Re: Danielle FTV - Busty FTV Girl
I truly appreciate you taking the time to write me this. Being in this industry and having my website has made me so happy the past few years. I love being able to explore myself and push my boundaries. BDSM is something that I truly love doing. I am a pretty hard core pain slut...though for my first bdsm shoot for my website we are probably going to have to turn it down a bit.
I very much try to keep my content as real as possible. I'm always complaining about girls faking their orgasms (my friends don't like watching porn with me because I'm always complaining about the actresses faking it....plus I'm pretty analytical about porn). To be honest I don't know how much I am actually going to like shooting with other companies since I know that they probably won't want to wait long enough for me to have a real orgasm (it can sometimes take me like 15 minutes to get off if I'm playing with myself in front of people).
You're quite welcome. The genuine way you connect with your audience through the medium of video is one of a plethora of reasons that you're very unique. I hope that you have that always.
Everyone who watches adult film does so for a variety of reasons. One very powerful motivator is that we get older, and we get nostaligic for those beautiful moments when we connected with someone on a profound level. Since those moments are rare, they are ephemeral like the transitory blossom that fades in three days, and it makes us wistful.
Unfortunately there seems to be a disconnect between this and an increasingly harshness in adult film, that's more about abusing some lovely person, to degrade and destroy them. For most of us, that's not what BDSM is about. It's about establishing a very high trust level and overwhelming them in intoxicating pleasure. Seducing them slowly, and going beyond the envelope of their previous sexual limits.
It would break my heart to see you abused on screen. That's the last thing I would desire. It would be heart-rending.
People get really focused on seeing someone reach the pinnacle of the experience quickly. That's wrong, and a poor understanding of sexuality.
Think of a roller coaster ride. You stand in line, not knowing fully what to expect, only seeing it from afar. You hear sounds, screams of pleasure and fear and laughter, you draw near and you feel your heart pounding. The vibrations shake the platform, and the volume rises. You notice that your pulse is quickening and your heart pounding. You look into the eyes of the person standing next to you, and they squeeze your hand and gulp. Maybe a little tremor is in your fingertips.
You get on at the base, and you ascend slowly, uncomfortable and propelled backwards, nervous and unable to see. You laugh and pretend it doesn't affect you, that you're totally in control. Then you crest the first hill and begin a faster and faster spin, sweeping away all the control you thought you had, and the danger and excitement overwhelms any of your facade of control.
That's an analogy of powerful sex. So if you can be a little nervous, reticent, let your breath quicken, laugh a little, but feel the edges unravel on screen, connect and let the person have his way with you, then you have the potential to become a very importance star in the industry.
Most entertainers give in to "hurry up" and their level of dramatic ability is so limited in range that their portrayal of excitement comes off in one note of music. It rings hollow and flat and false. It's precisely what you're complaining about with your friends. It bores me, and everyone else, and they move on searching, rarely finding it.
There's a scene with Ms. Regan and Voodoo, where they connect in such a deep way, that her vagina contracts, and she literally pushes his cock out, and squirts several times. That is 100x hotter than watching a fake orgasm. It's entirely possible. It's mostly about connection.
I think you're smart since you are maintaining control with one partner since you feel comfortable with him.
You Might try him giving you a massage on screen, as massage can very sensual, as the other partner relaxes, and then will allow them to do things that they might not ordinarily, for example anal. You two negotiating that in verbal and non-verbal ways, just like a couple would, would be very sexy as sex is about dialogue, and it need not be totally rehearsed.
Anal sex doesn't have to be painful. In fact, it's rude to make it painful, it means that the three muscles which make up the intrinsic muscles past the rectum were not allowed to relax one by one. Porn which is just about pain, it shallow. BDSM sex might overwhelm someone more with words, dominating them by fear, but when it comes down to it, you don't abuse each other.
One final thing. When you turn around and look back at the camera when being penetrated, I think we all swoon. We feel all in control when a woman allows us to penetrate her this way from behind, but when she goes further and smiles shyly, and we see the face of the beloved, and she murmurs something sexy, even in pleasure ,well there are few men who have any control at that point.
You see, the woman is in control at the last, no matter what, because you are the one who let's us have our way.
15 minutes. That's a very normal amount of time, especially considering the glare of lights and the pressure. I know time is money, especially with a crew of lighting and cameras, but I'd rather see one real orgasm, then ten fake ones.