So i married. Can i continue watching porn?
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Arden Adamz
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another quick addition to that... If sharing porn together is totally out of the question... maybe you can find out what it is about porn that you enjoy so much. Is is the variety, the fantasy, the taboo, the instant gratification, maybe the voyeurism? Depending upon what kind of erotica you like to watch, You Might be able to discover what the allure is for you... Once you've established that perhaps you can brainstorm other activities to stimulate you and meet that need. You certainly don't want to piss your wife off and lie to her, but you also don't want to stop doing something you love and become resentful toward her. Supplementing your life with private rewards is important... Everyone needs a little me time, hopefully you can find something that excites you and doesn't stress your wife (or YOU) out!
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SpexyAshleigh
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Can I just ask a question to the dudes of this thread? If porn is such a deal breaker for you...and say porn is clearly a deal breaker for the wife in question (and possibly alot of your spouses as well)...then why the hell are ya together? If neither will budge, and it ultimately comes down to you having to lie about things and be a sneaky a-hole then why'd ya get married in the first place?
Sorry, I don't mean to be a negative Nancy....I just think if more people were 100% honest in the beginning, knew what they wanted, and made it clear what were deal breakers, both to themselves and their partners, and acted accordingly on it...divorce wouldn't be as prevalent. I mean I'm speaking as someone who's marriage failed. And on behalf of many divorced people I know...most of them broke up because something was wrong and the problems never got fixed so it ended...but had one or both partners discussed it beforehand and had the foresight to realize it would break them up in the end, they wouldn't have gotten married in the first place. I just see the obvious answer to this thread as being "find someone who is fine with you watching porn"....but its obviously too late for that, and now its going to come down to either him being unhappy because he's given up the porn to make his wife happy, or her getting hurt because he's lying to her and disrespecting her feelings by watching it anyways. How is this a win situation?! There are some things in marriage where things can be compromised on, but this doesn't sound like its one of them so one of them are going to get hurt in the end and it just seems like one of those situations where they shoulda discussed it beforehand. If its important enough that he'll lie to her, its important enough NOT to be with her.
Sorry for the rambling, I just woke up and am a babbling idiot. lol.
Sorry, I don't mean to be a negative Nancy....I just think if more people were 100% honest in the beginning, knew what they wanted, and made it clear what were deal breakers, both to themselves and their partners, and acted accordingly on it...divorce wouldn't be as prevalent. I mean I'm speaking as someone who's marriage failed. And on behalf of many divorced people I know...most of them broke up because something was wrong and the problems never got fixed so it ended...but had one or both partners discussed it beforehand and had the foresight to realize it would break them up in the end, they wouldn't have gotten married in the first place. I just see the obvious answer to this thread as being "find someone who is fine with you watching porn"....but its obviously too late for that, and now its going to come down to either him being unhappy because he's given up the porn to make his wife happy, or her getting hurt because he's lying to her and disrespecting her feelings by watching it anyways. How is this a win situation?! There are some things in marriage where things can be compromised on, but this doesn't sound like its one of them so one of them are going to get hurt in the end and it just seems like one of those situations where they shoulda discussed it beforehand. If its important enough that he'll lie to her, its important enough NOT to be with her.
Sorry for the rambling, I just woke up and am a babbling idiot. lol.
Geez, too bad there's no discussion of a pre-nuptial or you would have included watching porn in there. :yesyes: Then again, you don't really know your wife at all...before and after you tied the knot. 
Good luck mate...
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Although I think you should be able to, best to discuss with her. No need to start a fight over it! And it can be great when shared....
vodkazvictim
Why save the world, when you can rule it?
Because porn is like an addiction for some of us - we just can't shake it.
You can try being honest, but sooner or later the little lies will start because that BOSSY LITTLE BITCH WILL NOT EVER EVER STOP DEMANDING WHAT SHE WANTS and whenever your angry its not because she's done something wrong, OH NO, OF COURSE NOT.
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Point is: You want porn and can't control yourself enough to avoid it (in some cases) and many feel it is unreasonable that she objects.
Also, in my case, she's so INCREDIBLY FUCKING BOSSY, STUBBORN AND INSISTENT that in the end you end up lying because BEING REASONABLE JUST DOES NOT WORK and ITS THE ONLY WAY TO GET WHAT YOU WANT AND FEEL THAT YOU DESERVE.
Sorry for all the capital letters, it's just that my lady is a pain in the arse extraordinaire and I use FO to vent my frustration.
well, im married and i see no problem in watching porn. my wife neither. she even like to watch some. she shows everyone my signed pic of belladonna and is a huge fan too.
maybe the problem is if porn become most important thing in your life and you forget about everything else - including wifey. i mean, if you can manage it the right way, porn can even spice up your relationship. well, at least with me, its been working...
and i must say, that besides just watching it, i also make some illustrations of some models and porn stars, and besides sometimes she got a little jealous, she encourages me a lot. so, i guess the most important thing is to talk to her and to make her confortable with the situation.
well, thats MY point of view...
maybe the problem is if porn become most important thing in your life and you forget about everything else - including wifey. i mean, if you can manage it the right way, porn can even spice up your relationship. well, at least with me, its been working...
and i must say, that besides just watching it, i also make some illustrations of some models and porn stars, and besides sometimes she got a little jealous, she encourages me a lot. so, i guess the most important thing is to talk to her and to make her confortable with the situation.
well, thats MY point of view...
Kingfisher
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This is definitely something you have to ease into. Not right away, subtle hints, it's a very delicate game.
i'd say it's just fine but really it's not my, or anyone elses opinion here, opinion that matters
vodkazvictim
Why save the world, when you can rule it?
its too late now you're married. she ain't gon be happy but is just gonna have to deal with it or hit the road. dont compromise man or she will be pissing in your face by morning and crushing your nuts with high heels. you dont wanna wind up like one of those cuckold guys in the corner with your dick in a little cage right
lechepicha
Prince of the Rotten Milk
a little progress: i talk to her yesterday, told her that when we weren't married, because we didn't have too much sex, i "used to" jerk off constantly.
And she says: "ok, i understand"
And then, the bomb: "...and... i use porn for that, you know, videos..." (in low-tone voice)
And she says: "yuk! why?"
I said: "for getting excited and get off, since my imagination isn't enough, and i can even hurt my dick..."
She says: "ok, i got it. It's ok..."
Now, the next step is say to her that NOW THAT I'M MARRIED, i want to continue doing it... of course, when we have no sex in a couple of days ('cause to be honest, when we have sex in-and-out, i have no need for porn)
And she says: "ok, i understand"
And then, the bomb: "...and... i use porn for that, you know, videos..." (in low-tone voice)
And she says: "yuk! why?"
I said: "for getting excited and get off, since my imagination isn't enough, and i can even hurt my dick..."
She says: "ok, i got it. It's ok..."
Now, the next step is say to her that NOW THAT I'M MARRIED, i want to continue doing it... of course, when we have no sex in a couple of days ('cause to be honest, when we have sex in-and-out, i have no need for porn)
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