The vunerability of fear and unacceptance ...
Good words, as always Prof ol' buddy ...
My wife and I have a lot of laughs, sometimes at each other's expense when we orgasm.
E.g.,
If my wife laughs after intercourse, but while I'm still in her, she tends to "push out," with "great expediency" my penis (that, in itself, can be funny).
Also, if we climax simultaneously, we have the running joke that she "crushes my cock," with her intense orgasm, and I make jokes.
We have both given each other "celebrity aliases" for the facial expressions we make in bed -- open or jarred mouth, protruding lips, etc... (you get the idea).
And there's always also the "post-cum head" laughter I billow out when she gives it, as well as when she pulls away and laughs herself (only to continue and, eventually, get me hard a 2nd time).
But most of all, when she has an intense orgasm while I'm in her, her "quivers" afterwards (or even before at times) tends to "tickle" if I'm not near blasting, and it feels good, but can also make me laugh -- yeah, my penis can make me laugh from sensations sometimes (as it should others).
And there are yet others.
I mean, sometimes I really get infactuated with either her bust or hips and she makes fun of me.
To someone sensitive, that's probably not good, but me? Hell, I'm taking full advantage of my woman's "attributes" -- no matter how lustful and how much fun she will make of me for it!
There's a lot of fun you can have when a woman makes you feel comfortable all while letting you act "like a kid in a candy store" with her "candy."
If she laughs, great! No feelings harmed there -- not only let her have her fun -- but join in!
The key to maturity, especially in sex, is to take away that "vunerability" and "fear" of "unacceptance" and turn it into both "humility" and "fun."
Hell, I think that's why I have some favorites in the pornographic world, because of how women handle themselves.
Take
Lisa Sparxxx -- who does things with guys I won't even do -- who said "I feel like I just came on myself" when a guy deep throated her and she chucked up a full load of cum+phlem all over her chest.
Sometimes how a woman handles something I would be so vunerable in doing (let alone fear doing) can make you feel so comfortable with such, and vice-versa.
If I wasn't married and I had the honor of intimacy with a busty starlet, she could make fun of me all she wanted, as long as she was still intimate with myself.
If anything, it would make me feel more comfortable and real to her, and not like she was faking it anyway -- all while I'd assume it's really her own flattery coming out.
That someone would lust after her, which I am very much doing, even though I'm probably the looker (lack thereof) she wouldn't normally honor with such intimacy.