Doubling Down on Shitty Behavior

[xfire]

You would think that, once pointed out, a person would make an effort to correct shitty behavior, but conventional wisdom seems to fly in the face of the pretzel logic that dominates the mind of a person that not only doesn't seem to care that their shit has grown tiresome and old, but doubles and triples their effort to be as fucking rude and crass as possible. That's the reality of the state of my current relationship, not only does she continually sink to the lowest common denominator in all things, it's a true, "hold my beer" moment, from minute to minute. I don't know how much more of this shit I can take. Anyway, let the piss takes and ridicule commence, this is the only forum I've got anymore to blow off steam when it comes to how fucking irate my significant other routinely keeps me.

 

[Little Red Wagon Repairman]

Sorry, man. How long have you two been together?

 

[Elwood70]

Sorry to hear you're going through this shit. Judging strictly by what is written here, it sounds like a passive-aggressive (VERY aggressive) way of trying to make you just up and leave, thereby making you the asshole/bad guy of the situation.

But, I'm divorced, what the fuck do I know?

 

[meesterperfect]

I would ask yourself if you think the relationship is ever going to get better.
And if its not then you gotta cut loose.
Footloose (I couldn't resist).
With all the girls I've been with before where it turned bad not one ever got better. It never does from what I've seen.
Looking back I wish I had bailed on them all much sooner.

 

[Ari Dee]

No ridicule here.

Dump her. End it. Break it off.
It's one thing if this is a fleeting time of frustration, all long-term relationships go through trials and tribulations or just plain moments of pissing each other off wether intentionally or not.
But if this has been a consistent thing and you're feeling unhappy, please try to do something about it. Wether you do it for you, or you do it for her because you genuinely still care about her.. you'll be doing both of you a favor in the long run. Companionship can be a wonderful thing, but I honestly believe being alone is still a lot healthier than being with someone who you either know is the wrong person or you know long-term hasn't provided you with what you need out of a relationship.
Try to step up and end it, that's my only and best advice.

But if you love your partner and still feel like it's worth fighting for, I get just wanting to vent out of frustration. But nobody deserves to be with someone who doesn't have their best interests and needs at heart.
Sincerely wishing you the best.

 

[Ace Boobtoucher]

Give her $100. It is a cure all.

 

[xfire]

We've been together several years, too fucking long, really, but it's complicated, isn't it always complicated? Totally concur that I should leave, but it's complicated, I just want her to stop being such a jealous, vengeful, quick tempered shrew. Is that too much to ask? Probably. I know I can't control her, but we should be able to talk about shit and resolve any issues without resorting to a war of attrition. As for $100, she takes at least that much out of my ass daily, "go get this, can I have that...", it got worse when she lost her job back in May, and getting her to find something else has been worse than going to the fucking dentist. She's got a Masters degree, there's really no excuse for her to still be unemployed, other than she's fucking lazy, has delusions that she's going to land a book deal or win the goddamn lottery. UGH!!! I'm tired of waiting for shit to get better, the only thing it's gotten me is closer to dead! Blah, thanks for the replies, I'm done venting for a while.

 

[Harpsman]

It's complicated AND nasty. I try to reduce the complications and nasty things in life. Time to cut your losses - for the sake of your health

 

[love_tha_sweet]

Cut the losses now.


Then watch her win the lottery and sign a major book deal all in the same week

 

[xfire]

Cut the losses now. Then watch her win the lottery and sign a major book deal all in the same week

Yup, that would be how it went down.

 

[Mayhem]

My Jersey upbringing compels me to suggest spending the extra dime on name brand hydrochloric acid, and avoid the generic shit altogether.

 

[himperv203]

No wonder you spend time out here

 

[Mr_Stiffy]

Give her $100. It is a cure all.

Will never not be the answer.

 

[xfire]

Thanks, everyone. Just typing it out helped, and the replies are great, had me really chuckling. What really set me off was a comment she made the other day, she's a couple of days into that time of month and I walked by her and squeezed her ass. She said, "Go ahead, grab a bloody handful." I don't know, there was just something so vulgar and uncalled for about that shitty little comment that I've been silently raging about it since she said it. Well, that and a thousand other little things she does daily that are like the Death of 1000 Cuts torture technique. Ugh. Ok, for real, I'm done! lol

 

[ApolloBalboa]

Thanks, everyone. Just typing it out helped, and the replies are great, had me really chuckling. What really set me off was a comment she made the other day, she's a couple of days into that time of month and I walked by her and squeezed her ass. She said, "Go ahead, grab a bloody handful." I don't know, there was just something so vulgar and uncalled for about that shitty little comment that I've been silently raging about it since she said it. Well, that and a thousand other little things she does daily that are like the Death of 1000 Cuts torture technique. Ugh. Ok, for real, I'm done! lol

Reading this, I thought she was British. Then I realized what I'd actually read.

Dump her. Dump her now.

 

[Jagger69]

Sorry amigo. Sounds like a lost cause. I agree....end it.

 

[Supafly]

Never think that life in other cirumstances would NOT be complicated. Saying that, it does not have to be shitty, too.

There is probably stuff involved that has to be sorted out, she gets this, you get that. Don't give up too much just to shut her up. Maybe pack what you want to keep and get out when she is out of the house.

Life is too short to throw away another month, not even a week

 

[xfire]

We've been together a long time, have a lot vested and invested, really I'm just blowing off steam, but goddamnit does she irritate the fuck out of me sometimes. It's like she's deliberately trying to put me off of all women with some of the shit she says and does. Oh, well, fuck it, I've been through a lot of shit with her and because of her over the years, I'm sure this, too, will pass. Thanks again, guys, y'all just prove that the internet doesn't always suck.

 

[Mr. Daystar]

Just out of curiosity, is she at that age where the change is coming on? Because she might have some serious issues going on, and can't tell you, or doesn't know how to talk about it, or feels that she has some fear that you will not love her anymore, and is lashing out. If you have that much vested, and invested, maybe double down, and drag her petulant pain in the ass to a counselor. Just a thought.


Most people can't define love....allow me.



Love is......your ability to tolerate another persons bullshit. It's very sad, and simplistic, unfortunately, it's also very true.


Good luck.