Rejected in front of my new job

[Peter Gazinya]

Ask her out every day, suggest a little "anal" in the supply closet, tell the receptionist she looks hot, pinch her ass and call her "toots", tell the boss it is likely you could kick his ass, take a bite out of each and every persons' lunch that is in the break room refrigerator, send porn to your coworkers over your company e-mail address, and do everything else you can think of to make your job miserable and most likely get you fired other than asking a girl out at work 3 weeks into it in front of everybody else.

Have you thought any of this through :dunno:

:wtf:

 

[Psychology]

yeah, I plan on doing this job for a good while. Guess I'll return tomorrow morning and sit quietly in the corner.

 

[meesterperfect]

yeah, I plan on doing this job for a good while. Guess I'll return tomorrow morning and sit quietly in the corner.

You rushed it, should have got to know her ( or let her know you) before the asking out .
You know psych, I live in a city with a hot chick ratio of 100/100.
I literally can't walk 100 feet without seeing at least one beauty.
Pretty much every chic here is incredible.

In my average day I see about 200 or maybe more stunners, and I want to meet them all.
So my strategy as they say is "planting seeds".

How? I either just say "give me your number (after a brief conversation) or even less aggresive " Do you have messenger? Lets exchange emails".
It works, then you talk a few times on messenger......then ask her if she wants to hang out, something simple, like friends not a date.

I know its a little easier for me here because I've got the interesting foreigner thing, plus the women are women here,friendly, charming.... not stuck mental midgets like in the states.....but try it, maybe it will work for you.

 

[bigbadbrody]

yeah, I plan on doing this job for a good while. Guess I'll return tomorrow morning and sit quietly in the corner.

just dont look her in the eyes

 

[shayd]

yeah, I plan on doing this job for a good while. Guess I'll return tomorrow morning and sit quietly in the corner.

You'll be fine, don't worry too much.

 

[extremeb]

yeah, I plan on doing this job for a good while. Guess I'll return tomorrow morning and sit quietly in the corner.

It's probably a blessing in disguise you got shot down...IMO, the golden rule of dating is NEVER date co-workers. What if it ends ugly? You'll have to face her every day at work. Or worse, what if you get serious? You'll have to see her at work all day, at night when you go home, in the morning when you wake up... Generally, I think that it's not such a great idea because you never know what's going to happen, and the last thing you need is to work for hours at a time in an uncomfortable situation.

 

[gunslingingbird]

Refer her to Freeones. We'll be more than happy to vouch for you. :thumbsup:

 

[senob44]

It's probably a blessing in disguise you got shot down...IMO, the golden rule of dating is NEVER date co-workers. What if it ends ugly? You'll have to face her every day at work. Or worse, what if you get serious? You'll have to see her at work all day, at night when you go home, in the morning when you wake up... Generally, I think that it's not such a great idea because you never know what's going to happen, and the last thing you need is to work for hours at a time in an uncomfortable situation.

I've heard this from people before, and I respect your opinion, but I just don't understand it. What is it that is so uncomfortable about having a co-worker that you are dating? Or having a co-worker who you dated and is now an ex? I don't understand this discomfort.... Is this a hallmark of not being comfortable with women in general? What is so hard about dealing with an ex? I could see maybe if the ex was a psycho bitch, but I've never had that experience with an ex. Seems to happen more on TV than in real life.

And as far as being serious with a co-worker, when I'm serious with a girl, I would have no problem being around her all the time. That's the whole reason I would have gotten serious with her in the first place, because I value her company and enjoy being around her. :dunno:

 

[extremeb]

I've heard this from people before, and I respect your opinion, but I just don't understand it. What is it that is so uncomfortable about having a co-worker that you are dating? Or having a co-worker who you dated and is now an ex? I don't understand this discomfort.... Is this a hallmark of not being comfortable with women in general? What is so hard about dealing with an ex? I could see maybe if the ex was a psycho bitch, but I've never had that experience with an ex. Seems to happen more on TV than in real life.

And as far as being serious with a co-worker, when I'm serious with a girl, I would have no problem being around her all the time. That's the whole reason I would have gotten serious with her in the first place, because I value her company and enjoy being around her. :dunno:

Maybe you haven't had the pleasure of this experience yet... It has absolutely nothing to do with not being comfortable with women in general...it has everything to do with not being comfortable with intense emotional situations that happen. How many women have you had a relationship with that ended? Your an emotional wreck, so is she. Now think of having to see her/him all next day. Most relationships end, and you don't see each other for awhile, a cool off period. No cool off period allowed at work is there? Can you call in sick and tell your boss you just broke up with your g/f and you need a couple weeks off? What if he/she IS that psycho, and only after dating her for a few months do you realize it. It's not all Hollywood and TV, it does happen. Women are more emotional about breakups than guys, so think of both sides of this equation.

 

[senob44]

Maybe you haven't had the pleasure of this experience yet... It has absolutely nothing to do with not being comfortable with women in general...it has everything to do with not being comfortable with intense emotional situations that happen. How many women have you had a relationship with that ended? Your an emotional wreck, so is she. Now think of having to see her/him all next day. Most relationships end, and you don't see each other for awhile, a cool off period. No cool off period allowed at work is there? Can you call in sick and tell your boss you just broke up with your g/f and you need a couple weeks off? What if he/she IS that psycho, and only after dating her for a few months do you realize it. It's not all Hollywood and TV, it does happen. Women are more emotional about breakups than guys, so think of both sides of this equation.

I've probably had about 5 serious relationships. The rest were basically just sex. When each of those relationships ended (except this last one I'm in right now) I just had to move on. Usually I tried to hook up with another girl as soon as possible to get my mind off my ex. I know that may not be the healthiest thing to do, but it does a hell of a lot for your confidence. I always thought there was no better feeling than having your ex see you with another girl soon after, or even just walking around feeling confident with your head held high when your ex is around. I certainly have never avoided my ex's after the breakup, regardless of how I felt. Nothing better than making them feel like they meant shit to you, and when they're around all the time, such as at work, you get all the more opportunities to do so. But that's just me, and I know my views and actions are somewhat heartless and not for everybody.

 

[extremeb]

I've probably had about 5 serious relationships. The rest were basically just sex. ......But that's just me, and I know my views and actions are somewhat heartless and not for everybody.

Do you think it's that male ego thing? Gotta be... My past 3 long term relationships ( 3 years or more) including a marriage, ended badly. All were followed with several short term, sex based relationships. We have all stayed in contact (mostly through email) and are quite civil. One was with a co-worker, I lived with her for almost 3 years. Fortunately I was able to talk my boss into a shift in responsibilities where not much contact was necessary. She was seriously emotional and would call me crying at all hours,for weeks, kind of puts a damper on the mood when your ready to make out on the couch. You have to be heartless sometimes to be able to move on. Your absolutely right, it's an incredible confidence boost to hook up again right away.

 

[senob44]

Do you think it's that male ego thing? Gotta be... My past 3 long term relationships ( 3 years or more) including a marriage, ended badly. All were followed with several short term, sex based relationships. We have all stayed in contact (mostly through email) and are quite civil. One was with a co-worker, I lived with her for almost 3 years. Fortunately I was able to talk my boss into a shift in responsibilities where not much contact was necessary. She was seriously emotional and would call me crying at all hours,for weeks, kind of puts a damper on the mood when your ready to make out on the couch. You have to be heartless sometimes to be able to move on. Your absolutely right, it's an incredible confidence boost to hook up again right away.

Yeah, it's an ego thing, a confidence thing, etc.. Since I was about 18 I have been very confident and that has helped me in relationships. When I've gotten serious with a girl, I let my guard down and come off my ego trip somewhat and basically surrender myself to her. But then when the break-up comes, you absolutely must take that confidence back, or regain it, whatever it takes. I'm all about not letting ex's have power over me. It seems like perhaps, my serious relationships have been shorter than yours, so that has probably helped me get over them. In fact, I've only twice been in a relationship over a year, and neither time was with a co-worker. So I really may not have the experience to say that working alongside an ex is not a problem. The longest relationship I had with a co-worker was about 2 1/2 months, but like I said, I had no problem dealing with her at work afterwards, even relishing the opportunity. Possibly I was not all that emotionally invested in the relationship. :dunno:

 

[Peter Gazinya]

It's not because of any of that. It's because of an unfortunate little thing known as "sexual harassment". And by today's idiotic standards, that plump little piece of Asian goodness could fuck up his whole day just by telling someone in HR that he asked her out.

I didn't make the rules, I just know them, and I only break some of them.

 

[jakeri]

Well, the thing is I've always been too nervous to ask out girls and the few times I do, well, you just read what happens.

Sounds too familiar exept I didn't have anyone else near and girl kicked me to balls. (not kidding) And i just asked her to movirs or something.

So be happy you didn't get physically hurt. after that i didn't even think about talking to any girl for about 3months. :/

This happened in high school and the girl was my class mate apparently she quit the school and i never saw her again.

So remember that something even worse has happened to someone else.

 

[Peter Gazinya]

Sounds too familiar exept I didn't have anyone else near and girl kicked me to balls. (not kidding) And i just asked her to movirs or something.

So be happy you didn't get physically hurt. after that i didn't even think about talking to any girl for about 3months. :/

This happened in high school and the girl was my class mate apparently she quit the school and i never saw her again.

So remember that something even worse has happened to someone else.

:rofl2:

 

[jakeri]

i know it sounds funny but please don't laugh it was still very traumatizing

 

[Psychology]

Well, as it turned out, she had a boyfriend, as well as every single girl in the room. Found this out during some class discussions about values in the workplace and all of that jazz. Guess its another of me....thinking about her in bed tonight (while naked).

 

[PlasmaTwa2]

Well, as it turned out, she had a boyfriend, as well as every single girl in the room. Found this out during some class discussions about values in the workplace and all of that jazz. Guess its another of me....thinking about her in bed tonight (while naked).

Did you ask out every other female in the room? :1orglaugh

 

[gunslingingbird]

Feel awkward at work today? :1orglaugh

 

[senob44]

Sounds too familiar exept I didn't have anyone else near and girl kicked me to balls. (not kidding) And i just asked her to movirs or something.

So be happy you didn't get physically hurt. after that i didn't even think about talking to any girl for about 3months. :/

This happened in high school and the girl was my class mate apparently she quit the school and i never saw her again.

So remember that something even worse has happened to someone else.

LOL this is a good story! :1orglaugh