That's what they all say. Either your definition of nice is different than most peoples or you're just part of a very low percentage of women that actually prefer nice guys. I'm talking like 1%.
Why do nice guys finish last? (A question for the ladies)
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That's what they all say. Either your definition of nice is different than most peoples or you're just part of a very low percentage of women that actually prefer nice guys. I'm talking like 1%.
They don't finish last and never will if they're smart...most women want to take advantage of a guy and NICE GUYS don't have much to take advantage of or they're too naive to realize when they're taken for a ride.
A toast to all the nice guys out there...gals like us love you :glugglug:
For instance, my guy ain't much in the money department but he's a wonderful guy, honest, trustworthy, loving and I'm not like most women who take advantage of a nice guy.
I like to fall sleep at night in peace without wondering what I would wake up with if he weren't a nice guy :dunno:
A toast to all the nice guys out there...gals like us love you :glugglug:
For instance, my guy ain't much in the money department but he's a wonderful guy, honest, trustworthy, loving and I'm not like most women who take advantage of a nice guy.
I like to fall sleep at night in peace without wondering what I would wake up with if he weren't a nice guy :dunno:
Jane Burgess
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That is sad that women would like assholes. I like men that are nice, they don't have to be wealthy or very good looking. I just want to be treated well.
Maybe for you, but most women who are attracted to "bad boys" are attracted to the behavior, not just the look. You can't equate that to men who are attracted to certain women based solely on physical attributes (long legs, big boobs, brunette, etc).
I think the issue is more about confidence than "nice" or "bad" boy. If I see that a guy is confident, I feel immediately attracted to him. You can definitely be confident and nice at the same time. When I first saw my husband, he was standing with a group of friends, and he just seemed to be the center of the group, and when he walked up to talk to me, he was very sure of himself. He is a very nice and sensitive guy though, and always ready to take charge at the same time.
Alyssa Rose
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well you know what? Your right, for me it was always about the look not so much the attitude (because though my hubby thinks hes a bad ass he can be really really sweet) For me it was always the long hair, the clothes and of course, the car. So yeah women who like to be treated like shit obviously have some problems but I really don't think thats the case with most girls. Though the girls that these guys are going for a probably huge bitches so why do men want to be treated like shit? I mean if a girl keeps stringing you a long yet keeps going off with theses 'bad boys' then I would consider that being treated like shit.
Wow, there's a lot of shit flying around in this thread, and a new low from the worm. "do not have functional brains?" wow. That is all.
I think there is a perception factor here. Often women who are perceived to be "hot" and "desirable" are the ones who are playing the field. You notice women who are hopping men you know to be jerks, because the men AND the women are acting like dumbasses. We (men) notice those women, and think we want them.
The truth is, we don't. Women who seek out assholes are self-destructive. There may be a lot of reasons for that, and I'm making no judgment on those women. But they aren't looking for good guys, and they aren't going to find lasting relationships.
My advice? Well, for anyone who cares, find the hot, jerk-seeking woman x, and look behind her at the woman regarding woman x with disdain. That's more likely the woman you'd like to be with.
These are strictly Dirk's opinions. If you disagree with them, while you're likely wrong, please don't take offense. I'm only looking to piss off a few.
I think there is a perception factor here. Often women who are perceived to be "hot" and "desirable" are the ones who are playing the field. You notice women who are hopping men you know to be jerks, because the men AND the women are acting like dumbasses. We (men) notice those women, and think we want them.
The truth is, we don't. Women who seek out assholes are self-destructive. There may be a lot of reasons for that, and I'm making no judgment on those women. But they aren't looking for good guys, and they aren't going to find lasting relationships.
My advice? Well, for anyone who cares, find the hot, jerk-seeking woman x, and look behind her at the woman regarding woman x with disdain. That's more likely the woman you'd like to be with.
These are strictly Dirk's opinions. If you disagree with them, while you're likely wrong, please don't take offense. I'm only looking to piss off a few.
I spent many years wondering about this. The truth is, women do like nice guys but only if you are that way 90% of the time. They want you to show a side of you that is not so nice 10% of the time and they are fine with that.
No problemand Good Luck! just remember don't give in and talk to her while shes making up her mind, she needs to know your serious. It'll all turn out good
I agree, not every girl that's into badboys or whatever has "daddy issues". Even I know that much. I just wanted to know why so many guy's like myself so often get the shitty end of the stick when it comes to relationships with females.
Spleen
Banned?
Yeah, like I said....
Girls will never admit it. They want to believe they are only into nice guys, but they are blind to the truth. God forbid a woman actually realise us guys are right, the universe might collapse.
Maybe that's what the Mayans predicted?...
Will E Worm
Conspiracy...
Yep, "bad" boys finish first in bed. Then roll over and go to sleep. :1orglaugh
Yes, father issues.
Because you and L3ggy like cats? I like cats.
Confidence, more like arrogance. "Bad" boys don't know what confidence is. They also don't know how to treat people the right way.
You mean a gold digger will care about money.
No. If females were so intelligent so many wouldn't be left holding the child while the guy runs out on her. Also, so many females that say they wish they had waiting. Instead of giving in to the lusts of their boyfriend that didn't love her.
We are a dying breed it seems, or at least a smaller part of society.
Great idea lol
Wow, I have gotten a lot of feed back on this question. It would be nice to get more from the female perspective however. Come on throw me a freaking bone here, ladies.
I am a female and the definition of "nice" can mean many different things to many different women. So...
1. Your definition of "nice" might help, and
2. Don't pick up girls at a bar...you sound to "nice" to do that!!
Stick to the beer :glugglug: and visit FreeOnes more often...you don't know us so I guess we're all pretty nice in our own way :shy:
You're not so bad after all Will E. :glugglug:
I think Sparky and the other ladies have mad a lot of valid points here. And remember that confidence helps, so don't try and pick up women in bars go somewhere that you are comfortable and confident, and if you don't have a place like that make one. Just talk and have fun, and pay attention because women have ways of letting you know when its time to push it to the next level.
