blowjob delema

this is gonna sound wierd, i cant make sence of it myself. but my gf will only give blowjobs. she doesnt like to fuck, i cant squeeze her tits, eat her pussy she wont even get undressed. she will only give head i can cum in her mouth or on her face and thats the limit of our sex life. if i try to feel her tits during a blow job she gets mad. at first i was like ''this is great" but now im like what the fuck is wrong here? she doesnt even kiss me. i've been complaining recently and shes like next time we will but next time never comes. she really gets into it but im thinking doesnt she want to get off herself.the last time we fucked was about 5 months ago. i keep asking her if she is getting sick of me or the relationship and she swears up and down that she isnt. we have been together a long time and i just cant figure it out.
 
Just a guess, but it sounds to me like something happened 5 months ago that made her really insecure about her body and appearance. It could be as simple as receiving an insult from someone she trusts, all the way to a physically or emotionally traumatic event like being raped or having an abortion.

My only suggestion would be to try and reassure her of her beauty in your eyes. Try to keep it phrased in terms of current, unconditional acceptance. For example, when she's giving you a blowjob with her clothes on, simply say, "I think you're beautiful," rather than, "I wish you'd take your top off, because I think you're beautiful when you're naked," or even, "I think you're beautiful when you're giving me a blowjob." In other words, keep her beauty central and not dependent on any action.

Other than that, just keep the lines of communication open. A woman's personality during sex doesn't change that drastically for no reason. I'm willing to bet that there's something she really wants or needs to talk to you about and she just can't bring herself to do it. Make sure you're ready to listen when she's ready to talk.
 
tell her getting your dick sucked is so much better than sex, you'll never have to have sex again.


reverse psychology ;)
 
tell her getting your dick sucked is so much better than sex, you'll never have to have sex again.


reverse psychology ;)

hate to say it but your probably right on the money.women are so fuckin spitefull
 
I would come up with a differnet way to phrase it.

It would be like when Buddy Ryan cut Chris Carter and the press wanted to know why he cut someone that catches so many touchdowns, he said "All he does is catch touchdowns."
 
I have to agree with No Man. . . sounds like she either had a traumatic experience or something that really caused her to look at herself negatively. I have NO CLUE, just an opinion. I don't know the girl or her reasoning. It cold be other things, maybe she doesn't want to spread something she had/has?!

again, take nothing to heart that I have said^^^^^

but in all seriousness, if you really care for her, try to sit down and flat out ask her. whats the worst she will say? women always say men need to communicate, so give it a shot.
 
So far youve dismissed every piece of advice given to you, what sort of advice are you willing to accept? Rohypnol cocktail?

Its only started to bother you that your girlfriend wont let you touch her after 5 months? Alarm bells should have sounded after the first weekend, she wont let you kiss her? Hello!

You cant have tried very hard to get to the route of the problem if its been this long without success, crazy piece of advice, try again, try harder and dont take no for an answer.
 

Torre82

Moderator \ Jannie
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women always say men need to communicate, so give it a shot.

A woman saying she wants communication is like a guy asking a girl who she has dated/fucked/sucked/threesome'd/fisted/horse-sex'ed with. It's a good idea.. until it actually happens. Then you're disapointed. A month later you're fine and all, but both parties have then become used to it.

My advice.. the reverse psychology isnt going to work because you've been doing it too long and complaining about it. Yes.. your man card is fucking revoked. Hand it over. LOL!

But, eh.. look at the usual suspects and then ask about them. Just straight up ask her;
STDs: Girl, you got the herpes?!
Self Esteem: What the fuck is wrong with you; why arent you more like your sister?!
Orally fixated: So you didnt get breastfed as a baby, now you wanna suck on my cock like it's going out of style. Freud is sooooo paging you.
Mentally fucked: Good luck with that one. Your dick is going in the mouth of a loony.
 

Kingfisher

Here Zombie, Zombie, Zombie...
Right now I wouldn't mind that, but I would say that's a bad sign. If she has a fear of intimacy, that might be why she won't be letting you take those additional forms of sex. I would say break it off, or stop paying for thing, get the blowjobs and blow her off...
 
If she doesn't even want to kiss you then I'd say she's got some beef with you or being intimate with you. If it was JUST the sex she wasn't doing, I'd say "yeah she likely is self conscious, or uncomfortable with intercourse, or maybe even afraid of getting preggo" but...since you said she won't kiss you, I'd assume that its maybe she's not connected to the relationship?

Gotta question for you: Does she like giving head? Does she get into it and does she get aroused during it? Or is it more like she's doing it out of obligation or like its a chore? Because if its the latter, she may just be doing it so that you get off and are satisfied so that she doesn't have to do anything more with you. I'd just straight up ask her why she doesn't want to have sex.
 

truwarier

Banned
dude, i suggest go to a local strip club, get mad drunk, hire an escort and bang the shit outta her, it aint your fault your GF is tight, dude your young, you cant allow a woman to hold you down, go get laid by an escort.
 
ashleighs got it on the nose
my girl of 3 years finally admitted to me that she doesnt want to be in this relationship, that shes not happy, but that she thought she could find it with me
I believe her but really ticked me off
but.. for the last 2 years we have done squat.. but!!! before that.. 6 months was our sex life.. after that.. just blow jobs, very VERY rarely kiss me, and NEVER hug me

she and I were living together and I was paying 90% of everything

sound farmilliar?? then perhaps thats the issue...
 
She's just not that into you dude. Send her on her way. Cry and grizzle to anyone who loves you and will listen until you feel a bit better. Never settle for scraps fed to you under the table again. If this is a pattern in your love life you need a shrink because without skilled therapeutic input this problem will ruin your life. She feels unable to leave because of your needy dependence plus or minus she has been dorking Roger on the quiet for five months. It's shit. Make it into a sandwich and chow down. She is presumably needy as well. Clinging to each other for fear of abandonment and aloneness. You have nothing to fear except fear itself. You don't need her. You just think you do. Step one is to take it out of her mouth. Get some dignity back. Good luck. Denial is no friend in this life.
 
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