It's a dance, but she leads ...
Here's a tough question . . .
When do you know it's "ok" to start getting rough in bed with a girl?
When my wife barks "you're not not fucking me hard enough, fuck me harder!"
I'm just talking spanking (while fucking), spitting, and really, really hard fucking.
You're really talking "mood" more than anything.
Don't assume the "mood" you like is what your lover necessarily likes.
If you really want that, then look for a lover who enjoys it.
Things had gone well. I'd known her for about a year, we'd fucked fairly normally at least 10 or so times. When I was taking her doggy one night I started pounding her harder than usual and I pulled her hair back and spanked her.
So you assume
all women like that?
That absolutely KILLED our night, and it took an hour of apologizing to get her to even finish me off.
Damn, no offense, but if your motivation to apologize was to get her to finish you off, then you outta rethink what making love is (even to a stranger). If I was her, I'd really question "how sorry" you were. I know that sounds like I'm demonizing you, but just how you presented this really makes me wonder. My apologies if you actually were sincere in your apology.
So how exactly does a guy know when to draw the line?
Asking is out of the question.
He should "draw the line" when he feels he shouldn't ask.
To me hot *soft/rough* sex is like a good dance.
Preach it sister! It is a dance, and
she leads!
Men, you can't "feel" your lover (and I don't mean "feel" at your cock) if your body isn't entangled with her. It's those subtle motions that make all the difference, "body language" for real. Although every woman speaks a different language, there are some commonality to all women -- especially the expressions and sounds of what she
does not like.
If you just jump and "bang her," you can't tell a thing! But if you're, say, doggie style and have your face up against hers, if you start "pounding harder" at a steady, but increased pace, you can get a feel from her reactions, motions and possibly even a whisper if she likes it or wants you to slow it down a bit.
So many men
absolutely suck and providing oral to a woman because they don't go slow and listen, using moments in between to gage what she does and doesn't like. My wife was the hardest nut to crack because her vulva is so different than most of the other women I had been with prior, so she constantly shy'd away from it because all of her prior lovers didn't turn her on at all when they did it.
A nudge, a whisper or a slight change of direction gives a clue. Know your partner.
Understatement of the year! Yes, it helps if you know your lover longer, but you can still "read" a woman in 1 night stand by intertwining and reading her body. Yes, one time I had a 1-nighter lover get pissed off because she felt I was "fucking around" and going "too slow." But overwhelmingly they will really enjoy it (and call you again).
Trust me, there's nothing like surprising a girl with a hard fuck.
Yeah, and those that
do not like the "surprise" might "surprise" you in another way.
Just remember that over 10% of all married women will be raped by their husband sometime during their marriage.
