It's sad, but he's the closest thing to a true friend I've ever had. As for the girls, everyone told me it would change after highschool, but the girls here in college are exactly the same except instead of the McDonald's worker, they go for the 'Buisness Majors' (No offense to anyone who is one). Even when I think about my life after college, I feel like it will be the same way. I look at average marriages today and I'm worried that, after all my hard work, the woman I marry might just leave me so she can take half of what I own. I sometimes feel that not just women, but a lot of people are shallow. Friends only talk or hangout with you when it suits them and women only like you if you have what they want. I know I'm making a bunch of skeptic generalizations, but what I've observed in my experience leads me to think that they are true.
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It's sad, but he's the closest thing to a true friend I've ever had. As for the girls, everyone told me it would change after highschool, but the girls here in college are exactly the same except instead of the McDonald's worker, they go for the 'Buisness Majors' (No offense to anyone who is one). Even when I think about my life after college, I feel like it will be the same way. I look at average marriages today and I'm worried that, after all my hard work, the woman I marry might just leave me so she can take half of what I own. I sometimes feel that not just women, but a lot of people are shallow. Friends only talk or hangout with you when it suits them and women only like you if you have what they want. I know I'm making a bunch of skeptic generalizations, but what I've observed in my experience leads me to think that they are true.
Yea, but the songs I listen to probably don't help much. They're either melancholy or all- out-rage songs. Seems like I need to go searching for some new material. :tongue:
:2offtopicHowever, you did just make me think of a great song. Listen to it if you've got the time:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ltAGuuru7Q
:2offtopicHowever, you did just make me think of a great song. Listen to it if you've got the time:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ltAGuuru7Q
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Just going out and about, getting fresh air, and going to the mall and order my favorite drink @ Gloria Jeans, and then going to the bookstore. I love books and magazines, and going to the store.
Not sure if this will help you but...if you have a laptop, bring it to a café to do some work there. Even if you are by yourself in the café you will still be around people. If you want, take a break and observe the people. I know how you feel about being down, I think we've all been there but YOU hang in there!
Excercise of course is great, if not the best way. Call an old friend. Something like that.
There's always here too! :thumbsup: :nanner:
this is good advice, even if you dont interact with the people around you, you still have them in your area making you feel less alone. Last year i worked nearly all year round, hardly ever went clubbing at the weekend and seen my friends on the odd occasion, it does feel horrible but if your doing it for a reason (like you said being an engineering student) then it feels worthwhile in the end, as all the hard work youve done has paid off.
keep in there you'll come out the other side soon enough.
Big Poppa Pump
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I found in my first year of college it was a bit rough what with missing my friends and all, but a good way around that is to stay in touch via internet. Also, surround yourself with things you like. I had my South Park and WWE posters from home covering my walls in my dorm room. Bring a lot of stuff from home, like your favorite DVD's and XBOX/PS3 (essential for boys!) Also, some of the people in your class might be apprehensive at first, but you will make friends. I didn't make any real friends at college until January in my first year as my dorm was full of Rugby and Hockey Jocks. You will make friends and it will get better.
Good Luck man!
Good Luck man!
There is light at the end of the tunnel. A friend of mine dropped out of engineering so he could party with us and hang out all the time. He never went back, and now he works 55 hours a week at some shit restaurant. Don't be like that.
Keep yourself sane with some good instrumental music.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JzIK5FaC38w
Keep yourself sane with some good instrumental music.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JzIK5FaC38w
I'm not going to show you any sympathy because (if you're being honest with your profile) you are a 19 yr old college student in Cincy. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO FEEL SHITTY. Wait 15 years and then start this thread.
A bit of advice. College is not a place where you wait around and get your ass kissed. College undergrads are at the low end of the totem pole.
HOWEVER...the entire College experience is LAID OUT FOR YOU.
You must simply go find it. Join some fucking clubs. You will meet a shitload of people. If you have hobbies chances are there's a club for you on campus.
Find a sport and play it. If you don't know how to play a sport, take a sport class (Soccer 101, for example) and you will meet people and keep yourself in shape.
Basically, academics are not an excuse at this point in your life. You will always find time for social activities. Just be smart about it. Speak up for yourself and smile.
A bit of advice. College is not a place where you wait around and get your ass kissed. College undergrads are at the low end of the totem pole.
HOWEVER...the entire College experience is LAID OUT FOR YOU.
You must simply go find it. Join some fucking clubs. You will meet a shitload of people. If you have hobbies chances are there's a club for you on campus.
Find a sport and play it. If you don't know how to play a sport, take a sport class (Soccer 101, for example) and you will meet people and keep yourself in shape.
Basically, academics are not an excuse at this point in your life. You will always find time for social activities. Just be smart about it. Speak up for yourself and smile.
Yes, I'm 100% honest with my profile. I was wondering when that first kick in the ass was coming; I have to say I'm a little more responsive to those. Thanks for the advice TR and everyone else who posted so far!
This might sound odd, but when I feel down, I turn to cartoons. 
Seriously. Like Family Guy, South Park, The Simpsons, and so on. Even The Flintstones or Looney Tunes if I can find them on somewhere. It makes me laugh and honestly I really think the bright colors help lift my spirits. I don't know if it will work for you or anyone else, but it really does help me.
And don't forget your good friends here at FreeOnes. I honestly get a lot of laughs here too.
Seriously. Like Family Guy, South Park, The Simpsons, and so on. Even The Flintstones or Looney Tunes if I can find them on somewhere. It makes me laugh and honestly I really think the bright colors help lift my spirits. I don't know if it will work for you or anyone else, but it really does help me. And don't forget your good friends here at FreeOnes.
I honestly get a lot of laughs here too.
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Excellent advice from both IMO. Yes, get some air into your lungs; make sure you are eating well also. If you suffer from a poor diet then that will hinder your progress and depress your mindset. Keep hydrated also, lots of sipping of water. And, yes, you're working hard but make sure you get enough sleep. And chill out in the evening; watch a movie on the telly before you go to sleep.
And yes, as MJ said, the time will fly be. It always does:thumbsup:
The Lonely Man Theme (from the Incredible Hulk)
busenbust
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lol, I love the spoof of that in Family Guy!:1orglaugh
When I feel down, I watch something funny on TV to make me laugh.
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- lots of exercise
- healthy food
- plenty of sleep
- time away from work/study to relax and do things you like to do
- look forward to the sweet life you'll have earning big $$$ as an engineer
- talk to your board buddies @ Freeones
- if you are 'down' continuously despite attempts to perk yourself up, definitely see a doctor. Understand that these feelings are very common.
- healthy food
- plenty of sleep
- time away from work/study to relax and do things you like to do
- look forward to the sweet life you'll have earning big $$$ as an engineer
- talk to your board buddies @ Freeones
- if you are 'down' continuously despite attempts to perk yourself up, definitely see a doctor. Understand that these feelings are very common.
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I really think TR had it right. I know how you feel, I am an Army wife and we move constantly so im always having to make new friends. We are actually in Korea right now so imagine having all your friends and family like in another country. Like TR said though clubs & stuff like that. When I first got to Korea I was going crazy having nothing to do, but then I went and found stuff to volunteer with and now I am a girl scout leader for two different troops, I run a book club on Sundays and I volunteer at the library. Just go and find out whats out there. There is bound to be something that your interested in that you could do where you could meet people. Honestly with the whole 'girls only going for certain guys' thing, so what? Those obviously are stupid & shallow girls and are those really girls that you would want to be interested in? How about you put aside one day a month and go give out meals at a soup kitchen, meet other volunteers, a girl with some brains & a heart not just boobs and an ass. I'm 19 too so I know how it can be but theres always ways to meet people. If all else fails, use the Starbucks trick. If your standing behind a cute girl at Starbucks (or any coffee place will work) listen to what she orders and order the same thing, then when you here it called 'accidentally' take her drink and say "oh is this one yours? so sorry its just that I drink the same thing." Then go on to introduce yourself and voila! You've got a new friend. Anyways sorry for the ramble, hope you feel better soon & Good Luck!
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I've just been feeling really down lately. Being an Engineering student requires me to do so much work that I'm stuck in my room calculating while everyone else is partying. I've been separated from all my friends from last year, because of scheduals and I don't have anytime to meet some new ones. People just don't want to talk during class like they used to and my dorm this year is like a ghost town. The lack of human interaction is what is really eating at me. All I know is that it's a bad sign when you don't even feel like jacking it. Does anyone have any advice?
No one had better be cracking therapist jokes, because I already see one and I'm on pills. Sometimes, therapists just don't help and neither do pills. I'm not suicidal or emo, just really down. I also don't care if there is already a similar thread, this one's for me. If after all this, you still give me shit, all I have to say is 'Fuck You!' :thefinger
So Ronery....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xh_9QhRzJEs
Advice? Yeah, keep fucking studying and making the grade. College will be over sooner than you think and you'll have plenty of time to party when you're making a nice living.:2 cents:
I'm an Airforce Brat. I was born in the Netherlands and came to the states when I was three. We moved around a lot and, when I look back at it, I think that's the main reason I don't really have any friends. I got used to not really getting too attatched to anyone, because it sucked too much to lose them when we moved away. I've tried facebook and myspace, but none of that shit really cuts it. But I digress, TR did have the right idea.
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