GF just broke up with me.

[lester08]

My girl of 8 years just broke up with me saying she fell out of love a few months ago.

What pushed it over the edge, she says, was a recent pregnancy scare. She turned out to be not pregnant but told me that she would have had an abortion if she was (since I could not support them on my $500/week salary)...

I've broken up with girls (and they have broken up with me too) in the past but this hit really hard. I have never had suicidal thoughts but wow, this hurts...I've never felt this kind of pain before.

 

[senob44]

Sorry bro.

Well you came to the right place, for sure. If there's one thing Freeones posters have it is sympathy and tact.

 

[lester08]

Sorry bro.

Well you came to the right place, for sure. If there's one thing Freeones posters have it is sympathy and tact.

lol I know you're being sarcastic but I had no where else to turn and I wanted to talk about it with someone. (I don't really talk about my "feelings")

 

[Torre82]

My girl of 8 years just broke up with me saying she fell out of love a few months ago.

What pushed it over the edge, she says, was a recent pregnancy scare. She turned out to be not pregnant but told me that she would have had an abortion if she was (since I could not support them on my $500/week salary)...

I've broken up with girls (and they have broken up with me too) in the past but this hit really hard. I have never had suicidal thoughts but wow, this hurts...I've never felt this kind of pain before.

Scotch. It burns on the way down. It burns in your belly. It burns away the other burning reality you're feeling. Drink. DRINK NOW!

Then, when you're nice and drunk.. never, EVER drunk dial. Anyone. Ever.

Play video games, watch old movies. Pass the time with as little masturbation and thinking as possible. Only time can sort that bullshit out and time does not require you to actively sort that shit out right now.

There is no striking while the iron is hot, it's over.. for the moment. If anyone starts it up again, it'll be HER. Never you. Give her time to miss you, give her time to think about it. In the meantime you need to recover. If she calls you, dont act independent, dont act too angry. Act homesick. She is the comfort known as home.. and You Miss it. You're confused, but not helpless.

In short.. life is a game. Know how to play it. And when you're not playing it, drink your old memories away lest they influence the new ones. You dont want BAGGAGE, do ya?!?

Seriously tho.. I know it hurts. I've been there numerous times with girlfriends, family, money.. life is fucking heartache. It's bullshit that doesnt let up. That's why you never give in. On your deathbed you should flick off G_d and say fuck you to everyone who isnt there at your side. DONT GIVE IN!

BTW, if you're anywhere near Fishers, Indiana.. stop by and I'll help you with that drowning the sorrows bit.

 

[D-rock]

Ouch, that sucks. Giving in is never worth it however, then all the things that are bad in life will truly win.


BTW...$500/week would be considered pretty good where I live. I would hate to think what would happen if everybody that made less than that had abortions.

 

[tubuler]

That sucks bro. 8 years is a long time. It's gonna be hard to re-acclimate to a single lifestyle after being outta the game that long.

Being dumped is hard to get over. Weed helps though. It kinda gives you that "who gives a fuck" feeling, which can be helpful when your feeling shitty about something. I'd stay away from the booze though. Alcohol can just magnify those shitty feelings and cause you to do something stupid like drunk dial your ex.

 

[lester08]

The most embarrasing part of all is that I read her email not too long ago (stalkerish, i know) and found out that she has been "talking" to a guy from an online video game we both play.

She sent him a message saying that an earlier email he sent her "made her have a silly smile all day" and she spoke to him like she used to speak with me in the beginning...She actually started the email off referring to him as "Papi..."

I lost her to a guy in an online video game. Lame.

 

[tubuler]

An online video game guy? If she goes for some shit like that then she's the one whos lame. Sounds like your better off without her.

 

[lester08]

Some guy in the Navy would be on her ass as soon as she would log her character in. She always told me not to worry he's a loser, blah blah blah...

 

[Torre82]

Some guy in the Navy would be on her ass as soon as she would log her character in. She always told me not to worry he's a loser, blah blah blah...

Ya never know. Bishes lie.

My advice: DONT THINK ABOUT IT. There are other guys she could go for, there are tons of reasons besides the abortion thing she couldve done it.

One thing I know about chicks.. you wont know until she tells you. You'll be surprised, youll be ill-prepared, and it'll throw you off-balance. It doesnt make sense to worry about it in the meantime, but.. that's not going to help you much. After a breakup your mind doesnt going thru the scenarios. Endless mental bullshit about what could've been.. what SHOULD HAVE BEEN.

It doesnt matter now. Even if she gets back with you a year from now... IT DOESNT MATTER NOW.

You're a man, a strong capable motherfucker who is above this. Chicks never have to deal with this kind of rejection because they have offers on all sides. As a man it's your duty to take all this bullshit and come out stronger. Feel proud that you're the better of the two genders and that men rule the world, men made the world, men know what the hell they're talking about and the only mystery about women is that every time you figure them out they change. That isnt a mystery, that's some defense tactic bullshit that makes them seem exotic and mysterious.. but they're not.

Stay proud, brother. Dont off yourself cuz of the other sex. You're better than that.

 

[Mr. Daystar]

Just remember, no girl is worth ending your life for. You got her, you can get another. Fuck her, if she doesn't want to be with you, then tell her to go fuck herself. Go on a bender for a few days, drown your sorrows, and do your best to move on. I know 8 years is a long time, but it's far from a life time, things will get easier.

 

[Sherlock_Holmes]

An online video game guy? If she goes for some shit like that then she's the one whos lame. Sounds like your better off without her.

I second that.

 

[lester08]

Just remember, no girl is worth ending your life for. You got her, you can get another. Fuck her, if she doesn't want to be with you, then tell her to go fuck herself. Go on a bender for a few days, drown your sorrows, and do your best to move on. I know 8 years is a long time, but it's far from a life time, things will get easier.

The worst part is that we were each other's "first" (insert more loser comments here ) We got together when we were both 18, we're 26 now.

Plus, I don't drink alocohol at all (or do any other drugs) so i'm pretty much screwed in the "Drowning your sorrows" part.

 

[Swordsmith]

I've every sympathy, I know it hurts like hell now.

But as much as it pains don't turn to drugs or alchol, you don't need them and they only work short-term.

The best action is to show her what she has lost, rise above her, and pledge to make your life great.

Throw yourself in to work or working out, make a success of your life. Pledge that in 12 months she will look at you and wonder why she ever ditched you.

Of course by then you'll be balls-deep in some gorgeous honey and wondering what you ever saw in her.

Life is for living, not thinking about some girl that clearly doesn't deserve you.

 

[Torre82]

I've every sympathy, I know it hurts like hell now.

But as much as it pains don't turn to drugs or alchol, you don't need them and they only work short-term.

The best action is to show her what she has lost, rise above her, and pledge to make your life great.

Throw yourself in to work or working out, make a success of your life. Pledge that in 12 months she will look at you and wonder why she ever ditched you.

Of course by then you'll be balls-deep in some gorgeous honey and wondering what you ever saw in her.

Life is for living, not thinking about some girl that clearly doesn't deserve you.

Work and exercise and alternative forms of the same thing. Give into your adrenal gland, or give into your liver.

It's all drugs of a different color. (so to speak)

 

[lester08]

On a side note, I expected to be badly flamed in this thread. You guys actually made me feel a tad better...So thanks.

 

[LBP 76]

The worst part is that we were each other's "first" (insert more loser comments here ) We got together when we were both 18, we're 26 now.

Plus, I don't drink alocohol at all (or do any other drugs) so i'm pretty much screwed in the "Drowning your sorrows" part.

I sincerely empathize.

But there is something I don't understand. You say you and her were each other's 'first'. But in your first post here you say you have dumped and been dumped by other women before.

I assume then that this is not the first time you and your latest have broken up?

 

[lester08]

I meant during junior highschool and highschool I had quite a few girlfriends but never "sealed the deal" as they say. lol

 

[mig1791]

Exercise is a good way to get your mind off things. You don't have to become a fanatic or anything. Buy yourself a good set of trainers, put your i-pod on and go for a run.
The running itself isn't necessary the important part; it's afterwards that counts. When you get back home you'll be knackered but satisfied. The endorphins will go flying to your brain and you'll sleep better.

I don't know if you're a big reader, but that also helps. Throw yourself into a good novel. Feed your brain with knowledge. You'll be distracting yourself from thinking about your situation too much without becoming too detached from reality.

Best of luck!:hatsoff:

 

[BlueBalls]

Suicide is still and option I suggest razor blades.



As I seem to be the only person who want to keep the values of old, I shall be the only person to make one of those nasty comments. This isnt to you kaoKen this is for all those who have left us recently who wouldnt have pussied out in saying something nasty or sarcastic to a person in pain.




Dont worry no one will read this, one of the mods will be along soon to delete it. :hatsoff: