should i use a sniffer?

[jodyojody]

Here is my dilemma.
Ive been divorced from my ex for 10 years now and weve always stayed friends,helping each other out and stuff like that.The past year, he has been renting the mother-in-law suite from me and we have been getting along even better than when we were married.We flirt with each other quite often and have had sex 4 times since he moved into my place.
Now, for the past little bit we have been talking and hinting around at getting back together full time.The problem is that he likes to go out every weekend with his friends and there are alot of girls in his circle of friends that like him.
His computer is hooked up with wireless internet through my wireless router and im wondering if i should put a sniffer or keylogger onto his computer,just to make sure im not getting fucked over.I really dont care about his internet activities as i am probably as perverted if not more than him.I just want to keep an eye on his conversations with his girl-pals to make sure that i am the only girlfriend.Luckily i am the one that takes care of everyones computers in this house so i do have access to his machine.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to any good sniffers or keyloggers that i could anonymously install and not get busted.Again, this is more to save a broken heart than to spy on his activities.I know if i dont find any problems with him and other girls,that i will probably feel guilty but if i do find something bad, then at least i can end it there without the whole mess of me finding out the hard way.
Any help would be appreciated.

Thanks,
Jody

 

[Hypergalaxy]

If you guys are divorced why do you care what he does?

 

[24788]

Here is my dilemma.
Ive been divorced from my ex for 10 years now and weve always stayed friends,helping each other out and stuff like that.The past year, he has been renting the mother-in-law suite from me and we have been getting along even better than when we were married.We flirt with each other quite often and have had sex 4 times since he moved into my place.
Now, for the past little bit we have been talking and hinting around at getting back together full time.The problem is that he likes to go out every weekend with his friends and there are alot of girls in his circle of friends that like him.
His computer is hooked up with wireless internet through my wireless router and im wondering if i should put a sniffer or keylogger onto his computer,just to make sure im not getting fucked over.I really dont care about his internet activities as i am probably as perverted if not more than him.I just want to keep an eye on his conversations with his girl-pals to make sure that i am the only girlfriend.Luckily i am the one that takes care of everyones computers in this house so i do have access to his machine.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to any good sniffers or keyloggers that i could anonymously install and not get busted.Again, this is more to save a broken heart than to spy on his activities.I know if i dont find any problems with him and other girls,that i will probably feel guilty but if i do find something bad, then at least i can end it there without the whole mess of me finding out the hard way.
Any help would be appreciated.

Thanks,
Jody

If you need to resort to that level of trust then you probably shouldn't get back together.

You should wait a bit.

 

[jodyojody]

If you need to resort to that level of trust then you probably shouldn't get back together.

You should wait a bit.

Its not really that its a "trust" thing, as i really dont even care if he has one-night stands.We were always "open" that way in the past.I just want to make sure that if something more than that goes on,that i can walk away without looking like a fool.

 

[Hypergalaxy]

Its not really that its a "trust" thing, as i really dont even care if he has one-night stands.We were always "open" that way in the past.I just want to make sure that if something more than that goes on,that i can walk away without looking like a fool.

ohhh I get what you are saying now but if you cant trust him now what makes you think you will if you get back into a relationship with him

 

[jodyojody]

ohhh I get what you are saying now but if you cant trust him now what makes you think you will if you get back into a relationship with him

Well i am just making sure that his girl friends are not really his girlfriends.He says there is nothing like that going on and if i install these programs and find out he is telling the truth,then there is a reason to trust him more.Correct?

Has anyone used these programs before,and any suggestions?

 

[usmc071984]

that is a gross invasion of privacy and you need to get rid of any idea of doin that shit to him ever again. you are back at the dating stages if you are considerin gettin back together. would you do that with someone you were dating? if yes, you are a clingy overbearing bitch and dont deserve him. if no, then step back, take a few breaths and reassess the situation. look if he is gunna have others in his life, he is gunna whether you spy or not. and the computer isnt the only portal to assist him in this. just get back to the normal rational person mindset and take things as they come at you. if and when he proves himself after you decide not to spy, you will be that much deeper and happier in the relationship, and there is no risk of embarassin yourself when he finds out what you did in the first place.

 

[Hot Mega]

Its not really that its a "trust" thing, as i really dont even care if he has one-night stands.We were always "open" that way in the past.I just want to make sure that if something more than that goes on,that i can walk away without looking like a fool.

My rule of thumb is that I don't play Sherlock Holmes. If I can't trust someone to be what they claim to be....I have no use for them.

I'm not sniffing around anyone or their personal stuff....And I really can't get into people go behind the backs of others to do this kind of stuff.

My advice would be to tell the guy what you expect...ask him if that's going to be cool with him...If he can live up to it...deal with him. If he's fucking you over, you'll find out soon enough and you shouldn't be hurt for it but wiser.:2 cents:

 

[Rey C.]

No offense to you, but what I would tell him: run!!! Run like the wind! :wave2:

Sounds like that would be best for all involved.

 

[jodyojody]

that is a gross invasion of privacy and you need to get rid of any idea of doin that shit to him ever again. you are back at the dating stages if you are considerin gettin back together. would you do that with someone you were dating? if yes, you are a clingy overbearing bitch and dont deserve him. if no, then step back, take a few breaths and reassess the situation. look if he is gunna have others in his life, he is gunna whether you spy or not. and the computer isnt the only portal to assist him in this. just get back to the normal rational person mindset and take things as they come at you. if and when he proves himself after you decide not to spy, you will be that much deeper and happier in the relationship, and there is no risk of embarassin yourself when he finds out what you did in the first place.

Look, I am not looking for "moral" advice. I know what i want to do is considerred wrong,but I have to look out for myself first.He really doesnt know very much about computers and i fix his issues regularly so i am not too worried about him finding out.If this is too much for you to comprehend, then please move to another thread.

Thanks again

 

[Gomorra]

Do what u gotta do...

http://www.sharewareconnection.com/titles/record-keystrokes.htm

 

[Ainttalkinlove]

Here is my dilemma.
Ive been divorced from my ex for 10 years now and weve always stayed friends,helping each other out and stuff like that.The past year, he has been renting the mother-in-law suite from me and we have been getting along even better than when we were married.We flirt with each other quite often and have had sex 4 times since he moved into my place.
Now, for the past little bit we have been talking and hinting around at getting back together full time.The problem is that he likes to go out every weekend with his friends and there are alot of girls in his circle of friends that like him.
His computer is hooked up with wireless internet through my wireless router and im wondering if i should put a sniffer or keylogger onto his computer,just to make sure im not getting fucked over.I really dont care about his internet activities as i am probably as perverted if not more than him.I just want to keep an eye on his conversations with his girl-pals to make sure that i am the only girlfriend.Luckily i am the one that takes care of everyones computers in this house so i do have access to his machine.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to any good sniffers or keyloggers that i could anonymously install and not get busted.Again, this is more to save a broken heart than to spy on his activities.I know if i dont find any problems with him and other girls,that i will probably feel guilty but if i do find something bad, then at least i can end it there without the whole mess of me finding out the hard way.
Any help would be appreciated.

Thanks,
Jody

Fuckin weak dude, dont do it. thats just fuckin weak.

 

[Wainkerr99]

Sounds like "Little Black Book". http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0361841/

 

[mrtrebus]

Look, I am not looking for "moral" advice. I know what i want to do is considerred wrong,but I have to look out for myself first.He really doesnt know very much about computers and i fix his issues regularly so i am not too worried about him finding out.If this is too much for you to comprehend, then please move to another thread.

Thanks again

But it is a question of morality, if you feel the need to resort to this course of action, well it doesn't bode well for the relationship.

 

[Serpent7]

My rule of thumb is that I don't play Sherlock Holmes. If I can't trust someone to be what they claim to be....I have no use for them.

I'm not sniffing around anyone or their personal stuff....And I really can't get into people go behind the backs of others to do this kind of stuff.

My advice would be to tell the guy what you expect...ask him if that's going to be cool with him...If he can live up to it...deal with him. If he's fucking you over, you'll find out soon enough and you shouldn't be hurt for it but wiser.:2 cents:

Wow, second post from you that I totaly agree on with your answer!

X2!

 

[BlueBalls]

I would advise against that.

Spying on someone really isnt the best way to start off your new relationship. Especially since it didnt work the last time.

It has been said better by those above ... :hatsoff:



Good luck with it anyway.

 

[STDiva]

It sounds like you are the one who shan't be trusted. IMO. You should just tell him "I don't want to be made to look like a fool" instead of going mission impossible on him. You either take his word for it, and keep on keepin on, or you don't take his word, and ask yourself why you're wasting your time with someone you don't trust. :dunno:

 

[jackwang]

Really bad idea. It could ruin the friendship, any chances of getting back together, and it's criminal. Don't do it.

 

[Hot Mega]

Look, I am not looking for "moral" advice. I know what i want to do is considerred wrong,but I have to look out for myself first.He really doesnt know very much about computers and i fix his issues regularly so i am not too worried about him finding out.If this is too much for you to comprehend, then please move to another thread.

Thanks again

Not to be a nitpick but if you didn't the want the morality of your actions judged, why include the gory details of why you wanted the advice??

Maybe this is a learning experience too as it could have merely been asked, "what's a good key logger?":2 cents:

 

[usmc071984]

throw your personal business out to us like this and your gunna get the morality judgement. its gunna happen. just the way of the world. anybody you ask is gunna tell you your six shades of crazy for considering it.