Have you Kissed Before?
- Thread starter SoliOdi
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aw come on, theres gotta be a bunch of 30+ year old virgins clicking away to virtual love
I was thinking more the line of 14 year old kids pretending to be adults...
For me it's been so long ago I wonder if it hasn't changed.
toast_king
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No, I haven't. I'm 22.
dave_rhino
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:nono: Don't say that, such kisses :kiss: are all around you !!!!
Dude, get out there! There are plenty of women for every type of guy! Be yourself and you'll find one rather quickly.
toast_king
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It doesn't work that way. You can't understand what it's like unless you're like me. Getting girls is a skill and requires certain qualities, it's not something that just anyone can do. Some people just don't have what it takes.
My GF as often as I can
Iamforever
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the professor is right. this is going to sound like a bad meg ryan movie but, one day she will come.
toast_king
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Movies give people a warped and unrealistic idea of relationships.
Iamforever
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toast_king
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Probably. Anyway, this subject is a dead end. To most people, relationships are as natural as taking a piss, and to some of us they're the stuff of legends. That's just how it is. People who are or have been in relationships etc. almost never understand that, as I've discovered over the years. We live in separate realities.
Iamforever
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this is the problem. you are not allowing yourself to find someone. you already have this mindset that you will never get a girl. keep thinking that and it will NEVER happen.
Actually, it does! A little confidence goes a long way. Now if you're aiming for the platnium blonde that everyone else lusts for, well, you're one guy in many. But if you find a woman that you really like, you'd be surprised how quickly she'll return the favor. You're just two people looking for love -- temporary, permanent or otherwise, it doesn't matter.
Like you how? Yes, when I gained weight by late college, I had less opportunities. I was never a catch physically either (although my althetic abilities helped in high school, they were not the reason I was with many women in college). But then again, my wife met me near my heaviest, and loved me for myself.
So, yes, I don't know how it is to be you. And if I got the chance to be near you, I'd turn you around rather quickly.
The question is, would you be mature enough to handle it? That's always the problem with those less experienced -- even myself when I was young. I was dating the hot blonde cheerleader in early high school, and everyone thought I was "mature." Yeah, because it's easy to be "mature" when you don't even go past 1st base.
But I was a completely different woman who turned me on that made me totally screw it up because I wasn't mature (my desire was raw and selfish). Was she the blonde cheerleader? Hell no. She was one curvy woman who showed me that I was a man, and damn if I didn't just totally fall for her harder than anything to the point I drove her away.
By mid-high school, with one keen and mature girlfriend (who surprisingly later gave into drugs, never understood why, she seemed so strong willed), I was over the immaturity. And it didn't matter how unattractive and, now, unfit I was in college, I still found plenty of love. Even outside of college at the part-time job I had in an office environment where I was not the looker at all.
No, it requires no skill. It requires honesty, self-awareness, honesty and maturity -- in a nutshell, "being yourself" and how you are "yourself" with friends.
Non-sense! You have been fed that shit by the media, the popularity contest that no one should give a shit about and countless other, self-inflicted bullshit.
Given that your life-long lover is going to be your best friend, it has far more to do with knowing how to be a "friend" than "getting girls." You'd be surprised how close even temporary lovers can be "friends."
And the ones that aren't are immature, so forget them. Or have fun and forget them. No judgement by me either way.
So true ...
Beyond the mouth, I still childishly sit there and kiss and engulf my mouth over the tops of her breasts, shoulders, neck and just whatever feels inticing that day -- not to arouse her, just to give into the childish lust that I can and want to.
She still gets a huge laugh out of it, because I'm like a teenager who has never had a woman before.
Kissing is probably the most under-utilized and under-appreciated intimate act. I still spend 15-20 minutes just kissing my wife when we make love.
Beyond the mouth, I still childishly sit there and kiss and engulf my mouth over the tops of her breasts, shoulders, neck and just whatever feels inticing that day -- not to arouse her, just to give into the childish lust that I can and want to.
She still gets a huge laugh out of it, because I'm like a teenager who has never had a woman before.
Dude, try this ...
Get a temporary cell phone number. If you have a GSM phone, great, get a pay-as-you-go number that you can dispose of.
Pay for a print ad in a real newspaper, don't use your real name in the ad (and admit that in the ad). Run it at least a week (the Friday/weekend editions are best), if not 2-3 weeks. Say your age and the fact that you've never been kissed, and you'd like to find a woman who will talk to you about what you have missed and possibly give you your first kiss, or possibly even find a woman in the same boat as yourself.
Now you're going to get pranksters that call you. And you're might even get a mean bunch of person that might try to set you up. Don't jump into anything. Try to see where people are coming from, and try to meet in a public place so they can't pull anything.
But you'd be surprised how many women out there would answer -- possibly a few attractive (maybe older). Don't go to home plate right away, so if you round 1st base, stop at 2nd base and go no further. You have to be mature and responsible (STDs do still exist ;-).
It's a great social experiment if anything. If you like to write, it could be a great article that you could submit to the local newspaper under a pen name. I'm sure the paper you put the ad in might be interested in what happens. You don't have to be a great writer to write an article either.
God, I'd love to be someone as innocent as yourself again. It would be just so great to re-experience it. Remember, there is no such thing as "being behind" anyone else. It's your life, don't be in a rush. Don't spoil it for yourself. Take your time, enjoy your first kiss. More will come before you know it.
Get a temporary cell phone number. If you have a GSM phone, great, get a pay-as-you-go number that you can dispose of.
Pay for a print ad in a real newspaper, don't use your real name in the ad (and admit that in the ad). Run it at least a week (the Friday/weekend editions are best), if not 2-3 weeks. Say your age and the fact that you've never been kissed, and you'd like to find a woman who will talk to you about what you have missed and possibly give you your first kiss, or possibly even find a woman in the same boat as yourself.
Now you're going to get pranksters that call you. And you're might even get a mean bunch of person that might try to set you up. Don't jump into anything. Try to see where people are coming from, and try to meet in a public place so they can't pull anything.
But you'd be surprised how many women out there would answer -- possibly a few attractive (maybe older). Don't go to home plate right away, so if you round 1st base, stop at 2nd base and go no further. You have to be mature and responsible (STDs do still exist ;-).
It's a great social experiment if anything. If you like to write, it could be a great article that you could submit to the local newspaper under a pen name. I'm sure the paper you put the ad in might be interested in what happens. You don't have to be a great writer to write an article either.
God, I'd love to be someone as innocent as yourself again. It would be just so great to re-experience it. Remember, there is no such thing as "being behind" anyone else. It's your life, don't be in a rush. Don't spoil it for yourself. Take your time, enjoy your first kiss. More will come before you know it.
member006
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Ahh, so you do remember when you were a teenage girl? I knew it !!!
:rofl: Alright fellas pay up, I won the bet.
Just kidding LM. :glugglug:
OMG how did I miss this thread? More important why didn't I continue to?
toast_king
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I'm really starting to lose my fucking patience with militant extroverts who think that the whole fucking world is a romantic Hollywood comedy starring Julia Roberts. It's not. I have a highly realistic take on my situation (of which you really don't know anything about) and I don't need Joe Internet to tell me that I've got it all wrong.
This shit happens every time I mention anything about the fact that I'm a virgin etc.
This shit happens every time I mention anything about the fact that I'm a virgin etc.
