My girlfriend, future wife, future mother of my kids...
- Thread starter Currency
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Currency said:
That is a simple and clear statement to me. It doesn't seem like there is anything left to talk about.
Then again, your tastes and standards and desires can change.... Time can make the choice easier, debating it and worrying about it won't.
Besides, it's not very hard to get what you need from other ...... sources...
How long have you been in a relationship with this person? If you really think this is somebody that you would want to be your future wife and mother of your kids, shouldn't this have been something you needed to discus a long time ago. If you have been with the person a long time it seems strange to want to back out now over this when you should have stopped the relationship a long time ago if it wasn't going to work out. On a personal note and saying this in the nicest possible way, ending an important relationship because you can't get a blowjob seems a little shallow. If you haven't been in a relationship with this person for a long time then it might be time to tell her how you feel and end it if you feel that strongly about it.
I think you already gave us your answer. Honestly, this seems to be a major issue with you. I'm not going to have an opinion on whether that is "good" or "bad," but I will just point out that it seems to bother you enough now that it will probably be on your mind for a long time (or at least revisit you regularly).Currency said:
At least give her credit for being honest before you married. Some women only do it until you are married. If she is this honest and forward about this before you married her, I assume she's the same about other things. Now that either means she's a very good and honest friend, or she's abrassive and too honest. I don't know because you didn't give me much to go on.
Now this past weekend, my wife went several times, and I only went once. I went down on her several times and she didn't go down on me once. Now she does go down on me at times, but it's really not a major factor in our relationship. Yes, at times, she's wild with it and I love it -- but I could see myself doing without it if she ever stopped.
It's really more about your attitude than her's, what is important to you and what you want -- long-term. Make your decision on that, and not whether or not what people do is "fair," "right/wrong," "considerate/inconsiderate," etc...
Will E Worm
Conspiracy...
I would say you love her, but she should love you enough in return to give you oral sex too.
Try this, sit down close to her and start talking about it. Put your head on her shoulder and tell her you will feel closer to her if she performed oral on you. That should do it.
Tell us how it goes.
Try this, sit down close to her and start talking about it. Put your head on her shoulder and tell her you will feel closer to her if she performed oral on you. That should do it.
Tell us how it goes.
Since you have no children with her I would say hit the road. There is no reason live with someone and feel You Missing out something they could easily give you. I personally do trust a woman that does not perform oral sex on me or at least willing to do it. Oral is the ultimate surrender sexually. A person is giving up their pleasure to please another. If she is not willing to do this for you she is probably not interested in you or she is waiting for something better to come along. :yinyang:
If she doesn't want to suck you off, then that's her choice and you must accept it. It's not like she's forcing you to perform oral sex on her. If she was - if she absolutely insisted that you gave it to her - then you'd have a case. But it isn't like that at all, is it? So if you want to give up going down on her then do, but don't think you have any right to demand fellatio when she dislikes the practice. If you feel you can't live without blowjobs, then you have a choice to make. You can either stop being an idiot and realise that the woman you love is worth so much more than any kinky sex act (and maybe buy one of those sex toy blowjob machines to simulate the feel of blowjobs if you must) or foolishly dump her and go find some other girl whom you probably won't love but who will be happy to give you head.
I respectfully disagree with this notion that it's about the importance of the sexual act. This is about sexual compatability. Take it from me, there are few things worse than being in a sexual mismatched permanent relationship. What's worse than that is to hear about other couples where the spouse wants what you want while her husband takes it for granite, a recipe for temptation to wander and cheat. Even more gut wrenching is to know that there are couples that are totally compatable and take care of each other in the sack and are loving life for it.
It's always tough to break off a relationship, but to soften the blow, tell yourself at least you're not standing her up at the alter after all the invitations have been passed out and everyone's expecting a big wedding (I know I'm going to get a lot of flack for this).
I was wondering why this was brought back as well. Everyone's offering advice to a dude that is likely long gone from here. :dunno:
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Will E Worm
Conspiracy...
I sent him a message and nothing yet.
Send him a message and see if we can get him back on here.
