Boy-Girl friendship : Is it possible ?
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It is possible, but it is hard. I have chick friends that I am close with and it is really cool for the most part. They give me a chick's perspective for a lot of things and it helped me to stay out of trouble with females I have courted. It gets difficult when they get comfortable enough with you and start walking around nude or asking you to help them shave. I mean, I am still a guy and you are a hot chick. While I may not be trying to, I will fuck you if given the opportunity.
i think it can happen but it will be really hard. At some point during your friendship, you will probably want to get intimate with her. Then you might get into a relationship and possibly breakup. how the breakup goes will determine the rest of the relationship.
TheOrangeCat
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I've always had best friends who were girls ... even my best man, was actually a best woman; she and I had just always been great friends and even though - on a lot of levels - we were perfect for each other, on a much bigger level was this implicit understanding between us that we were only ever destined to be friends. And that's how it always was
Currently one of my best friends is a girl. Would I have sex with her? Only if I knew it didn't have any effect on our current relationship and if I didn't have to date her (love her to death as a friend but I could never date her, very bossy). So in other words, no I would not have sex with her
TheOrangeCat
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Ummmmmm. QUESTION??
Does a true, genuine 'boy-girl friendship' count as an absolutely true, genuine 'boy-girl friendship' if - although you never did and could ever date - you may have fucked a little bit every now and again?
Does a true, genuine 'boy-girl friendship' count as an absolutely true, genuine 'boy-girl friendship' if - although you never did and could ever date - you may have fucked a little bit every now and again?
Ace Bandage
The one and only.
Yeah, I was friends with an incredibly beautiful girl for a couple years during college. We had the same major and shared quite a few classes. I was attracted to her despite the fact that I was dating someone else (as was she). One night, after working late and drinking a bit too much wine, we started fooling around and... well, you know.
That ruined both of our relationships at the time. Even after that, we never dated. We were just friends with benefits. There's no way I could have just been friends with her. Of course, I never really tried either. I wished we had stayed in touch. I could use a little action on the side now... kidding. Sort of.
#winning?
That ruined both of our relationships at the time. Even after that, we never dated. We were just friends with benefits. There's no way I could have just been friends with her. Of course, I never really tried either. I wished we had stayed in touch. I could use a little action on the side now... kidding. Sort of.
#winning?
TheOrangeCat
AFK..being taken to the vet to get neutered.
Yea - I had a similar thing, only we did stay friends. It could get awkward sometimes, but mostly it was just 'yea, we fucked, but we're friends first' ... it was funny: every time I was single, she'd be in a relationship, and every time she was single .. etc etc etc
So, yea, there was always a 'well, we never had to put it to the test' undercurrent to the friendship too.
But when we were finally single at the same time for the first time in 15 years ... nada. Never happened.
Still friends though ...
It's only possible in the sense that if the girl is not interested, for whatever reason, it won't go beyond friendship. I have had numerous female friends over the years. And I can't think of a single one I wasn't attracted to, to some degree. Even the ones I didn't initially find all that physically appealing became more so after I knew them better. Doesn't mean I always secretly yearned to have "relationships" with them or necessarily just lusted after them. It just means that when it comes to a woman your feelings for them are always going to be different than your feelings for a guy friend. There's going to be a certain level of romantic affection there. I don't think there's any way to avoid that.
So is it possible to be friends with a girl without "something else" eventually. Sure, probably only if she just displays no interest or you're disciplined enough to deny your feelings out of principle. Is it possible to have a strictly platonic relationship without any romantic feelings? I don't think so.
So is it possible to be friends with a girl without "something else" eventually. Sure, probably only if she just displays no interest or you're disciplined enough to deny your feelings out of principle. Is it possible to have a strictly platonic relationship without any romantic feelings? I don't think so.
I've found ...
I've found women who share everything with you, in total honesty, are the ones that can never have a relationship built on honesty. If you want to be friends with them for the rest of your life, then they will be. But if you want more, don't ever expect it, let alone you will lose your friendship with her. Some people say that's how it just is, especially women, but that's total bullshit in my view. It's why they create their own issues as well.
She has a problem with being honest with her lovers. In my experience, that's always been a lover I never want. It's not about her doing things I wouldn't approve of, and she tells others. It's about her not being honest with me about what she wants. I've had a few lovers like this, and I dropped them quick'n hard when I found out they were that way. I also enjoyed the "folly" of guys who tried to land her afterwards, guys who put in months or years of "being a friend."
So in my past, the quickest way for a woman to absolutely lose my trust (let alone interest) was to turn to me and say, "oh, I could never have a relationship with you, that would ruin our friendship" or worse yet, "I'll sleep with you, but I can't be friends with you any more." That means she's too immature and too dishonest to be honest and mature with her lovers. I just thank God I didn't have her as a lover, only to find that out from "the other side."
I still have a few female friends like this today, but I'm not close to them. I never, ever repeat what they say, but I don't stay around them much to hear what they say. Just not interested.
I've found women who share everything with you, in total honesty, are the ones that can never have a relationship built on honesty. If you want to be friends with them for the rest of your life, then they will be. But if you want more, don't ever expect it, let alone you will lose your friendship with her. Some people say that's how it just is, especially women, but that's total bullshit in my view. It's why they create their own issues as well.
She has a problem with being honest with her lovers. In my experience, that's always been a lover I never want. It's not about her doing things I wouldn't approve of, and she tells others. It's about her not being honest with me about what she wants. I've had a few lovers like this, and I dropped them quick'n hard when I found out they were that way. I also enjoyed the "folly" of guys who tried to land her afterwards, guys who put in months or years of "being a friend."
So in my past, the quickest way for a woman to absolutely lose my trust (let alone interest) was to turn to me and say, "oh, I could never have a relationship with you, that would ruin our friendship" or worse yet, "I'll sleep with you, but I can't be friends with you any more." That means she's too immature and too dishonest to be honest and mature with her lovers. I just thank God I didn't have her as a lover, only to find that out from "the other side."
I still have a few female friends like this today, but I'm not close to them. I never, ever repeat what they say, but I don't stay around them much to hear what they say. Just not interested.
TheOrangeCat
AFK..being taken to the vet to get neutered.
it can be trying at times, I'll admit.
basically, what you are doing is telling your dick 'no, you can't stick into this one, she's off limits'; which is like telling Lindsay Lohan not to fuck up. It goes against the very nature of the thing itself .....
basically, what you are doing is telling your dick 'no, you can't stick into this one, she's off limits'; which is like telling Lindsay Lohan not to fuck up. It goes against the very nature of the thing itself .....
