50 Shades of Divorce

[Johan]

50 Shades of Divorce: Wife 'inspired' by erotic book says husband failed to meet her expectations

Wife claims husband's attitude is evidence of 'unreasonable behaviour'
Husband did not respond when she bought some sexy underwear and blamed her behaviour on 'that bloody book'
Husband admits 'unreasonable behaviour' so divorce can be granted quickly
Solicitor claims case is evidence of social change where women are more adventurous in the bedroom


It's had a major impact on the publishing world – and in quite a few bedrooms.

But now Fifty Shades Of Grey is at the centre of an unusual court case.

A man is being divorced by his wife after he refused to spice up their love life by reliving scenes from the erotic bestseller.

The wife, a 41-year-old banker earning more than £400,000 a year, claims her husband’s ‘boring attitude’ to sex is evidence of ‘unreasonable behaviour’.

In her grounds for divorce, filed at the High Court, she refers to the novel, which tells of the sadomasochistic affair between billionaire Christian Grey and naive student Anastasia Steele. The woman in the court case bought the raunchy book almost as soon as it was published last year and hoped it would encourage her husband to be more adventurous in bed.

She bought some sexy underwear but her husband failed to respond to her advances and he even blamed her behaviour on ‘that bloody book’.

Now she has petitioned for divorce citing his alleged low libido as evidence of ‘unreasonable behaviour’, one of the five grounds for divorce under English law. The wife’s solicitor, Amanda McAlister, a family law expert, believes the case is the first where the new phenomenon of ‘mummy porn’ has triggered a divorce.

She said: ‘The woman had been reading the book and wanted to spice up her love life.

‘She thought their sex life had hit a rut – he never remembered Valentine’s Day and he never complimented her on her appearance. So she bought sexy underwear in an attempt to get her husband more involved. She said, “Let’s make things more interesting”.

‘But when he still didn’t take any notice she told him he had a boring attitude to sex and she was fed up.

‘He went ballistic when he found out the name of the book she was reading and told her, “It’s all because you have been reading that bloody book”.’

The husband is admitting ‘unreasonable behaviour’ so the divorce can be granted quickly without a contested hearing in which his alleged low libido would be discussed in court.

Miss McAlister, of Russell Jones and Walker, claims the case is evidence of a social change where women have been encouraged to become more adventurous in the bedroom.

She said: ‘There has been a real shift in sexual attitudes.

‘It used to be the men who complained they weren’t getting enough nookie in the bedroom.

‘But now it’s the women who are calling their husbands boring after reading books like Fifty Shades.’

The novel is the first in a trilogy by British author EL James which have sold more than 60million copies worldwide.

James – real name Erika Mitchell – describes her books as ‘romantic fantasy’ stories that offer women a ‘holiday from their husbands’.

The 49-year-old mother of two is said to be worth almost £4million after signing book deals on both sides of the Atlantic and a Hollywood movie contract.

The books have sparked a ‘mummy porn’ genre with publishers rushing to bring out more similar erotic fiction. One academic has even claimed the success of Fifty Shades has led to a baby boom after revitalising the sex lives of married couples.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...iled-meet-expectations.html?ito=feeds-newsxml

Now, I'd like to know how many teenage girls dumped their boyfriend after reading Twilight, arguing that he doesn't sparkle in the sunlight...

 

[TomJolly]

It's the media altogether my old china plate. For men and women both, when I meet a woman(that I like) I am a very simple man, theres only a couple of things they've got to check on the list before I can say HELL YEAH.
Not even hard things to get....

They need to be able to give as good as they get(joke wise) I love a woman that can have a proper laugh.
Honesty/Integrity

 

[Will E Worm]

This should not be grounds for divorce. I would have thrown the case out. :hammer:

 

[bigwarmload]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...iled-meet-expectations.html?ito=feeds-newsxml

... claims the case is evidence of a social change where women have been encouraged to become more adventurous in the bedroom.

She said: ‘There has been a real shift in sexual attitudes.

‘It used to be the men who complained they weren’t getting enough nookie in the bedroom.

‘But now it’s the women who are calling their male counterparts boring after reading books like Fifty Shades.

Huh?

I am still looking for a truly sexually insatiable women as my sexual counterpart. Its sad that these sex hungry ladies are stuck with the viagra, cialis, levitra, limp dick men. Perhaps a business opportunity to fulfill the spice for all the newly moist panties reading these books? Sexually insatiable attractive women apply within... "I'm your huckleberry".

 

[John_8581]

I like Paul Simon's song better. "50 Ways.... "

 

[squallumz]

i was going to give you credit for an amusing and almost cleaver title, but alas, tis not yours.

booooooooo!!

 

[bobjustbob]

She wants a divorce based upon a book she read. Smart dude. Jump on the chance to dump that bitch.

 

[jinxypie]

She wants a divorce based upon a book she read. Smart dude. Jump on the chance to dump that bitch.

No, it seems she wants a divorce because she has sexual needs and he has lost all interest in her sexually, despite her efforts to 'spice things up'.
So what if her desires were jump-started after reading this book? :dunno: Men usually get their jump-start after looking at some pictures or watching a few videos.

 

[Deepcover]

I don't really like to read stories like those...You marry out of love not out of lust unless idk...a married couple is into cuckolding and swinging.

 

[PlasmaTwa2]

She complains when he isn't adventurous enough, but something tells me if he tied her up out of the blue and stuck things in her ass she'd cry rape.

 

[Moonchild22]

You know, there are some countries that don't have to worry about such things...because the woman is not allowed to read. :stir:

The most disgusting thing about this article: It's usage of the word 'nookie'.

 

[vodkazvictim]

No, it seems she wants a divorce because she has sexual needs and he has lost all interest in her sexually, despite her efforts to 'spice things up'.
So what if her desires were jump-started after reading this book? :dunno: Men usually get their jump-start after looking at some pictures or watching a few videos.

You work for me

 

[Sicario]

I'm willing to bet once this bird is divorced, she will probably go to some Caribbean island (like Jamaica) and have at it with some native schlub ... seen lot's of that during my Gulliver's Travels last year.

 

[Harley Spencer]

No, it seems she wants a divorce because she has sexual needs and he has lost all interest in her sexually, despite her efforts to 'spice things up'.
So what if her desires were jump-started after reading this book? :dunno: Men usually get their jump-start after looking at some pictures or watching a few videos.

My thoughts exactly. The woman was having sexual frustrations prior to reading the book, bought the book, read it, it gave her some inspiration, her husband wasn't interested. I'd feel the same way if I were her.

Bloody men.

 

[jinxypie]

You work for me

Yep, I do all kinds of work for you... lazy bastard.

 

[luis1972]

too bad...

 

[L3ggy]

Harley Spencer[/URL][/B], post: 7139738, member: 579739"]Bloody men.

I'm not bloody...

 

[compal]

Has anyone here actually read the book? Honest opinions?

 

[PlasmaTwa2]

My thoughts exactly. The woman was having sexual frustrations prior to reading the book, bought the book, read it, it gave her some inspiration, her husband wasn't interested. I'd feel the same way if I were her.

Bloody men.

Her husband wasn't interested in what is basically an unrealistic, fantasy interpretation of sex and he's the one you're criticizing? Men watch porn and end up with the exact same unrealistic expectations, so it's not just men.

Bloody anybody-who-doesn't-like-being-tied-up-and-spanked-by-midgets-in-the-name-of-intimacy.

 

[Harley Spencer]

Has anyone here actually read the book? Honest opinions?

I have read all three books in the trilogy, Fifty Shades of Grey, Fifty Shades Darker, and Fifty Shades Freed. I initially bought the first book out of curiosity, to see what all the fuss is about. I had heard that the books were nothing but page after page of BDSM sex, and I was slightly disappointed when I discovered it wasn't page after page of sex until about halfway through the book. I dunno, perhaps the people saying it's nothing but sex are people who aren't very sexually experienced or are very shy and guarded when it comes to sex. Sure, there's a lot more sex in it than the average book, but there most certainly is a story line, and a pretty interesting one at that. The cliff hanger at the end of the first book is what compelled me to read the second and third.

Something that bugged me was how unrealistic the sex is. Ana, the main character, is a virgin when she meets Christian Grey and of course, he takes her virginity. She cums the first time they get intimate from no vaginal stimulation, just boob play. Then they have sex and she cums again. And all throughout the three books, she can orgasm literally on command. "Come for me, Ana!" Every time he tells her to cum, she does. Oh, if only it were that damned easy! Ridiculous.

it is an escape from reality. Christian Grey is this multi-billionaire playboy who showers his submissives with expensive new cars, laptops, phones, dinner, clothes, etc and is seemingly the most attractive man on the planet, with every woman who so much as glances at him blushing and stuttering uncontrollably. He is the epitome of a dominant, having a contract for his submissives to sign entailing rules including no eye contact, must always address him as "Sir," he controls what they wear, eat, how often and how long they sleep, when and how they exercise, what they drive, performs background checks on them, and does not allow them to masturbate either with him or without him.

In any case, regardless of it being unrealistic, it is a good read.

Her husband wasn't interested in what is basically an unrealistic, fantasy interpretation of sex and he's the one you're criticizing? Men watch porn and end up with the exact same unrealistic expectations, so it's not just men.

Bloody anybody-who-doesn't-like-being-tied-up-and-spanked-by-midgets-in-the-name-of-intimacy.

Based on the story of the wife wanting a divorce, there is nothing in there saying she tried initiating any sort of bondage, role play, or any means of S&M. She simply wore sexy undergarments and attempted to seduce her husband. It's not abnormal for couples to try spicing up their sex lives, there's nothing unrealistic about that. As I said before, it appears that she had issues with how her sex life was prior to reading Fifty Shades of Grey, and when she tried one last time to get some action by simply putting on something sexy, her husband had absolutely no interest in her. She tried and tried and tried, failed and failed and failed, wasn't happy, so she decided she wanted to end it.

Both men and women in relationships have needs. It should be each spouse's desire to fulfill those needs, to do whatever they can to please their partner, within reason of course. So refusing your spouse's sexual needs time after time implies that not only are you failing to please him or her physically (over and over again, not just occasionally, because occasionally is completely normal), but that you have no desire to fulfill their needs at all, whether inside or outside of the bedroom. And no, putting a roof over their head, providing food, providing anything materialistically does not count.