Pretty low sensitivity through masturbation/not able to come via sex.

[titsrock]

I wouldn't take the fact that many male pornstars rub out the load after having fucked a pussy for 15-30 minutes as some sort of indication of how it's supposed to be in real life.

The rubbing they do is to create more dramatic interest for the moneyshot....it is a "buildup" to the final finish...

I think 80s and 90s porn pretty much had the more direct "pull out and unload" on her technique.

 

[Hot Mega]

I'm still looking for someone to admit having the same problem or someone who solved it. I knowa solution could be stopping masturbating, however still waiting for experiences.

If the solution is most likely laying of the whacking, it would seem you have found your answer...unless you're looking for something else.

"Uh, uh, I know my smoking is interfering with my ability to run distance and I know if I stop smoking it will improve my distance running but does anyone have experience with this problem?" That is essentially the same type of problem you're claiming....

 

[Oito]

if it is a "grip" thing try anal

if it is a speed issue try having her reach down and jerk you off while she is fucking you, that way you get two different contact points and likely two different speeds... that gets me off everytime

 

[Legzman]

you sir...have a problem. Good luck to you.

 

[banjo1699584018]

So noone but me is having trouble finishing during sex? (without jerking off)

 

[MetalGearSolid]

Those porn stars cum long before the scene starts so that they are able to go 20-30 minutes and build up again.

 

[MetalGearSolid]

Those porn stars cum long before the scene starts so that they are able to go 20-30 minutes and build up again.

Well not long before, you know what I mean. They cum before the scene so that when it's time to go 20-30 minutes they're able to.

 

[Legzman]

Well not long before, you know what I mean. They cum before the scene so that when it's time to go 20-30 minutes they're able to.

I've heard that they actually film the money shot first. Then the rest of the scene. It is all put together in editing. Makes sense. There is just no way in hell a guy could realistically last more than a couple minutes with him fucking one chick and 2 others licking his nuts. Fuckin impossible. Unless like I say the film the money shot first...

 

[MetalGearSolid]

I've heard that they actually film the money shot first. Then the rest of the scene. It is all put together in editing. Makes sense. There is just no way in hell a guy could realistically last more than a couple minutes with him fucking one chick and 2 others licking his nuts. Fuckin impossible. Unless like I say the film the money shot first...

Yea, could do it that way too, but either way the guys are already spent prior to that 20-30 minutes is all I meant.

 

[banjo1699584018]

So noone but me is having trouble finishing during sex? (without jerking off)

 

[JayJohn85]

Dont mean to be negative but maybe ride nicer women? I know from my own experience any bloke who says otherwise is lying lol. Times I am with a girl I dont really find attractive but hey its a night out and you have consumed alcohol(could be a factor) I really have to think of stuff that gets me off to eventually get off as it can be quite irritating I mean there only so much fucking you wanna do before its like jesus I want to come now. If this isnt the case at all its what that blueballs guy said.

 

[Legzman]

So noone but me is having trouble finishing during sex? (without jerking off)

try having sex without jacking off for a few days before hand. Makes a big difference.

 

[riveroflife311]

it took me and my girl 3 times to have sex for me to cum. and shes a freak, and yes, i had to masterbate ALOT before i came in her mouth.

your not the only one. for me, once i get more comfortable with my partner, the easier i can cum. like this morning, she woke me up by giving me a handjob and 15 minutes later, i came on her chest. it took me at least an hour the first time (not to mention it was built up off of 2 other nights of A LOT of sex).

 

[R.A.D]

Hi there guys...

first of all, I'm 20 years old. I was still a virgin with 19 (and 3/4), when i first had sex.

However, i started masturbating at the age of 13/14 or so.

long story short, I'm not able to come via sex. Please don't talk about "It's in your head" and that stuff. We see all those male porn stars. For the "cumshot", they mostly have to masturbate pretty hard even after having hard sex for more than 20-30 min.

So my question is, do you guys have similar problems? Anyone already had success solving them? I know, stopping masturbation for a few weeks could help. But I'd like to hear some experiences/opinions from user who had the same problem and maybe solved it.

btw, i know this may be offtopic. But i hope someone can help me out on this. =/

I guess it's a matter of how much you get involved when you have sex. Sometimes, your partner makes the difference. Usually, when a man masturbates, he's trying to give himself the most of attentions. Which may not happen if you have to do with a woman whose only aim is to make you cum as fast as she can, acting nasty to you. I think this doesnt work. A woman should try - during sex - to give her male partner the same attentions he gives himself while he's masturbating. And, I mean, I should reverse the terms of my speech: it's a duty of us males as well to give as many attentions as we can to our ladies, otherwise they'll confine themselves into masturbation, preferring dildos to cocks, just to say it brutally
I dont know whether I have responded properly or not. But that's my experience, at least.

 

[banjo1699584018]

it took me and my girl 3 times to have sex for me to cum. and shes a freak, and yes, i had to masterbate ALOT before i came in her mouth.

your not the only one. for me, once i get more comfortable with my partner, the easier i can cum. like this morning, she woke me up by giving me a handjob and 15 minutes later, i came on her chest. it took me at least an hour the first time (not to mention it was built up off of 2 other nights of A LOT of sex).

well, I can't force girls to have sex with me like that!

but thanks for your honest words. Ever tried doing a break? did it help?

 

[Serpent7]

I've heard of this before. Your body and brain is so used to wanking, that its hard to orgasm with any other methods. If you have a gf and have the opportunity for regular sex, I'd honestly just say put the porn away and stop masturbating and focus only on sex with your lady. Work on it. There really isn't an overnite solution, and any sexual "problems" usually take time to work through. If you think bating is the reason why your penis doesn't really react to pussy...then take away the wanking and give your penor time to get used to a nice wet snatch! Then once you can enjoy sex again, slowly get back to the one-on-one time.

This is exactly what I was thinking. Very well put, and excellent advise.

 

[Hoodoo]

hey man you not the only one, i had this problem..i would jerk off every day and when it came time with a girl i coudln't even get hard...but i think myh problem was i just met the girl and dint' have any sort of feelings for her and i was nervous to..but in you case...leave the porn alone and focus on you girl....if she loves you she will do ya good

 

[belgianass]

Don't stress that much ...

Relax ... it will come ... don't over think it ... if it doesn't cum, try next time ...
stop thinking like that ... foxus on the girl and not on you ...

 

[~~whimsy~~]

Don't worry about what the guys in porn does anyways! Or you setting yourself up for some bad (embarrassing) times. Porn is porn; Hollywood movies are Hollywood movies; video games are video games; real life is real life!

For men if they masturbate a lot when it comes to actually having sex they are done for, they are so use to their hand, they don't know what to do outside of that. Lay off of masturbating for a while.

It can happen to women too, with vibrators especially, if they use it a lot as men masturbate a lot, when it comes to sex it doesn't live up to that of a vibrator.

Of course, not everyone is like this, but it happens. Most of the time it is too much masturbating. 3-4 times is usually good for a week.

 

[Rusty Trombone]

So noone but me is having trouble finishing during sex? (without jerking off)

I don't usually have problems cumming the first time, but I keep fucking until I get hard again (it takes some concentration) and I really have to fuck and concentrate to cum the second time (unless I wait a few minutes between boners). I feel your pain.