Being overweight

[beany_man]

Hey guys. In my life right now im about a stone overweight. Mabie a bit under,im not used to being this way. But depression kept me from being able to do anything.

Then today for the first time in over a year i went to the gym. I feel ok, though i feel really self councious when out walking because i have a bit of a bellly and my legs and ass are fatter than normal. I dont like being this way but i think there is something else going on here. I dont think its healthy for a guy to need validation that bad. Im always on some level thinking about what other people are thinking about me, i can't seem to shake this need.

I see overweight people and they don't seem so self counious. Yet i seem to be, although im not as bad as i used to be its not as good as i would like it too be. Is there anyone that has been in my situation physically or mentally and is there any advice they can give me? thanks

 

[Basedow]

Never been overweight in my life but I can tell you whenever I see an overweight person I don't even notice, so you shouldn't feel self concious because 99% of people don't care. I honestly never really even thought about it until I saw your thread, so if you're down on yourself because you think people are looking down on you don't sweat it, they aren't.

 

[LaLiLuLeLohan]

Hey guys. In my life right now im about a stone overweight. Mabie a bit under,im not used to being this way. But depression kept me from being able to do anything.

Then today for the first time in over a year i went to the gym. I feel ok, though i feel really self councious when out walking because i have a bit of a bellly and my legs and ass are fatter than normal. I dont like being this way but i think there is something else going on here. I dont think its healthy for a guy to need validation that bad. Im always on some level thinking about what other people are thinking about me, i can't seem to shake this need.

I see overweight people and they don't seem so self counious. Yet i seem to be, although im not as bad as i used to be its not as good as i would like it too be. Is there anyone that has been in my situation physically or mentally and is there any advice they can give me? thanks

First of all, you're going to a gym. That will aid in the fight against depression and there's lots of science to back that up. It makes sense to feel a bit insecure or self conscious at a gym... after all, it's full of fit people. BUT it's full of people who aren't fit and want to change or people who weren't fit and did something about it.

If you're going to the gym and feeling those feelings, use it to your advantage. Use it as inspiration and motivation. But trust me, if you're at a gym and you're actually using the gym for reason other than a social setting, nobody is sitting back and shooting dirty looks at you. I used to be a bit of a gym rat until I invested in some solid home equipment and, in all my days at the gym, I never met somebody who snickered about a new member who was willing to spend the time and energy to get in better shape. I wish people would stop worrying about that.

 

[ragincaucasian]

Fuck everyone else (because there is nothing you can do about it)

Be sure to use weight training and not just cardio, and to get a jump on things do it frst thing in the AM (don't wait until you 'feel like it').

FWIW - many of the self projections (you feel from everyone else) may have a LOT to do with how YOU process/perceive others (you're projecting your own values onto others and assuming they are using the same metric). Change how YOU look at people and you will change how you think others are seeing you

 

[PlasmaTwa2]

I find that nothing tastes as good as being thin feels, but to each their own.

 

[wrayven]

I do not know what a stone overweight would be, but I lost 60 lbs over the past couple of years. One of the best decisions of my life as I have more energy and my back and knees no longer hurt. Better to not feel depressed or self conscious of your body image. Take the weight off slowly and re-learn your eating habits and add some exercise to the mix.

Good luck on your lifestyle change.

 

[shimmy2]

start living there 4-6hrs a day (at the gym) in a year you'll be 100lbs lighter. would you beleive that 2-3 yrs ago i weighed 265lbs, i started running my ass off, hit the weights, now i'm getting paid $100/hr to have pornstars blow me. just do it man your body will thank you. if you can afford it hire a trainer to write you up a plan once you plateau about 6months into it, and stop losing weight etc... time to switch up your routine. but KEEP on going to the gym. matter of fact im going right now

 

[LukeEl]

start living there 4-6hrs a day (at the gym) in a year you'll be 100lbs lighter. would you beleive that 2-3 yrs ago i weighed 265lbs, i started running my ass off, hit the weights, now i'm getting paid $100/hr to have pornstars blow me. just do it man your body will thank you. if you can afford it hire a trainer to write you up a plan once you plateau about 6months into it, and stop losing weight etc... time to switch up your routine. but KEEP on going to the gym. matter of fact im going right now

And I comment on you about all of this for free! Where is the trade off?

 

[Shifty]

Fuck everyone else (because there is nothing you can do about it)

Be sure to use weight training and not just cardio, and to get a jump on things do it frst thing in the AM (don't wait until you 'feel like it').

FWIW - many of the self projections (you feel from everyone else) may have a LOT to do with how YOU process/perceive others (you're projecting your own values onto others and assuming they are using the same metric). Change how YOU look at people and you will change how you think others are seeing you

Holy Shit - that's good advice !!! :dunno:

 

[funkipman]

First of all, you're going to a gym. That will aid in the fight against depression and there's lots of science to back that up. It makes sense to feel a bit insecure or self conscious at a gym... after all, it's full of fit people. BUT it's full of people who aren't fit and want to change or people who weren't fit and did something about it.

If you're going to the gym and feeling those feelings, use it to your advantage. Use it as inspiration and motivation. But trust me, if you're at a gym and you're actually using the gym for reason other than a social setting, nobody is sitting back and shooting dirty looks at you. I used to be a bit of a gym rat until I invested in some solid home equipment and, in all my days at the gym, I never met somebody who snickered about a new member who was willing to spend the time and energy to get in better shape. I wish people would stop worrying about that.

I like this response... ultimately your brain knows its un-heathy, thus you feel this way.

 

[YumiYumi_1988]

You shouldn't worry about how others perceive you. As long as you're confident in how you look, that's what matters. I myself am a bit overweight, but I don't give a second thought of my weight. I am a lot more worried about the clothes I wear lol. Interesting thread.

 

[tartanterrier]

I'm about 2 stone overweight so i'm going to start swimming this
weekend

 

[Becks...poamr]

I'm voluptuous.

More guys than I thought find that appealing.

 

[Bloodshot Scott]

WTF is it with "stones"?


I don't know what to say. Find a job in manual labor (brick layers lift shit ALL day) or just play sports that you like and make it fun. Changing the diet is the easiest part. Just stock your fridge with good shit like eggs and cheese and stay away from the sweets and in due time you will lose. (or you could always cheat and go on a JD diet and do a litre a day and in about a month you'll lose at least 20lbs :surprise

I'm probably 30lb overweight right now (20 over from where I think I should be) but you can still see my six pack from years of dry-land after hockey and playing soccer and tennis and shit like that. The coaches used to have us pukin' and shit they beat us so hard. Doesn't hurt to have someone behind you crackin' the whip.

No worries; I've been in front of a computer for the last couple years earning my degree and I know my body so I'll be at my ideal 180lb in no time.

Biggest advice: change your diet and eat at the right times of the day. If you feel like splurging, make a big ass plate of spaghetti and meatballs for brunch and then snack on fruit and nuts until night and then a big ass salad with fresh cukes, carrots, a hardboiled egg and lay on a healthy amount of Ranch dressing (stay away from that fat free shit because it tastes like Elmers glue and simply does not defeat any craves).

Drink lots and lots of water and stay away from soda/pop. Shit is nothing but poison. :2 cents:

 

[shayd]

Hey guys. In my life right now im about a stone overweight. Mabie a bit under,im not used to being this way. But depression kept me from being able to do anything.

Then today for the first time in over a year i went to the gym. I feel ok, though i feel really self councious when out walking because i have a bit of a bellly and my legs and ass are fatter than normal. I dont like being this way but i think there is something else going on here. I dont think its healthy for a guy to need validation that bad. Im always on some level thinking about what other people are thinking about me, i can't seem to shake this need.

I see overweight people and they don't seem so self counious. Yet i seem to be, although im not as bad as i used to be its not as good as i would like it too be. Is there anyone that has been in my situation physically or mentally and is there any advice they can give me? thanks

The real problem here doesn't seem physical. Keep your head up, and try to think something positive about yourself everyday. I had a friend that battled the exact same issue, and that's literally how he got started on the right path. The results will never mean anything until you appreciate yourself first.

 

[~~whimsy~~]

Change your name on here to Stringbeany-Man. Give yourself something something to look towards in life. Beans are round, plump, and not as thing as a string bean.

Godspeed.

 

[beany_man]

This thread really helped me. I have lost 25 pounds although i have found it very hard. I will reply more to this thread throughout the day as right now im busy. But i really appreciate all of this

 

[wigster]

I've actually got the reverse problem. I'm totally underweight just above 8 stone, i've never really been that worried about it untill recently, when i started noticing in pictures just how skinny i was.

I guess as long as your comfortable with the way you look it's not that big of a problem, it's only when it's at the extreme levels where there is a problem like health wise IMO.

 

[larss]

Hey guys. In my life right now im about a stone overweight. Mabie a bit under,im not used to being this way. But depression kept me from being able to do anything.

Then today for the first time in over a year i went to the gym. I feel ok, though i feel really self councious when out walking because i have a bit of a bellly and my legs and ass are fatter than normal. I dont like being this way but i think there is something else going on here. I dont think its healthy for a guy to need validation that bad. Im always on some level thinking about what other people are thinking about me, i can't seem to shake this need.

I see overweight people and they don't seem so self counious. Yet i seem to be, although im not as bad as i used to be its not as good as i would like it too be. Is there anyone that has been in my situation physically or mentally and is there any advice they can give me? thanks

Unless you are 4ft tall, a stone is not a lot of extra weight to be carrying. If you're doing something about it, then there is really not much to be self concious for.

I do not know what a stone overweight would be, but I lost 60 lbs over the past couple of years. One of the best decisions of my life as I have more energy and my back and knees no longer hurt. Better to not feel depressed or self conscious of your body image. Take the weight off slowly and re-learn your eating habits and add some exercise to the mix.

Good luck on your lifestyle change.

A stone=14lbs or approx 6Kg.

 

[STDiva]

This thread really helped me. I have lost 25 pounds although i have found it very hard. I will reply more to this thread throughout the day as right now im busy. But i really appreciate all of this

Congrats!! Keep at it.