thinking about another woman

[Commander01]

i have been happily married for about 2.5 years to a wonderful woman

however, there is a girl i have known for over 10 years who i still think about all the time. i had met her on the internet and we talked a lot for a long time but just as friends. we met once and it was nice. however, to this day, i still think about her, fantasize about her, and wonder what it would be like to be intimate with her. for whatever reason, i can't stop thinking about her. physically, i have to admit, she is a total knockout (pic attached).

it has never gotten in the way of my marriage but i still wonder why i can't get her off of my mind.

has anyone else experienced this?

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[thebear247]

dont confuse lust for love my friend one day or night of being curious isnt worth a HAPPY marriage. nothing wrong with having a fantasy tho . just remember where you park your boots at night my friend

 

[skechers]

dont confuse lust for love my friend one day or night of being curious isnt worth a HAPPY marriage. nothing wrong with having a fantasy tho . just remember where you park your boots at night my friend

And there you have it

 

[Gomorra]

I don't think "lust" lasts for 10 years. You've developed a fantasy life with this girl in your mind and that probably isn't going to be healthy down the road. You say it doesn't effect your marriage but if you are still fantasizing over her after 10 years it will eventually. :2 cents:

 

[Jagger69]

Oh boy can I relate to this one. I'll spare you the details but trust me....leave your fantasies where they belong....in your imagination.

 

[gunslingingbird]

It's normal for the male mind to lust after other women, but, as rational beings, we have to learn how to control our thoughts and emotions and not act on them just on instinct. Remember: you can look at the menu, just don't order anything. :2 cents:

 

[Skyraider22]

It is normal to think about it other women just don't act on it I mean I do it to I guess what I'm trying to say is as long as you are happy or she makes you happy.

 

[Sicario]

If I were you, I'd keep your lustful imagination in your pants where it belongs.

 

[Yankeefan21325]

A one night stand is never worth a lifetime of happiness. Leave her where shes at, and enjoy the rest of your life with your wife.

 

[lurkingdirk]

an hour of fun is a pretty crappy substitution for 10 years of relationship. i've had similar thoughts, man, and i feel your pain, and i can tell you certainly it isn't worth it.

 

[Hypergalaxy]

Everyone has thoughts of what if but if it isnt broke dont fix it.. Just because you wonder doesnt mean you should throw away what you already worked for

 

[The Paulinator]

Oh boy can I relate to this one. I'll spare you the details but trust me....leave your fantasies where they belong....in your imagination.

I agree. I have been married for 18-1/2 years, and I have a couple of lady friends I really enjoy being with, and we are definitely mutually attracted to each other. However, you must remember (and sometimes re-assure your wife) that there is more than one kind of love, and that your wife is your chosen one. It is possible to love someone and not physically act upon it.

 

[fatmatt]

I don't think "lust" lasts for 10 years. You've developed a fantasy life with this girl in your mind and that probably isn't going to be healthy down the road. You say it doesn't effect your marriage but if you are still fantasizing over her after 10 years it will eventually. :2 cents:

Biologically I thinks possible to yearn for more than one woman. If you focus on your wife an only think about this other woman, but don't act on anything or seek her out, I don't think it's a problem.

 

[Torre82]

Guilt lasts a month, regret lasts a lifetime. Take that any way you want it, that's the way you need it, any way you want it.. duh-dununna nunna DU-DUH!

She loves to laugh, she loves to sing, oohhh she does everything. She loves to move, she loves to groove, oh she loves the lovin things.

ANY WAY YOU WANT IT, THAT'S THE WAY YOU NEED IT, ANY WAY YOU WANT IT!