an engineer or anything else just for the money, you're making a big mistake).
You need to find some sort of balance in your life. That's what is going to determine your future happiness. And that's all within you. I like what I heard someone say on some motivational tape I used to have: the enemy is the inner me. Maybe that sounds kind of corny, but isn't it true for the most part? Have you really met all of the girls at your school? Do you really know for a fact that all of them are chasing biz majors? Where I went to school, a lot of the girls were chasing the basketball and football players... especially the ones who seemed to have a good shot of turning pro. But not ALL of them were chasing those guys. They weren't ALL gold diggers. You're just getting a little glimpse of life, my friend.
I was an Econ major as an undergrad and I know that E-school kids work their asses off. I admire your dedication. E-school kids where I went to school had it even harder than the pre-med students. I didn't really have it THAT bad as an undergrad. But I still had to go out and meet people and make an effort.
You're 19!!! :nanner: You have a great opportunity to be in college and to be majoring in a still growing field. Don't fuck up by getting into drugs or drinking to excess! Just find some social balance, try to meet people of like mind (you'll have to do that in the real world too - you engineers are funny about that.), make an effort and enjoy this time in your life - cause life will get a helluva lot tougher going forward. :wave2:
You need to find some sort of balance in your life. That's what is going to determine your future happiness. And that's all within you. I like what I heard someone say on some motivational tape I used to have: the enemy is the inner me. Maybe that sounds kind of corny, but isn't it true for the most part? Have you really met all of the girls at your school? Do you really know for a fact that all of them are chasing biz majors? Where I went to school, a lot of the girls were chasing the basketball and football players... especially the ones who seemed to have a good shot of turning pro. But not ALL of them were chasing those guys. They weren't ALL gold diggers. You're just getting a little glimpse of life, my friend.
I was an Econ major as an undergrad and I know that E-school kids work their asses off. I admire your dedication. E-school kids where I went to school had it even harder than the pre-med students. I didn't really have it THAT bad as an undergrad. But I still had to go out and meet people and make an effort.
You're 19!!! :nanner: You have a great opportunity to be in college and to be majoring in a still growing field. Don't fuck up by getting into drugs or drinking to excess! Just find some social balance, try to meet people of like mind (you'll have to do that in the real world too - you engineers are funny about that.
), make an effort and enjoy this time in your life - cause life will get a helluva lot tougher going forward. :wave2:
Not sure if this will help you but...if you have a laptop, bring it to a café to do some work there. Even if you are by yourself in the café you will still be around people. If you want, take a break and observe the people. I know how you feel about being down, I think we've all been there but YOU hang in there!
Excercise of course is great, if not the best way. Call an old friend. Something like that.
There's always here too! :thumbsup: :nanner:
Just what I was going to say.....I love Starbucks......great place to hang out for a few hours, and lots of hot girls too. :thumbsup:
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Sometimes, listen to your favorite songs and favorite bands, it cheers you up, and just learn about different things. Things you never knew about, you have discover them and just learned them.
My loneliness I really have is: Don't have friends - I'm not a mean person, or anything, and it's hard to find the right true friends, a person you can trust, and they will always keep your trust, and will always support you, and don't be a stab backer, and just will turn your back, then don't have a boyfriend.
My family member said: ''You're only 20 years old'', ''You're a kid'', ''You have your whole life ahead of you'', ''You will have time for friends
(The true good friends and boyfriend, meeting your special someone and get married)'', ''You're still very young, you're only 20'', ''You won't be single rest of your life''.
I will agree
I'm only 20 years old- Yes, I'm still a kid/ I can't even drink yet. I guess, I shouldn't worry about myself. I just turn (20 years old) last month. I have my parents that care about me, love me, and always support me.
My loneliness I really have is: Don't have friends - I'm not a mean person, or anything, and it's hard to find the right true friends, a person you can trust, and they will always keep your trust, and will always support you, and don't be a stab backer, and just will turn your back, then don't have a boyfriend.
My family member said: ''You're only 20 years old'', ''You're a kid'', ''You have your whole life ahead of you'', ''You will have time for friends
(The true good friends and boyfriend, meeting your special someone and get married)'', ''You're still very young, you're only 20'', ''You won't be single rest of your life''.
I will agree
I'm only 20 years old- Yes, I'm still a kid/ I can't even drink yet. I guess, I shouldn't worry about myself. I just turn (20 years old) last month. I have my parents that care about me, love me, and always support me.
Tell me about it Nichelle...
All the people I ever considered 'friends' stabbed me in the back or just abandoned me even though all I ever gave them was my complete trust.
As for people saying that "you have your whole life ahead of you" .... what the hell is the point if I can't even think of a time when I was truly happy? I try to stay optimistic, but I just can't help but question if time will really make things better.
I've tried clubs (martial arts and church groups), sports (football), starting up conversations with random other people, and tons of other things and none of them seem to work for me. I guess that I'm like the kid from Catcher in the Rye in the sense that I just end up feeling like people are phonies.
To the people in this thread who said that I should hang out at places like Starbucks: I just find going to places like that even more depressing. I look at all the happy people around me and I feel just like a wolf howling at the moon...
All the people I ever considered 'friends' stabbed me in the back or just abandoned me even though all I ever gave them was my complete trust.
As for people saying that "you have your whole life ahead of you" .... what the hell is the point if I can't even think of a time when I was truly happy? I try to stay optimistic, but I just can't help but question if time will really make things better.
I've tried clubs (martial arts and church groups), sports (football), starting up conversations with random other people, and tons of other things and none of them seem to work for me. I guess that I'm like the kid from Catcher in the Rye in the sense that I just end up feeling like people are phonies.
To the people in this thread who said that I should hang out at places like Starbucks: I just find going to places like that even more depressing. I look at all the happy people around me and I feel just like a wolf howling at the moon...
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I have the same problem too. It's like if you go to the mall, and any other place, look at the happy people, and even the happy couples.
The whole life ahead of me - I really meant is: I have years to come, and not really old, I'm still young and shouldn't rush, if you don't rush to find friends and a special one, getting the wrong type, then you be feeling sorry at the end, not been really patient. Take a day at a time, and stay strong.
Ugh! Don't even get get me started on seeing happy couples... I'd rather have someone stabbing me in the back...
I've been taking it one day at a time since about 7th grade when I was diagnosed with depression and it feels like it has been an eternity since then...
I've been taking it one day at a time since about 7th grade when I was diagnosed with depression and it feels like it has been an eternity since then...
Rey C.
Racing is life... anything else is just waiting.
Just given your take on certain things in previous posts, I was going to ask you about that (clinical depression). But I figured that might be getting a little too personal.
Good luck to you though.
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You're only 19, and I'm 20. Heck, people would love to be our ages again.
Preto, what makes you happy ? I think, you do have a depression/maybe a low self esteem about yourself, I have low self-esteem too, and also a depression problem. You alots of time - I know, you don't like that. But, you're not dead either, and it's not you're 91 years old, instead of being 19. If you're a good person - Good things will happen for you, just have to be patient, and wait for the right time. You're not the only one, I have the same problems as you. You're not dead - You can accomplish everything in life, and feel bad for people that didn't get their chance, and people that were so badly sick, and couldn't recover and just died, didn't accomplish their dreams and things they wanted to do in life.
To the OP: As a guy who has been an engineering student, dropped out, worked making decent money in construction, partied hard, got married, had a kid, and now gone back to school to finish off my engineering so I can afford to give my family everything that I want to give them, let me tell you, just sacrifice these few years. Lonely, tired, caffeine dependent, whatever it is, fuck it, just get your grades, get your degree, and when it's all over you can buy all the fun you want while all those business students that are getting all the action now graduate with their mediocre degrees to get deputy manager's jobs at Target. Stay the course, it's worth it.
^^ Thanks, it's nice to hear it from the horse's mouth.
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"Some will win, some will lose, some were born to sing the blues." - Steve Perry
"I don't know what to do and I'm always in the dark. I'm living in a powder keg and giving off a spark." - Bonnie Tyler
"Some will win, some will lose, some were born to sing the blues." - Steve Perry
"I don't know what to do and I'm always in the dark. I'm living in a powder keg and giving off a spark." - Bonnie Tyler
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