So I gave the girl I like from work a birthday card and gift

[Psychology]

It was a gift certificate. She read the card and got alll emotional. And thanked me like 5 million times. So at the end of the day she pulls me aside. I'm thinking that this is finally it, but oh no. She says that she will keep the card forever and that it was as amazing card that I picked out that she will cherish because she felt that I truly felt that way about her. Finally, she said she hopes that we can be friends forever.

So yeah, the girl I'm madly in love with wants to be my friend forever. I'm not even the "walk all over me" nice guy that women hate, I'm just a respectable guy, that's all. So yeah, I don't even know what the fuck to do now. She's in a relationship and has explicitly told me that she does't cheat and has stated numerous times that she loves her boyfriend, but I'd be the perfect boyfriend for a girl, blah blah. Why does fate love shitting on me?

 

[NINjaKitten]

Not to be harsh man, I hope I don't come off that way, but when a girl has told you straight up that she has a boyfriend, and loves him and has no desire to cheat on him, you gotta sometimes let it go. It was a really nice thing you did for her, but you shouldn't have gotten your hopes up so much. I know it sucks, but try to move on ok?

 

[Psychology]

Not to be harsh man, I hope I don't come off that way, but when a girl has told you straight up that she has a boyfriend, and loves him and has no desire to cheat on him, you gotta sometimes let it go. It was a really nice thing you did for her, but you shouldn't have gotten your hopes up so much. I know it sucks, but try to move on ok?

I try, man, I try. I've tried every since she said no the first time I asked her out. However, everyday I see her those feelings come right back. The fact that she keeps giving me compliments doesn't help matters either.

 

[Jane Burgess]

Not to be harsh man, I hope I don't come off that way, but when a girl has told you straight up that she has a boyfriend, and loves him and has no desire to cheat on him, you gotta sometimes let it go. It was a really nice thing you did for her, but you shouldn't have gotten your hopes up so much. I know it sucks, but try to move on ok?

I have to agree.

 

[Jane Burgess]

I try, man, I try. I've tried every since she said no the first time I asked her out. However, everyday I see her those feelings come right back. The fact that she keeps giving me compliments doesn't help matters either.

She sees you as a friend. If she does not want to take it to another level not much you can do but move on. I know that sucks but you have to do it.

 

[Legzman]

your in the friend zone great fucking job. Now your shit outta luck!

 

[Psychology]

your in the friend zone great fucking job. Now your shit outta luck!

Indeed

 

[Will E Worm]

Finally, she said she hopes that we can be friends forever.

Nice one. :tongue:

Keep trying. If her boyfriend loved her, he would have put a ring on her finger by now and she would be married.

She is fair game until then.

 

[Wainkerr99]

I have noticed whenever women get gushy about their boyfriends, they are planning on leaving him. They like keeping a back door open.

I would not give up, but just be there. I would take this whole I love my boyfriend spiel with a whole Table Mountain full of salt.

Having said that, I would not recommend being pushy or too soft. It is a game.

Here's something from the latest blonde money spinner:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LLMJvVdS1go

 

[Galactic]

Why does fate love shitting on me?

My friend, fate is not shitting on you. You're kind of shitting on yourself. You said that she is in a committed relationship, and that she has told you that she would never cheat on her boyfriend.

Why do you continue to beat your head against a brick wall?

Believe me, I have been madly in love with a girl that had a fiancee, and it broke my heart to see that it would never happen with us. But, I think you need to ask yourself, why are you so enamoured with her?

There are plenty of girls out there, and while you may not find one as cool as this one, you just might discover that there is one waiting for you out in the ever more who is actually more right for you, and, she'll be single.

Give yourself some credit, let this one go, and keep on the hunt brother.

 

[Psychology]

My friend, fate is not shitting on you. You're kind of shitting on yourself. You said that she is in a committed relationship, and that she has told you that she would never cheat on her boyfriend.

Why do you continue to beat your head against a brick wall?

Believe me, I have been madly in love with a girl that had a fiancee, and it broke my heart to see that it would never happen with us. But, I think you need to ask yourself, why are you so enamoured with her?

There are plenty of girls out there, and while you may not find one as cool as this one, you just might discover that there is one waiting for you out in the ever more who is actually more right for you, and, she'll be single.

Give yourself some credit, let this one go, and keep on the hunt brother.

I'm not exactly a guy with a lot of options, bro

 

[naldo]

see how fucked up chicks can be. look ladies.. no guy want to be friends we want to fuck you brains loose! no friends bullshit. here's what you should do get a box gift wrap it with a big bow. make a hole in the bottom and put your cock in it go to her house and say"hey, i have another present i really want to give you" if she gets all bent out a shape look really sad and squeeze out a tear. maybe at least you will get a sympathy blowjob.

 

[Will E Worm]

see how fucked up chicks can be. look ladies.. no guy want to be friends we want to fuck you brains loose! no friends bullshit. here's what you should do get a box gift wrap it with a big bow. make a hole in the bottom and put your cock in it go to her house and say"hey, i have another present i really want to give you" if she gets all bent out a shape look really sad and squeeze out a tear. maybe at least you will get a sympathy blowjob.

Speak for yourself. :tongue:

I won't play games with females, but I can be friends.

The games between males and females has to stop.
It is ludicrous and not needed.

It also explains why people wonder why they are still unmarried or alone at thirty.
Not everyone, just the ones who sleep around.

No one wants to buy the cow if the milk is free. Moooooo :tongue:

 

[Philbert]

Speak for yourself. :tongue:

I won't play games with females, but I can be friends.

The games between males and females has to stop.
It is ludicrous and not needed.

It also explains why people wonder why they are still unmarried or alone at thirty.
Not everyone, just the ones who sleep around.

No one wants to buy the cow if the milk is free. Moooooo :tongue:

Your obvious lack of experience is showing...
If you really like the milk, or the cow, you wanna keep her. Not all cows are the same, and some milk has a special flavor all it's own.
There...I kept it all "milk cow" analogies to make it easier to follow. Did that help any?

 

[Will E Worm]

Your obvious lack of experience is showing...
If you really like the milk, or the cow, you wanna keep her. Not all cows are the same, and some milk has a special flavor all it's own.
There...I kept it all "milk cow" analogies to make it easier to follow. Did that help any?

Why? Who wants to keep a used farm animal?

 

[Galactic]

I'm not exactly a guy with a lot of options, bro

But that's my point man. If you continue to think of yourself with not a lot of options, then that is exactly the result you will get every time. I hear ya. I do. I was in the exact same situation. But you have to give yourself some credit, and keep after the hunt. You have to.

She has already expressed what seem like some pretty heart felt feelings about you to you, which, from my perspective, tells me that you really are a cool guy worthy of an awesome girl.

Use that.

But stop wasting your skills on some girl that you can't have. Start applying it to other girls. Keep your your eyes peeled....if you shut yourself down, and don't allow yourself to remain open to other possibilities, then you will be left wanting someone you can't have, and may end up missing out on something really special.

I'm not trying to be harsh with you, I'm not. Just trying to give you some encouragement to go out and kick the worlds' ass.

 

[hiropro]

As soon as she said friends forever,that was it.The words you don`t want to hear.Happened to me before.You`ll find someone.

 

[Rolly1969]

I try, man, I try. I've tried every since she said no the first time I asked her out. However, everyday I see her those feelings come right back. The fact that she keeps giving me compliments doesn't help matters either.

I was in the exact same situation. She was perfect and called me her best friend. I never told her I was in love with her because was in a relationship and I knew him. He wasn't a close friend but he was a nice guy. I never mess with other people's relationships. She however told me she was in love with me but she was also in love with him. After a while I had to quit my job cause it was killin me having to see her every day and just being a good friend. I was hurting a lot but I knew I had to move on. So I did.

About a year later I met someone else. I've been calling her my wife and better half for some time now. We have 3 great kids and a wonderful life. I've been married for a couple of years now and I tell you I don't just love my wife but I'm still in love with her.

What I'm trying to tell you is that if you don't get out of this situation you'll never know what good things are waiting for you down the line. Please don't sit around waiting on her. You'll lose valuable time you can never get back. Believe me you have more options then you think. Good luck my friend!!

 

[calpoon]

I think that you are asking too much. sure sex is great, the special feeling that you get when you are in a relationship is the best... but having a friend to be there for you sure beats being alone.

There's been a lot of cows to milk (hah, thanks for that analogy Will) and when they are gone, I don't care. It's the girls who were true friends to me that I miss more than anything else.

 

[blake]

I try, man, I try. I've tried every since she said no the first time I asked her out. However, everyday I see her those feelings come right back. The fact that she keeps giving me compliments doesn't help matters either.

Don't necessarily put this chick on a pedestal. Don't forget women have egos too andlike them too be stroked. No matter how nice she is, some part of her seems to be gratified by knowing that even though she loves her man, you want her bad, she knows it and enjoys giving you just enough non-direct encouragement to stay hooked on her line.

Or, she compliments you because she does like you as a friend and wants you to feel good about yourself. Thats what girlfriends do for each other. Watch them interact sometime "Oh you're new outfit looks great on you". "No, i wish I had your hair" blah blah, Just because a man would never say that to a man when women do it we assume they must want us to fuck them.