The alternative to that is to usually to do a bunch of things you don't want and to with a lot of people you don't want to do it with, regret doing it, and quickly get washed out of porn with no money after the new car smell wears off the move to hardcore. Doing everything your fans want you to do isn't always a good career move. They may complain about some things, but they won't pay the bills after the performer's career is over. In that way I can’t totally blame her for doing some of it.
I will admit that there are some things she could do better business wise. Like having a reasonable release schedule and not putting gimmicks into movies from their own production. Looking hot, being erotic, maybe being romatic, and having sex should be enough without a bunch of nonsense. There are also some other things I don’t want to get into.
As far as her boyfriend is concerned he might very well be a nice guy. I don’t know, and I would rather her do it with somebody she wants, especially a significant other, than to performer with a jerk or somebody she doesn’t want to do it with even if he is a better performer. While I don’t put too much emphasis on the man in a scene (unless I just don’t like him or he’s a scumbag in which case I will boycott the product) there comes a point where somebody is just such a poor performer or is so ugly that’s impossible to ignore him and it hurts the entire thing.