My girlfriend, future wife, future mother of my kids...

Refuse to perform Fellatio (Blowjob, Dick-Sucking) on me saying that it's "Gross." She don't mind me performing cunnilingus (Pussy Licking/Eating) on her...

She says that I don't care if you perform it on me, but don't expect me to suck your dick in return because I find it Gross to put a dick in my mouth...

I can't live with a girl who won't perform fellatio on me.

Should I end our relationship? Any help appreciated.
 

jod0565

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You need to respect what she is saying and if you feel so strongly that you need head from her but she won't do it, and that outweighs ANY feelings you have for her, then leave.
 
if head is more important than your feelings for her , leave.

I would suggest stay and maybe someday she will agree to do it
 
In a word YES!

How long have you been a couple? The moment i found out she wasn't into bj's i would of kicked her to the kerb baby!

You may be able to put up with it for a year or two more but how long down the tack will it be before you start fantasizing about it with another woman or on the other hand would you really want it of her if her heart wasn't in to it?

Sex is a big part of a relationship just as big as trust, love and compatibility and you need to get it right

I prescribe a week or two of showing her hardcore pornography after that if she still has the frigidity symptoms ...end it:thumbsup: :2 cents:
 

womencantsail

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Sex is not (or should not, anyway) be the most important part of a relationship. If you're only in it to "get some", then sure break up with her. But if you really care about her, then just live with it. You're not going to get everything to go your way.

Do you guys have sex? I personally would rather have sex than get head anyway, but that's just me.
 
wait I'm confused how is sucking dick disgusting while licking pussy isn't? I would think that later would be worse than a little knob polishing. Maybe you could hold out and not go down on her if she won't return the favor
 
Currency said:
Refuse to perform Fellatio (Blowjob, Dick-Sucking) on me saying that it's "Gross." She don't mind me performing cunnilingus (Pussy Licking/Eating) on her...

She says that I don't care if you perform it on me, but don't expect me to suck your dick in return because I find it Gross to put a dick in my mouth...

I can't live with a girl who won't perform fellatio on me.

Should I end our relationship? Any help appreciated.

She don't mind as in she lets you or actually enjoys it? Looks like you might not be on the same page in terms of sex at all.
 
Currency said:
I can't live with a girl who won't perform fellatio on me.

It looks to me like you said it all right there. If that's really the case, you don't need advice from anyone here.
 

FullMoonWolf

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Call her a cab, and be done with it!
 
that's a good point. stop licking her. if shes asks you to do it, tell that she has to return the favor. sexual compatibility is VERY important in a relationship. i'm telling you right now, if you dont get her too you will cheat on her and if she cheats on you she will do it for the other guy. these are both guarantees.
 
Trust me, if a girl doesnt like giving a blow job to you then just leave it, over time as ur relationship with her blossoms u will begin to discuss sex a lot more with her and then u can tell her of ur love for getting a blow job, maybe then she will listen to you and do this, for the time being, keep licking her out and performing as well as you can and she will return the favour
 
I don't think it's that simple. This makes her sound as if she has a pretty self centered personality; the you can do it for me, but I won't return the favor may be a recurring theme. Then again, my blabbering psychiatrist self could be way off base. Just something to consider.
 
How long have you two been together? Have you ever thought she might be a lil' shy? I don't know you or your girlfriend, so I can't comment. But there might be dozens of reasons, not just that she's selfish. Maybe she's never performed oral sex before and is nervous...

My advice, if you feel as strongly as your subject line suggests, give it time, keep encouraging her - and by that I don't mean waving your dick in her and telling her to to suck it- and eventually she'll come around. :thumbsup: trust me, I'm a woman ;)
 

womencantsail

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arealous said:
a pretty self centered personality

That's very possible, and if it is the case, get out now. You really don't want to be in a relationship with a person who thinks it's all about them. You will end up getting in so many fights if you're a person with half a spine and actually stand up for yourself.

That could be wrong though.

In any case, go with the suggestions of others hold back on going down on her and see what happens.
 
One time, I was with this girl, she was kind of a prude so the thought of sucking my dick was gross for her too. I got her horny once, we got naked, I told her I wanted her to do it, I could see she was grossed out a bit so I went to the bathroom and washed it, showed it to her, clean as a whistle, still a bit wet with water, gave her a little wink ;) and she went for it. :D
 
And you want her to kiss your children with that mouth?

just kidding

That is a toughie. Some girls will do it and some won't. Most girls I have met will do it, a couple actually like it, but some don't want to do it at all. It was no big deal when I was younger, for some reason I could never get off with a blow job. So I didn't care if a girl did it or not. One time a girl even told me to spank her because she was a bad girl because she couldn't get me to nut in her mouth. I miss that girl sometimes.
When I got into my early twenties I guess I could relax enough because it started working for me. And then I really liked it and wanted every girl I slept with to do it. In that department my wife is willing and eager. She asks to finish me off that way nearly every time we have sex. She came to me that way so I had no problems or need to talk her in to anything.
I imagine though, if you found sucking dick revolting, it would be a difficult thing to do. I don't know how you make someone like something that turns their stomach. Getting your package as clean as possible is a must. She probably hates the smell of sweaty balls. I once read an article many years ago in Playboy that you could make your cum taste better by not eating things like shell fish or garlic ahead of time. They suggested some mixture of egg-nog, honey and other ingredients I can't remember that supposedly sweeten the taste. I don't know if that works, my wife called it holiday flavor! Your wife may hate the taste of cum so that if you ever did get a blow job from her you may need to pull out before you cum if you ever hope to get another.
Again when it comes to all the wonderful emotional and physical feeling of sex it is difficult to bring something in that a participant feels is disgusting and then hope to maintain all of those wonderful squishy feelings for the rest of the session. Imagine if your wife really really got excited about and wanted to stick large broom handles up your ass. Maybe you don't like anything up your ass especially a broom. But she really likes it and bothers you about it all the time. She brings it up before sex after sex making you feel sexually inadequate in regards to her. She asks all her friends what to do. She is wondering, "should I leave him?" Would you then break down and start doing what it is she wants you to do?
 
If you care more about a blow job than your girl, then get rid of her. Find out what is gross about it see if you can change her mind.
 
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