I normally would never need advice but I just wanted to get some outsiders opinions. I have had a solid 5 year relationship with my gf. Her and I are meant to be I know it and I know I want to spend the rest of my life with her. We have talked about it and she has given me everything I could ask for. She has always been there no matter what and I felt that nothing could separate us. While we did have arguments we were solid.
Recently over the past 6 months she has tried to tell me it seems like I dont care about her and I only show her loving behind closed doors. especially when we were with friends on the weekend. I never took it seriously. I never understood thr extent of her feelings but recently I have seen that one of my good friends seems to be hitting on her. She tells me what he does while they are on the college campus.
I have noticed that he might have a crush on her for over a year now but never thought it was anything cus I trust her. Well recently GE was doing it more. Instead of saying something to save awkwardness I acted different towards him so he knew that I knew. It seemed to work but about a week ago she breaks it off with me and says she doesn't feel the same and its not there.
I would never expect this from her because we were so solid and secure. Come to find out she left her house and was at his house and said she had feelings for him. Long story short she didn't do anything besides kiss him there and I told her to come home before it was too late and she did.
Weve talked a lot and I understand that she told him the hard times we were going through and he took advantage of that and tried to connect with her. She no longer talks to him at all anf has said she wants to be with me but I'm having trust issues now. I trusted her with everything and for her to do that because of me is understandable but it hurts so much.
Now she acts a bit different and says she needs time but to me its so hard to be with her not knowing the future. My life plans revolved around her but now I'm worried. She said she wants to be with me in the end buy I'm having a difficult time. I am giving her what she wants now but she seems to not be giving it back. I try and kiss on her and stuff and she says she doesnt want to do all that right now because of what she's been through. Our sexual life had so much spark and passion and now its gone. And to me its not about how it feels about making that connection with her. Only we share that and we werw both each others firsts. I just want somr advice on all this?
Recently over the past 6 months she has tried to tell me it seems like I dont care about her and I only show her loving behind closed doors. especially when we were with friends on the weekend. I never took it seriously. I never understood thr extent of her feelings but recently I have seen that one of my good friends seems to be hitting on her. She tells me what he does while they are on the college campus.
I have noticed that he might have a crush on her for over a year now but never thought it was anything cus I trust her. Well recently GE was doing it more. Instead of saying something to save awkwardness I acted different towards him so he knew that I knew. It seemed to work but about a week ago she breaks it off with me and says she doesn't feel the same and its not there.
I would never expect this from her because we were so solid and secure. Come to find out she left her house and was at his house and said she had feelings for him. Long story short she didn't do anything besides kiss him there and I told her to come home before it was too late and she did.
Weve talked a lot and I understand that she told him the hard times we were going through and he took advantage of that and tried to connect with her. She no longer talks to him at all anf has said she wants to be with me but I'm having trust issues now. I trusted her with everything and for her to do that because of me is understandable but it hurts so much.
Now she acts a bit different and says she needs time but to me its so hard to be with her not knowing the future. My life plans revolved around her but now I'm worried. She said she wants to be with me in the end buy I'm having a difficult time. I am giving her what she wants now but she seems to not be giving it back. I try and kiss on her and stuff and she says she doesnt want to do all that right now because of what she's been through. Our sexual life had so much spark and passion and now its gone. And to me its not about how it feels about making that connection with her. Only we share that and we werw both each others firsts. I just want somr advice on all this?