So I gave the girl I like from work a birthday card and gift
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face the truth: she makes you feel good. you want to keep it that way. nothing wrong with it. go for it without forcing anything. maybe she's the one but the odds are against it. best for you if she makes the first serious move. meanwhile fully explore other options. do not make her the sole object of your attentions. don't put all your chips on her. spread the love, be nice and cheerful at all times. it'll all work out if you are cool. 
face the truth: she makes you feel good. you want to keep it that way. nothing wrong with it. go for it without forcing anything. maybe she's the one but the odds are against it. best for you if she makes the first serious move. meanwhile fully explore other options. do not make her the sole object of your attentions. don't put all your chips on her. spread the love, be nice and cheerful at all times. it'll all work out if you are cool.
The optimism doesn't really work anymore. I'm 26 and haven't even made out with a girl yet. Every morning at work we have to wait out back for the buses to come in (I work at a day hab center for those with developmental disabilities). I have to wait with 3 of my female co-workers, her being one of them. Everyday I have to listen to how the 3 of them have constant sex and love and companionship. It drive me insane with anger and jealousy. And them seeing that (and me often expressing it) probably makes them do it even more to spite me.
But meh, I'm just ranting at this point. Sorry for the whinning.
Hey man, I'll try to reply best I can.
First off, I think you're just another victim of the modern image of "the man". You're one of those guys (like me) who does not feel comfortable being a club-goer with the Game as your bible. First thing you have to do is realize this. Sorry if I'm making any assumptions but you remind me of myself. Accept and embrace the fact that your qualities isn't a six-pack and overdose of self-confidence - it's other things (arguably more important things.)
Sadly, guys like us shine when already in relationships, not when commencing one. Which is why we don't get that many one-night stands, and might end up feeling like losers.
I'm certain you're a good guy. And it's a shame that you've fallen in love with an occupied chick. But whatever you do, don't give up. You gotta keep hope alive, just don't let it contain you. Whoever says you should give it up, sorry for saying this, does not know passionate love. It sounds cheesy but I know exactly how you feel! I gave up on two girls I felt that way about because of this exact reason - them having boyfriends. The first one even said I was the love of her life, but stupid me didn't have the balls to steal her from her boyfriend still.
And you always end up regretting it.
So keep being nice to her (not pushy) and eventually the crazy love will tone down. If it doesn't, or if she breaks up with her boyfriend, tell her all of this! Don't just say "uhm.. I like you.. kinda", tell her the whole truth.
Dude, just because you're 26 and a virgin doesn't mean you're some sort of idiot or freak. You just probably haven't gotten the opportunity yet. But now, with a girl this close, you have. Congratulations.
First off, I think you're just another victim of the modern image of "the man". You're one of those guys (like me) who does not feel comfortable being a club-goer with the Game as your bible. First thing you have to do is realize this. Sorry if I'm making any assumptions but you remind me of myself. Accept and embrace the fact that your qualities isn't a six-pack and overdose of self-confidence - it's other things (arguably more important things.)
Sadly, guys like us shine when already in relationships, not when commencing one. Which is why we don't get that many one-night stands, and might end up feeling like losers.
I'm certain you're a good guy. And it's a shame that you've fallen in love with an occupied chick. But whatever you do, don't give up. You gotta keep hope alive, just don't let it contain you. Whoever says you should give it up, sorry for saying this, does not know passionate love. It sounds cheesy but I know exactly how you feel! I gave up on two girls I felt that way about because of this exact reason - them having boyfriends. The first one even said I was the love of her life, but stupid me didn't have the balls to steal her from her boyfriend still.
And you always end up regretting it.
So keep being nice to her (not pushy) and eventually the crazy love will tone down. If it doesn't, or if she breaks up with her boyfriend, tell her all of this! Don't just say "uhm.. I like you.. kinda", tell her the whole truth.
Dude, just because you're 26 and a virgin doesn't mean you're some sort of idiot or freak. You just probably haven't gotten the opportunity yet. But now, with a girl this close, you have. Congratulations.
