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wasn't that rainbow thing a media scare (OMG your kids are having sex!!1!) a few years ago, and it turned out to be just that, a media scare?
Oral sex is the new goodnight kiss.
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wasn't that rainbow thing a media scare (OMG your kids are having sex!!1!) a few years ago, and it turned out to be just that, a media scare?
Very true.
Most homes nowadays have two parents who work, and alot of kids are left essentially raising themselves. There are countless children without fathers in the picture (my neice included, and her father is my own brother!) They just don't have anyone to show them the right way. And the boys are smart, they know how to talk to a young, naive girl, how to get her to do what he wants. They know girls just want love, so they use that to manipulate them into getting laid. Fucking sucks.
My neice has dated guys and claimed she "loved" them after only a few days of dating. I'll ask why she loves him. Her response? "Oh, well he's super cute".
But I'm glad I'm super close with her. I've talked to her about sex. I'm only nine years older than her, and she thankfully still thinks I'm really cool, and looks up to me...she knows not to give it away to any guy who says he loves her, I just hope that she can keep that frame of mind when Johnny takes her out for Mcdonalds and tells her that she's the only one for him and they should celebrate with a blowjob in the backseat of his parents car.
Oral sex IS a big deal. It still transmits STD's. It leads girls into further things, like actual intercourse. Which of course leads to STDs, pregnancy and eventual heartbreak when the guy ditches her. When you have a daughter, you'll understand why shit like this needs to be talked about. When I was this age, no one was doing shit like this. I was a virgin until I was nearly 18 and its not because I didn't have the chance, I honestly wanted to wait. I didn't give head until I met my current husband. I just saw sex as something that needed to be earned. Not given away for BK.
I think this is merely the latest evolution from the high school gang sex club known as the "Spurs" from, what, 10 years ago? Does anyone remember that scandal? I think it was last year a sex scandal occurred in Massachusetts where teenage girl classmates all orchestrated mass pregnancies because they thought it would be cool to all have kids together. I guess to emulate Britney and whichever other teen idol had kids..
It also could be leftover Monica Lewinsky fallout...which might be where the whole "oral sex isn't really sex" attitude started.
The parents bear a large chunk of blame for this. I don't believe teenage girls are "taught" to please a man. I think it's more about teenage girl bullying--can one girl dominate the other girls by tricking her "rivals" into doing sexual things. I see more of that kind of angle into things.
And, yes, it will only get worse. The example from the website about a girl typing "girl" and "horse" into google and getting some sort of porn reference pretty much foreshadows that...
It also could be leftover Monica Lewinsky fallout...which might be where the whole "oral sex isn't really sex" attitude started.
The parents bear a large chunk of blame for this. I don't believe teenage girls are "taught" to please a man. I think it's more about teenage girl bullying--can one girl dominate the other girls by tricking her "rivals" into doing sexual things. I see more of that kind of angle into things.
And, yes, it will only get worse. The example from the website about a girl typing "girl" and "horse" into google and getting some sort of porn reference pretty much foreshadows that...
What I don't understand about the video link is that the girls all talk about guys in their late 20s who are the antagonizers in this....umm, I don't know about the rest of the world, but in the U.S., a guy in his late 20s having sex with a 15, 16 or 17 yr old, or younger, is committing statutory rape. :dunno:
I think the heartbreak stage has to change. It seems girls are conditioned (through the media and peers?) to expect guys to act like dogs, and then when they do, they're shocked that it actually happens to them?
I think there is an overwhelming "princess fantasy" among teen girls--be beautiful, attract guy, have sex, marry--and maybe the role of sex somehow has to be both privileged but yet removed from the "fantasy":dunno:
Or, sex has to be discussed and "normalized" even more, somehow, so it doesn't ruin people and families and communities....I don't have longterm answers or hope....
well if we look at the trash music that the kiddos are brought up listening to now adays i think we might see were we have gone astray. went to see my gril friend at work at the mall the shoe store is playing a song with the lyrics "you spin me right round baby right round when you go down down down down." not only are the butchering a old song but they replaced the inuendo (spelling) with just saying "hey i got head and it was sick!" so fucked up. there are a thousand rap/hiphop lyrics i can list off aobut this subject but in rap/hiphops defence raido rock has starded to jump on this bandwagon. they got the song about being a crazy bitch and fucking so good on top of it or what ever its not even well written song stupid fuck construction workers jsut call up and request ti cuz its about banggin some whore. basicly kids are fucked. i wish i got to go to blowjob parties in high school. a tv show about how prego teens isnt helping either but thats another topic for another day
Does the porn biz bear any responsibility for these sex scandal trends? Porn sites don't do much to make sure their content is available to adults only. Some teen kid alone after school, surfs porn and probably thinks the world of adult relationships is accurately depicted online....maybe some teen girl spends her time on Dancingbear, maybe takes mommy's credit card and opens an account...and next thing you know we have rainbow parties?
Skyraider22
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Well I see a hell of a lot has changed in ten years Damn
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The guy who sings that song was on Howard Stern and has said that what he means by that lyric is that when a stripper goes down on the pole, it drives him crazy, or something like that. I don't remember the exact quote, but I get where your coming from. Although I think this trend has more to do than just music.
oh i agree it has more to do but i think thats a big part. they drive around listening to a "teen bop" radio station with mom and the car singing lady ga ga talking about "riding a disco pole" then figure it all out and say well lady gaga rides the disco pole so should i. so wierd was talking about this with my boss today who has twin daughters talking aobut how hes scarded shitless of all the shit they are/or could be into. all i could do is aggree
ChefChiTown
The secret ingredient? MY BALLS
I can't speak for every other guy, but I know that when I was 12, 13, 14 years old, I didn't know SHIT about girls. Fuck, I still don't know shit about girls. The only thing I knew was what everybody else was telling me. All I heard was that every other guy (besides me) was having sex with girls, so I honestly believed that I was the only guy who wasn't getting laid. When, in all reality, 99% of the guys who claimed that they were having sex were nothing but huge liars. So, I was believing a huge lie. Not to mention, all of the girls my age who were hearing the same bullshit were also believing a huge lie, which made them think that they HAD to have sex with guys because they thought that everybody else was actually doing it.
God, I hate society. I also hate spaghetti. Just uh...just thought I'd throw that out there.
My neice has dated guys and claimed she "loved" them after only a few days of dating. I'll ask why she loves him. Her response? "Oh, well he's super cute".
My cousin is going into high school next year and she's already mentioned that she loves her boyfriend. Obviously, she doesn't know what love is, but she is so brainwashed by what everybody else her age is supposedly doing, so she has convinced herself that she's a big, grown adult who is experiencing love. When, in all reality, she is just happy that she can say that she has a boyfriend.
But I'm glad I'm super close with her. I've talked to her about sex. I'm only nine years older than her, and she thankfully still thinks I'm really cool, and looks up to me...she knows not to give it away to any guy who says he loves her, I just hope that she can keep that frame of mind when Johnny takes her out for Mcdonalds and tells her that she's the only one for him and they should celebrate with a blowjob in the backseat of his parents car.
Well, to be fair...
In that situation, Johnny getting a blowjob would be well deserved. I mean, he did take her to McDonald's!!!
It's sad, but I'm willing to bet that girls have swallowed cock because of shit like that. Hmm...maybe I need to change my approach. Instead of trying to be a respectful, romantic man, maybe I should start taking bitches to Arby's and talking them into milking my balls afterwards in the parking lot. Also, maybe I should actually start calling women bitches, as I just did. I heard that works.
Is it common for "the kids" to go out to McDonald's for a date today? When I was in high school, McDonald's was avoided at all costs unless you were with your buddies and having lunch off-campus.
Let me see if I have it straight...
A)--cooking a meal for a girl, on a date, means that you're a nice guy or probably gay...
B)--taking a girl out to an expensive restaurant means you're obviously trying to get in her pants
C)--taking her to McDonald's becomes the "safe" dating approach?
Huh?
I wonder if you're not closer to reality in the last part of your post, Chef...
Let me see if I have it straight...
A)--cooking a meal for a girl, on a date, means that you're a nice guy or probably gay...
B)--taking a girl out to an expensive restaurant means you're obviously trying to get in her pants
C)--taking her to McDonald's becomes the "safe" dating approach?
Huh?
I wonder if you're not closer to reality in the last part of your post, Chef...
No shit! I would have been much happier if I was getting my dick sucked back then.
wowzers craz shit
Well....the "princess fantasy" among young girls has been the same for decades. I wanted to grow up, meet my prince charming and get married, have kids and be happy. My older sister in laws felt the same way, so did my mother...girls have been fantasizing about being happy with one guy and finding a guy who'll love her and treat her like gold for longer than we will likely ever know.
And from what I understand, men had somewhat of a similar expectation for their lives back in the day...they'd grow up, find a good job, find a beautiful wife and dote after her and raise a family with her. Obviously with sex in mind...but seems now the fantasy of young boys has changed into getting laid as much as possible, and ...ehh thats it lol. I don't know one boy in his teens who's goals in life are to be successful in love. So somewhere along the lines, boys motives have changed. The guys I dated in highschool didn't even dare ask for a handjob let alone oral or sex. That was ten years ago and from what I've heard from my neice who is nine years younger than me now, boys expect sex and if they don't get it in a reasonable amount of time, they'll break up with you or cheat on you. Thats obviously not EVERY guy, I'm sure there ARE nice guys out there who aren't even interested in girls lol, but...the majority,...thats the norm. But girls are still wanting that prince charming, they still have the fantasy...so the girls of today are just having to be willing to do these extra things to attempt to attain the happiness they think oral/intercourse will bring them. Of course...guys get bored and never want to commit so they move on to the next girl who's willing to put out...and the girls end up broken hearted.
I'm not sure what to blame really. I'd somewhat blame exposure to pornography because again, when I was a teen, unless you had a wicked fast computer and parents who weren't around, porn wasn't too accessible. Today, kids are left alone on computers, porn is like...one click away. I've had 13 yr old boys in my chatrooms trying to use daddys credit card...so fucked up. I think boys see the porn and that + peer pressure, puts the pressure on guys to "score" so that they'll be accepted or at least feel like a "man". Its so stupid.
ChefChiTown
The secret ingredient? MY BALLS
A) Correct!!!
B) Correct!!!
C) Correct!!!
Nice guys finish last. I hear girls bitch about how they want a gentle, romantic and caring man to take care of them and treat them with love and respect, but those are the same exact girls who laugh at me for kissing a date on the hand and not trying to shove my hand down her pants.
"HAHAHA, you FAG!!! Who kisses a girl's hand?!?!?! You do, you FAAAAAG!!!"
I"m actually one of those girls who genuinely LOVES a nice guy. Seriously. If a date walked me to my door, and kissed my hand to say goodnite, I'd be calling him up for date #2 in a jiffy.
I hate hate hate assholes. Lifes too short to deal with being treated like dirt.