Can I ask you a question ChefChiTown?
If your girl cheated on you, would you break up with her?
What should I do about my GF?
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Can I ask you a question ChefChiTown?
If your girl cheated on you, would you break up with her?
ChefChiTown
The secret ingredient? MY BALLS
Obviously. But that has nothing to do with what I said.
My point is that sex is a very important part in a relationship.
If you want to avoid a break up, fix your sex life. The more you continue in a boring sex life, the more likely you are to explore with other women(or even worse, she cheats on you).
Actually, cheating in a relationship has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with trust. If there's no more trust then You Might as well not be together.
I am in a similar boat. I love my wife but we rarely have sex now and when we do I can't get excited about it because we don't agree on what we want to do in bed. She only knows two positions and I want to try different things and my dick ended up not getting the love and you know the rest. Right now with a baby sleeping on our bed I just go online and get my fix there. Sad but I think most marriages are like that.
ChefChiTown
The secret ingredient? MY BALLS
Do you realize how many relationships are based solely on "great sex" and nothing more? Do you realize how often those relationships fail?
If I was dating a girl and she was, for lack of a better phrase, "bad in bed", I wouldn't let that get in the way of our relationship or the way that I felt about her. I wouldn't go out and sleep with other women just to get my rocks off either. That's just selfish, immature and stupid. People don't respect sex and are extremely selfish when it comes to having sex with their significant other. Personally, if I'm going to have sex with somebody, I'm not going to do it just so I can cum. I'm going to do it because I love the girl I'm with and treat sex as a physical way to express my love for her. That sounds extremely gay, but I don't care.
Also, I have a question for you...
If you were dating a girl and she was terrible at oral sex and she wasn't too great in bed either, would you dump her? Would you go have sex with other girls who were "better" at it?
i don't necessarily agree on the cheating part but sex is one of the most important parts of a relationship. the advice from Vicky is right-on. see what you can do to improve it. maybe there's something she can do to help you reach a higher level. or perhaps you have low testosterone. or maybe she just doesn't turn you on in which case you may be better off with someone else, although it sounds like she's a keeper (without looking at her).
All men are different, so we look for things we like in a women. Me, personally, I look for women who fucks good, but personality plays a key factor in a solid relationship. If my girl doesn't fuck good anymore, there is going to be a problem, but we can work on that. If not, chances are I'm going to cheat, and thats just the way I am, but only if we can't work it out. I either cheat or break up.
I also see your point and see that we are all different.
You don't have to answer this question, but...are you on antidepressants?
And that's the way it should be.
But remember, other relationship issues (anger, resentment, lack of trust, etc) are often acted out through the sexual relationship. When that happens a couple's sex life (or more to the point lack of one) does become extremely important.
Will E Worm
Conspiracy...
Really? I thought it was communication? You know being able to talk to one another. Is conversation a lost art?
Go back to comment #11
A relationship based solely on "good" sex will not last and is not a healthy relationship.
He didnt say it was THE most important part. Just one of the most important parts.
Anyways...if she treats you good and is as awesome as you say she is, you gotta take the bad with the good. Would you rather she be amazing in bed, but be a total bitch?
Dont leave the one you love, for the one you lust. Because the one you lust will leave you for the one they love.
Gay I know, but it seems fitting.
I didnt say it was the most important part in a relationship. I said its one of the most
ChefChiTown
The secret ingredient? MY BALLS
If you ever decide to marry your girlfriend, then your problems are over because once you tie the knot, there is no reason for the both of you to continue to impress each other. I have married friends that tell me that after marriage and kids, your sex life will dwindle anyway.
:2 cents:
When I first got into my relationship with my girlfriend the sex was the best ever. Not much has changed however......I played the field and then some before meeting her. Was faithful to no one and did what I wanted, when I wanted.
After a year or so of being tied down I got bored with great sex because it was with the same girl over and over. I had urges for girls that were just "different" then she was. I still conceded that no sex was better than my girlfriend's.
It took me awhile to get out of that stage. Years actually. And yes she found out about some of it. But she stayed with me. Now that I've matured more I'm so happy that we stayed together because I realize how other girls don't really compare to everything she is.
So to answer your question, it could be just a phase your going through and maybe you'll work yourself out of it. But if you know in your heart that she's the best for you then stay by her. I don't recommend straying though. Just so happened it was what I needed for the moment.
After a year or so of being tied down I got bored with great sex because it was with the same girl over and over. I had urges for girls that were just "different" then she was. I still conceded that no sex was better than my girlfriend's.
It took me awhile to get out of that stage. Years actually. And yes she found out about some of it. But she stayed with me. Now that I've matured more I'm so happy that we stayed together because I realize how other girls don't really compare to everything she is.
So to answer your question, it could be just a phase your going through and maybe you'll work yourself out of it. But if you know in your heart that she's the best for you then stay by her. I don't recommend straying though. Just so happened it was what I needed for the moment.
Hi!
I guess you are doing something wrong, or I am doing something right!
I never had better sex than I have now with my steady girlfriend I see for about 4 years. She knows every move I like, every little detail. I wholeheartedly know I never have the same experience with a one night stand or a woman I just know for about half a year.
My girl knows how to push my buttons, and I wouldn't want it any other way. If the excitement one has in sex is only based on WHO you're having it with, you will certainly get bored. If it's based on HOW you're having it, a steady relation is best. And even: I prefer quality over quantity!
:2 cents:
PS: above is not intended to offend other members, but to give another perspective on the sometimes egocentric thoughts of the "how", who" and "why" in relationships. In a conflict, both parties have a piece of the problem AND the solution!
Not necessarily. I believe its perfectly fine to re-evaluate a relationship if either person is unsatisfied for ANY reason. If you are married and have completely committed yourself to the person then maybe not. Considering that splitting up would have an effect on both people that is undesirable.. Court, ect. But if you havent made that step to commitment when in a long, dedicated relationship, then there is obviously a reason. Why not think things over? And think "Why am I still with this person? Is it really worth it? Could I actually be happier somewhere else? Do I want to spend even more years of my life with them?" Ect ect.
Hi!
I guess you are doing something wrong, or I am doing something right!
I never had better sex than I have now with my steady girlfriend I see for about 4 years. She knows every move I like, every little detail. I wholeheartedly know I never have the same experience with a one night stand or a woman I just know for about half a year.
My girl knows how to push my buttons, and I wouldn't want it any other way. If the excitement one has in sex is only based on WHO you're having it with, you will certainly get bored. If it's based on HOW you're having it, a steady relation is best. And even: I prefer quality over quantity!
:2 cents:
PS: above is not intended to offend other members, but to give another perspective on the sometimes egocentric thoughts of the "how", who" and "why" in relationships. In a conflict, both parties have a piece of the problem AND the solution!
I love this post.
My guy and I have been together for about 6 years and this is exactly how it is for us. Of course there's a lot of working it up to that point, but its FUN. lol
ChefChiTown
The secret ingredient? MY BALLS
To each their own, but here is my problem with people using the quality of their sex life (and how good it feels) with their significant other as some sort of weight that can tip the scales and decide whether or not they will stay with that person...
I can get the same exact physical result by masturbating, so people who act like they're not sexually satisfied with their significant other are just using that as a terrible excuse so they can mask their true problem with the relationship.
Sex isn't (or shouldn't be) about "getting your rocks off". I've said this before, and not to sound like that guy again, but sex should be something special that is shared between two people who love eachother. The only people who let the quality of their sex life get in the way of a loving relationship are people who take sex for granted and don't fully understand the emotion of love in the first place.
:2 cents:
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