Question on the worth of Virginity

[Super_Noob]

I'll be frank, I'm young and I've never had sex with a girl before.

I like to be a decent guy, valuing a loving and meaningful relationship over a sexual and pointless one (well, maybe not pointless). But if I ever get the chance, I'd bang the fuck out of the first girl that I saw deserving of it. Sex isn't the most important thing in the world to me, but I'm quite curious, am I taking my virginity for granted?

So yeah. Should I fuck the girl the next time I get a chance or should I be a :hatsoff: and stick with :rubbel: ? Do any of you regret losing your's?

 

[KalasHusband]

I think you should wait for someone you love, I know I'm sounding like a real pansy or whatever but I mean I'd say it's worth the wait if you find the right person. I'm in the same boat so I understand what you mean about banging someone you're deserving of but I think you should just wait for the right person.

 

[Undertaker]

You know... it's one of those question that you cant let any one else answer.

Maybe you feel like getting it out of your system, then do it if you have the chance..

Or maybe you want to wait for your marriage or whatever , then wait!

Just do what you feel is right.

Asking other people if you should lose your virginity or not doesn't seem that right you know..

 

[KalasHusband]

Just do what you feel is right.

I think this was a good answer

 

[Super_Noob]

What I feel is right...

I feel that if I love someone, that's all that matters. That'll be my main priority in life. But I've not felt that way about anyone in a long time. However in recent events, I've been getting closer with a lot of women, many of whom I doubt were actually looking for a serious relationship, rather they may have just wanted to have a "fuck buddy", or possibly a one night stand.

But should I have the opportunity to have sex, well then great. Personally I really don't see what the hype is around keeping yourself "pure" for marriage. Is one's virginity REALLY that vital to a person, yet they can't even realize it until they lose it? So many people have been telling me to hold it off until I'm married because it'll feel better and be more special. Is it really that great if you wait? That's what I'm so curious to know.

Especially for many of us who involve ourself with porn, don't you ever come to the point where you're like "fuck it. I just want to fuck now"?.

 

[Iamforever]

remember, just because you love a certain person doesnt mean that you are going to have sex with that person. the girl i lost my virginity to, i hated. so, i say dont worry about it. it will happen sooner or later. :thumbsup:

 

[Phaeton]

There is no monetary value attached to it, so it's worthless. Just make sure to wrap your meat. Soon you'll be as bored with sex as us, then you'll post on an adult message board, not for porn, but just because it's fun.

 

[Super_Noob]

Well I'm not necessarily worried about it. I'm just curious is all sir.

 

[calpoon]

too much social pressure on the subject, both ways. I kinda doubt that it's really going to make much of a difference if you wait. and once you do it you'll find that the novelty value wears off pretty quickly. maybe it's just me, but if I can bang someone, allright; if I feel the need to rub one out, then i'll go for it. I don't care which and ten minutes later I won't care at all. sex is just something that people do. if you love someone then it's wonderful that you feel that way and that will make you feel great, sex will be good because of that and not because it's sex. in other words, it varies slightly from person to person, but how you feel about it doesn't really change how it feels.

maybe I'm too cynical. maybe I've lost touch with humanity. maybe it is magical. I don't know, that's just my experience.

 

[xxaru]

I'll be frank, I'm young and I've never had sex with a girl before.

I like to be a decent guy, valuing a loving and meaningful relationship over a sexual and pointless one (well, maybe not pointless). But if I ever get the chance, I'd bang the fuck out of the first girl that I saw deserving of it. Sex isn't the most important thing in the world to me, but I'm quite curious, am I taking my virginity for granted?

So yeah. Should I fuck the girl the next time I get a chance or should I be a :hatsoff: and stick with :rubbel: ? Do any of you regret losing your's?

So you're not a decent person if you fuck girls(or guys) you dont have a loving and meaningfull relationship with ?? Since when did being a virgin make anyone any more or less of a decent human being? People try to attach too much moral and religious bullshit to sex. It's a natural human desire to want sex. It doesnt have to be seen as something taboo and immoral that should NEVER be done unless you're married.

BTW, I guess Im going to hell since Im not a decent person... so I guess I'll see you guys in hell. We're all gonna end up there anyways, just for different reasons:thefinger

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[Super_Noob]

I think you misunderstood that statement a little. I didn't mean having sex would make you a bad person. I meant that I value a meaningful relationship over a sexual one; that I wouldn't pressure a girl into having sex for my own enjoyment, or pursue such relationships so strongly.

 

[xxaru]

I think You Misunderstood that statement a little. I didn't mean having sex would make you a bad person. I meant that I value a meaningful relationship over a sexual one; that I wouldn't pressure a girl into having sex for my own enjoyment, or pursue such relationships so strongly.

Ok, but we're not talking about pressuring a girl who's a virgin into having sex with you. This is about "you" being the virgin; feeling pressured not to put out for whatever special values you hold on virginity. Which is fine.... But I dont feel you should have to hold back in any relationship. If you want to have sex with someone, and it feels right then what's the big deal? Often times, when you hold back, you just end up missing out on life.

 

[Legzman]

I threw mine away first Chance I got! Granted my first time was fuckin lousy, but I don't regret it!

 

[Philbert]

I think You Misunderstood that statement a little. I didn't mean having sex would make you a bad person. I meant that I value a meaningful relationship over a sexual one; that I wouldn't pressure a girl into having sex for my own enjoyment, or pursue such relationships so strongly.

Where to start?

How are you basing your prefering a meaningful over sexual relationship? Experience? You are a self confessed virgin...are you implying you think sex is meangless?
Let's see...you get so much physical and mental pleasure from all the rubbing, hugging, kissing and sucking; hootin' and hollerin' 'cause it feels so good, warm bodys and tingling to your toes...the other person is hopefully going through the same good time...and that isn't "meaningful?
Take what is offered 'til you know some more about what you really like...and pay no attention to all the (probably) border-line psychotics and pervets that post here; you can get off without feeling guilty of anything...it just works out that way, if you have a good time so does your partner.
Just don't pull out the cuffs and leather on the first date!

 

[BNF]

There is no monetary value attached to it, so it's worthless.

That may be the most cynical thing I've ever read on the board.

My childhood photos have no monetary value, nor do the pix of my family or some small trinkets that have been passed down to me - I suppose they too are worthless....

Depending on your POV, something that you can only do one time, and not repeat or "get back", has value. Loosing your virginity is one of those things to some people. I couldn't wait to lose mine and tried as hard as I could to do so. Regardless of what you do - everything will be the same the day after - it is not a life changing event as much as an event that you are certain to remember. And, because you will always remember it, I think that you should make it at least somehow special.

 

[xxaru]

Depending on your POV, something that you can only do one time, and not repeat or "get back", has value. Loosing your virginity is one of those things to some people. I couldn't wait to lose mine and tried as hard as I could to do so. Regardless of what you do - everything will be the same the day after - it is not a life changing event as much as an event that you are certain to remember. And, because you will always remember it, I think that you should make it at least somehow special.

Well, I dont remember really any of the details about my 1st time. I just remember the girl it was with (my gf at the time). I never regarded it as something "special" to be cherished and remembered, etc. And IMO the whole loosing your virginity experience is a highly overrated event.

 

[O85]

I lost my virginity a few years ago to my mothers friend, and god i dont regret it.

 

[dave_rhino]

I lost my virginity a few years ago to my mothers friend, and god i dont regret it.

Mothers friend?

*High five*