Rejected in front of my new job

[Psychology]

Okay, so I started orientation for my new job today (despite already working it for 3 weeks. Weird). So in my class is this thick Asian girl. Most people would consider her fat or overweight, but I thought she was perfect. Full arms, legs, butt, boobs, you name it, and a pretty face too (she also had cleavage the entire day which I covertly looked at every 15 seconds). She was also the nice-girl type that is bubbly. You could tell just by the way she answered questions from the class head and what not.

Anyway, despite being nervous as fuck, i asked her out after class. I know realize that I may have layed it on a little thick, as well as appeared a bit desperate. Anyway, she declined while the rest of the class listened in (small classroom). So at this point due to my massive failure, do I return tomorrow of just plain quit (orientation is all week)?

 

[Jagger69]

Dude....you obviously embarrassed the hell out of her by asking her out in front of the entire fucking class!!! However, in spite of your bone-headed stunt, you can still salvage this by returning to class and hoping that she will find a way to approach you....if indeed she has any interest in dating you. If not, let it go. Let's face it....even though I'm sure you are a dead-ringer for Brad Pitt, there's a chance she really doesn't want to go out with you.

 

[PlasmaTwa2]

You Might have had that one coming. Asking her out in front of the class? She was probably more embarassed then you. It probably would ahve been better to take a couple of days to get to know her (You know, find out if she has a boyfriend), and then ask her after school. That way, neither of you would be embarassed.

And yeah, continue going. Things like this happen. Just learn to laugh about it with your class and you'll be fine.

 

[Psychology]

Dude....you obviously embarrassed the hell out of her by asking her out in front of the entire fucking class!!! However, in spite of your bone-headed stunt, you can still salvage this by returning to class and hoping that she will find a way to approach you....if indeed she has any interest in dating you. If not, let it go. Let's face it....even though I'm sure you are a dead-ringer for Brad Pitt, there's a chance she really doesn't want to go out with you.

Embarrassed her? I didn't think of that. Yeah, what was I thinking. I could have maybe had at least a slightly better chance had I pulled her aside?

 

[DOA82]

Why didnt you wait to get her alone outside of the class? You know, chase her into the girls toilets and while she listens from the relative safety of her cubicle, you couldve pressed against the door and passed your phone number through the cracks?

So she turned you down, tough shit it happens, move on. Walk back in like nothing happened, cause lets face it nothing did happen. Quitting a job because a girl turned you down? Stupid! Did you quit school and beg your parents to move cause that girl in high school said no to? Course you bloody didnt.

 

[Nooge]

Go back to orientation - it takes balls and stupidity to do what you did - and that makes it extremely cool. You will probably get the nickname "Cruiser" now - how cool is that.

Go back to class and do the EXACT same thing with the hottest girl in there. Send a message bro!

 

[Psychology]

You Might have had that one coming. Asking her out in front of the class? She was probably more embarassed then you. It probably would ahve been better to take a couple of days to get to know her (You know, find out if she has a boyfriend), and then ask her after school. That way, neither of you would be embarassed.

And yeah, continue going. Things like this happen. Just learn to laugh about it with your class and you'll be fine.

Well, the thing is I've always been too nervous to ask out girls and the few times I do, well, you just read what happens.

 

[devlinvelez]

......Never admit defeat......You just went about in the wrong way.....Build up your confidence and move on ......There are more fish in the sea as they say.

 

[senob44]

Don't lose a job over this. It's no big deal. Don't even worry what anyone thinks of you, it really doesn't matter much.

 

[Torre82]

Embarrassed her? I didn't think of that. Yeah, what was I thinking. I could have maybe had at least a slightly better chance had I pulled her aside?

Yes. After class. But after as-in while people are walking out, not while the room is empty. We want a safe environment.. but not so crowded.

Not that you can use this *now* because the first attempt was unsuccessful.. but you could've led into the convo with some bullshit question.

"Interesting orientation. Was I the only one bored to tears? hahahaha! So hey, can I take you out to coffee or something?"

I'm not usually as forward as my friends with asking such things. They lean in with a compliment and put their hand on hers. There's a subtle physical connection made, there.. but I dont like being so overbearing as to give unwanted contact.

 

[dave_rhino]

Don't give up, pretend you don't care about getting shot down. Confidence will prevail.

 

[Violator79]

Well, the thing is I've always been too nervous to ask out girls and the few times I do, well, you just read what happens.

You're name's Psychology and you asked her out in front of the class? I rest my case....:wtf:

 

[D-rock]

That's rough, but look on the bright side. There are a lot worse things in life. That might also be something the people in the class will have a good natured laugh about years from now.

 

[BlueBalls]

Take it like a man. Hold you head up high and quit

 

[shayd]

Okay, so I started orientation for my new job today (despite already working it for 3 weeks. Weird). So in my class is this thick Asian girl. Most people would consider her fat or overweight, but I thought she was perfect. Full arms, legs, butt, boobs, you name it, and a pretty face too (she also had cleavage the entire day which I covertly looked at every 15 seconds). She was also the nice-girl type that is bubbly. You could tell just by the way she answered questions from the class head and what not.

Anyway, despite being nervous as fuck, i asked her out after class. I know realize that I may have layed it on a little thick, as well as appeared a bit desperate. Anyway, she declined while the rest of the class listened in (small classroom). So at this point due to my massive failure, do I return tomorrow of just plain quit (orientation is all week)?

My advise here is what my parents always told me. You take care of what you can control, and don't worry about the rest. Yeah, I know it's probably awkward right now in this situation, however, you can't really do anything about it. You can however, control how you react to the situation, and I think if you keep doing your job with your head up, you'll be in the clear.

 

[titsrock]

Depends on whether or not you see yourself working at this place longterm. Chances are your antics are going to become watercooler talk and you're boss will become aware. You best just forget about it and concentrate on your work quality.

What were you thinking? Why not actually *talk* to this girl beforehand? Maybe you could've made a friend and found out you don't really like her. Or, you could've earned her trust so that she'd actually consider dating you. You really gave her no chance to accept. She was thinking about her own career, which you also put in a not-too-fair light.

 

[stainedblueyes]

Take it like a man. Hold you head up high and quit

I'm with blue balls, chin held high and ful of confidence - walk straight back in like it never happened, and then gradually build rapport with her, not the "subtle-as-a-hammer" approach

 

[anomaly]

Your first mistake was asking her out. Did you get to know her? Did you have some pleasant conversation? Was there an exchange of personal info? If none of these thing happened you were premature in asking her out. If you showed a great personality and some interesting, enjoyable conversation a date would be a reasonable conclusion of your meeting. She would have been waiting for you to ask her out and would have dropped a few hints. Finally, never ask woman out in front of other people, you know that.:yinyang:

 

[devlinvelez]

.....Or there is always the fallback....


....."HEY, NICE JUGGS....WANNA GO OUT???"

 

[BlueBalls]

I'm with blue balls, chin held high and ful of confidence - walk straight back in like it never happened, and then gradually build rapport with her, not the "subtle-as-a-hammer" approach

I dont think you got the jist of what I was saying but never mind.