Well, I thought about not saying anything because it wasn't my place, but my conscience got the better of me. And since I consider this person to be a friend - as I do all of you that I talk to - I'm going to say something anyway...
GOBLIN and LordRaven:
I don't know what kind of mind-set the two of you were in when you made those comments about LadyLove, but I find them to be publicly humiliating and full of disrespect. I want to assume that you were joking and just being smart-asses in general, but the way that your posts are worded can come across as a person attack.
I like both of you guys just as much as any other person I've talked with on this board. We've had differences; maybe said some catty things to one another, even. But I don't think any one of us has ever outwardly attacked, or made such a blanket assumption, in such a fashion as what you did to LadyLove.
I would hope that you guys were joking; even so, doubting someone's identity or sexuality is not cool. It smacks of a hate-crime. Hey, for all YOU know I could actually be a "woman" pretending to be a man... or even a homosexual.
Quite frankly, it's actually none of your business.
I say that the two of you owe LadyLove a PUBLIC apology. You humiliated her in front of everyone. People will read your posts every time they this thread. How does that make you feel? Would you like to have your character... or even your sexuality preferences attacked in such a shameless, disrespectful way???
Did you guys realize that she is actually considering leaving the Board because of your snart-ass comments? Or did y'all just think it was "cool" to be disrespectful?
Where I come from, we treat women with respect. You two gentleman are old enough to have been taught the same things as I was. I would expect more from a member of the U.S. Armed Services, Goblin.
Shame on the both of you. What you did - what you said - wasn't at all cool or funny. It was a personal, vengeful, and ultimately humiliating act against someone.
What's even more incredible about this whole situation is that she never actually addressed EITHER ONE OF YOU. And yet, you guys took it upon yourselves to say something utterly derogatory.
Truth be told, this is something straight out of high school. Immature teenagers act better than what you did previously.
I'm very disappointed. I had such respect for the two of you, too.
LadyLove... as far as I concerned... you're welcome here at any time. I hope that these two... gentlemen (ahem)... have not ruined your experiences here. I hope you reconsider and know that this man is not at all sexist and would never think of disrespecting you in such a way.
Thank you for your time everyone. You can slam me all you won't. I don't really friggin' care to tell you the truth.
And, just for the record, I am a man. Heterosexual. 64 years of age, Brown hair, blue eyes. I look like Drew Carey.
Any other questions?