What Are Relationships Like, Still A Virgin, And Single & Looking....

[senob44]

If you feel so bad about being a virgin, maybe I can help you out. What's your ass look like? Maybe I'll give it a shot if you dress up like Marcia Gay Harden for me.

I've been straight up until now, but I love a charity case!

 

[georges]

Things happen to those who know to wait. If you have an urgent need of sex then why not have some fun with a nice escort or a hooker? I personally think it is better to have some hot experiences/ hot fucks than being a virgin and not a single hot experience. But this is just my personal opinion.

 

[Roughneck]

This is probably a "futile" post anyway since you've "given up" and will "turn down any offers in the future".... but still:

I am not attractive, I am average at best!

You think every other person walking this Earth is a super-model? Do you think "love and companionship" only happens to "super models and film stars" ?

You need to ask yourself: "Am I looking for a companion or am I just looking for someone to fuck" ?


Exclusive relationships start at the basic level of "trust". The most lasting relationships are build on the foundation of "trust" and "friendship". Attraction, sex, love.... these are all secondary.

I'll repeat again - with the attitude you have right now; even if you engage a supermodel in conversation and convince her into a relationship with you... that relationship will neither be happy nor lasting.

Being "single" is not a crime. Neither is it a crime to be "un-attractive" (remember that "attractive" is a social/societal construct anyway). To seek "love" and "companionship" solely based on superficial constructs such as "looks" and "attractiveness" is foolishness.

It is patently obvious that you do not love yourself. You constantly disparage your worth (physical or otherwise) - in public no less. You maybe a millionaire but without self-confidence, you are no different from the pauper on the street.


Focus on your self first (i.e. stop thinking "I'm not attractive").
Accept who you are (i.e. "I have many things to offer - intelligence/wit/artistry/whathaveyou". If you don't "have something to offer", start learning one....)
Channel it in a positive way (i.e "So that relationship didn't work out. Let me fix what I think was wrong and try again").

Remember: the world is not ALL made of "Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston".


As regards the "troll" bit - I'm still not convinced that you aren't one... but I DID mention that I was giving you the "benefit of the doubt".

best of luck,

 

[georges]

great post roughneck :thumbsup:

 

[DreamSparrow]

To me, you sound like you could be genuinely depressed. You're irritable, you're self-loathing, you've adopted a despairing, hopeless attitude towards women. You look rather tired in your pictures and video.

My advice is the obvious one -- talk to your doctor about your feelings and see if you can get some form of cognitive behavioural therapy. Despite the fact they've been rather harsh about it, some people in this thread have correctly pointed out that the problems you're having appear to be a consequence of the manner in which you think. If you can alter the patterns of habitual negative thinking, I'm sure you'll end up leading a much happier life.

http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinformation/therapies/cognitivebehaviouraltherapy.aspx

 

[Andreo]

@mlauzon (original poster)

I think some of the guys gave you good advice, this is like my 2 two cents, so I just add my opinion, I dont want to criticize the others (especially slickone seems to have good ideas, I wonder why he is still... however)

So this is what I think

1) You are not unattractive, many men look worse, including me, and have great relationships with hot women, hopefully including me (I have a prospect girlfriend at the moment).

2) Attitude: You really need to relax and be more friendly. Being "nice" does not help you much with women, however, being an asshole with 90% of the women certainly wont work (I mean you are 32 and not 22). 32 is the time where the women have had their asshole, are now divorced single mothers and go for the nice guy ;-)

3) You need to go out! Hang out with friends, as slickone told you go to the museum, travel etc.

4) Fashion is always a good thing. Go to a clothing store and ask the 30something female clerks what would suit you. This is your target group.

5) You will probably need to upsize your lifestyle. Earn more money if possible and spend it. Not to impress, just to feel confident.

6) You may reconsider visiting a prostitute. But dont fall in love with her.

Yours,
FoC

 

[thegunner]

Get an active life and the women will come. Sometimes you wont even have to ask! Get off here and go take up a load of new hobbies.

 

[Chrism86354]

there are several intelligent people on this message board. I think you should really take this advice seriously mlauzon.

 

[LordVader66]

IMO...Judging from your photos...I would get a haircut, contacts if possible or at least a new pair of glasses, and visit a clothing store to change your look a little. It does wonders for self esteem if you reinvent yourself every now and then. I'm not saying be up on the latest fashions, however a pair of slacks and a button down shirt is nice for a casual night out. Lastly what other members have said of your attitude. Confidence is important to women and a man without confidence is a huge turn off. Remember women are people too but don't go for the hot bitch because she is most likely going to be mean and turn you down. You can spot these women a mile away if you just observe their behavior for a little while. I've not said anything that has not already been posted, however I hope you will take some suggestions into consideration and maybe you will find happiness with a woman.

 

[slickone]

It's unfortunate that mlauzon has shot us down and won't even pay attention to anyone's advice. If you want to listen to guys who have experience, listen to what others have said. If you want to listen to someone who is in the same shoes you are in, listen to what I have said.

We gave you simple things you could start with, and whether you act them out or not is up to you. If you won't even try these few things out, seems like you don't even give a damn.

 

[youwanttoshagme]

I thought this was a joke thread form the first post. Some 16yr old kid trying to get a rise, and I still have my suspicions that it could be.

My two cents is get a life first, then get a girl. If you think your a loser, you are one. Do something about it, and your not.

If you are some dick head 16yr old kid, fuck off and pester someone on Bebo or MySpace you loser.

 

[meredith]

Get off the computer and learn some basic life skills.

 

[BlueBalls]

:dunno:This thread is still going wow:dunno:



:crash::crash::crash:

 

[DOA82]

I thought this was a joke thread form the first post. Some 16yr old kid trying to get a rise, and I still have my suspicions that it could be.

My two cents is get a life first, then get a girl. If you think your a loser, you are one. Do something about it, and your not.

If you are some dick head 16yr old kid, fuck off and pester someone on Bebo or MySpace you loser.

I was just giving the guy a friendly ribbing, but at least cut him some slack!

 

[senob44]

To the original poster:

I'm sorry if what I said before was not quite apropos to the discussion. But, I've got to keep up my reputation as a closet homosexual.

But seriously, you should take the advice that is being given by these fine members. Don't ever give up on yourself. You really aren't any worse looking than any other guy. Confidence is key. Once you are confident in yourself, you won't get shot down all the time. Women love confidence, and you can get some by gaining some self-esteem. You Might try working with a therapist on that. Every one of us has wonderful things about ourselves that we can offer others. Once you learn this, you will not be nearly as unhappy as you are now. Seriously, I wish you the best of luck mate.

 

[anomaly]

I wonder what having a relationship would be like, I am going on 32 this year, and have been asking women out since I was around 10 -- yes I know that is kind of young -- but I have been turned down every single time for 22yrs in a row; I've never been on a date, I've never been kissed, I've never had a girlfriend, and I still have not had sex. I do not know why this is happening to me, why I cannot seem to get what everyone else can get. I am lonely. Yes, I've tried personal ads, but they don't even work for me. Because of all this, I've never have had a Valentine's Day, it's the worst day of the year for me, a day I don't even want to leave my apartment, because if I did I'd see everyone who is in love celebrating, and I just can't handle that.

Do you go out looking for women? If you just try you should be able to pickup a woman. Even if you aren't the best looking or unskilled at picking up women.:yinyang: