It's not a lack of self respect. It's no different from being sexually promiscuous in your personal life, aside from the fact that it's on film. Some people have sex with a lot of people, some don't. It doesn't make much of a difference whether it's being taped or not. There's nothing wrong with being in porn, and anyone who says otherwise is nothing but an insecure, judgmental jerk. There's also nothing wrong with not wanting to date someone in the adult industry. I couldn't, I know for damn sure that I couldn't, I'd definitely be way too jealous. I never said I wouldn't be. But I would also never look down on someone who is an adult performer, that's their choice, that's their lifestyle. I've been there, done that. I still am there, except now I'm only doing solo work and occasional g/g. To say that girls who fuck on film have no self respect and to talk about them as if they're worthless, dirty pieces of trash is just completely, disgustingly wrong.
Some girls are proud of their bodies and carefree about it, not giving a shit what other people think about them. Kudos to those girls, and in a way, I am that girl, except I do care what people think about me, to an extent. I care but I still do whatever the fuck I want.
Wouldn't you also say that it's fucked up and hypocritical of someone to watch porn, fantasize about the girls, masturbating to them, yet they go on trash talking the very girls they're dreaming about? Don't make excuses for yourself, don't try to make it look like you're not being hypocritical, because you are. It has always bothered me when I've heard men talking about how breathtakingly gorgeous girls in the adult industry are, going to strip clubs, jacking off to Playboy and Hustler magazines, watching porn, yet when faced with a girl who IS a stripper, they tell that girl, "That's disgusting," and tell their sons not to hang out with those girls. It's perfectly fine for you to want to fuck them, but god forbid you should show them any respect.
And actually no, I wouldn't give a shit if my guy were a pimp. Being a pimp doesn't necessarily require or involve any sexual relations between yourself and other people. Being a pimp is nothing more than having contacts with girls who have sex with other guys for money, taking a percentage of their pay from clients as the pimp is the one organizing the appointments and often times, providing the transportation and locations for the sex to occur.
Being in porn, being a stripper, or being an escort (or whore, hooker, prostitute, whatever term you prefer) is nothing more than a different lifestyle. It has nothing to do with lack of self respect. Just because you don't personally practice or agree with that lifestyle doesn't mean you have to think and talk so negatively about it.
