Need Some Girl Advice...She Goes Quiet/Different Around Me, but Not Other Guys

[firefighter1]

Hey,

I go to work with an extremely attractive girl who started about two months ago at my location. Were the same age. She is pretty much my dream girl. Sounds corny, yes, but she just looks and has the personality I absolutely love! Anyway, I was just wondering if there are signals or signs she's interested or is it just a friend thing?

First, she is very flirtatious, with everyone and loves to be outgoing and talk with everyone. She is very touchy/feely!

We started off great! She would flirt, hug me, be all talk very enthused and so on. We even went out to a club with a few other co-worker and had a blast! After that, which as been these past few weeks, seems a lot quieter around me lately. Also, has this hot and cold thing going on too. We still talk and have a good time, but it just seems toned down. No more hugs, not much flirting, and doesn't seem all that enthused. It's like when she's around me she goes all quiet. What gives? I haven't done anything wrong and I've been acting my entire self. When we talk , we both make eye contact and she doesn't look away from my eyes. When we pass in the halls I give her a big nice smile and she does the same, making full eye contact. I've noticed her checking me out too. I've noticed her hugging other guys at work too around me. One instance she gave a guy a hug right in front of me, looked at me and didn't give me anything, just walked away. Does she perhaps like me any bit, but is perhaps too afraid to say it? She also avoids e when she see's me coming some days. Or is she not interested? I'm just confused how a girl can go from being flirty, hugging to being cold, and all quiet in my presence. Is she p*ssed at me for something?

This past week, about 20 co-workers went to a restaurant /bar. When I got there she was there, sitting at one end of the table. I sat down at the way other end. I noticed right after, she moved right next to me. We had a great time and she didn't change seats for most of the whole night. It was weird, cause she was really outgoing and we hugged, even left together, and followed each other to the highway.

I'm trying to figure this girl out. Should I confront her about her "distance" towards me? Or is it just showing her my weakness? Is she an attention wh*&@?

Why would a very flirtatious girl who flirts with everyone and is outgoing with everyone, be so quiet around me?

Thanks!

P.S.
Today, she ignored me. Really kind of pissed me off. I'm the better person, so I said hi to her.

 

[Hot Mega]

Hey,

I go to work with an extremely attractive girl who started about two months ago at my location. Were the same age. She is pretty much my dream girl. Sounds corny, yes, but she just looks and has the personality I absolutely love! Anyway, I was just wondering if there are signals or signs she's interested or is it just a friend thing?

First, she is very flirtatious, with everyone and loves to be outgoing and talk with everyone. She is very touchy/feely!

We started off great! She would flirt, hug me, be all talk very enthused and so on. We even went out to a club with a few other co-worker and had a blast! After that, which as been these past few weeks, seems a lot quieter around me lately. Also, has this hot and cold thing going on too. We still talk and have a good time, but it just seems toned down. No more hugs, not much flirting, and doesn't seem all that enthused. It's like when she's around me she goes all quiet. What gives? I haven't done anything wrong and I've been acting my entire self. When we talk , we both make eye contact and she doesn't look away from my eyes. When we pass in the halls I give her a big nice smile and she does the same, making full eye contact. I've noticed her checking me out too. I've noticed her hugging other guys at work too around me. One instance she gave a guy a hug right in front of me, looked at me and didn't give me anything, just walked away. Does she perhaps like me any bit, but is perhaps too afraid to say it? She also avoids e when she see's me coming some days. Or is she not interested? I'm just confused how a girl can go from being flirty, hugging to being cold, and all quiet in my presence. Is she p*ssed at me for something?

This past week, about 20 co-workers went to a restaurant /bar. When I got there she was there, sitting at one end of the table. I sat down at the way other end. I noticed right after, she moved right next to me. We had a great time and she didn't change seats for most of the whole night. It was weird, cause she was really outgoing and we hugged, even left together, and followed each other to the highway.

I'm trying to figure this girl out. Should I confront her about her "distance" towards me? Or is it just showing her my weakness? Is she an attention wh*&@?

Why would a very flirtatious girl who flirts with everyone and is outgoing with everyone, be so quiet around me?

Thanks!

P.S.
Today, she ignored me. Really kind of pissed me off. I'm the better person, so I said hi to her.

Maybe she detects you are interested in something she's not and doesn't want to send the wrong signal to you.

But if you're this wrapped up in this chick it's likely you've unitentionally and unknowingly weirded her out already in some kind of way.

 

[Rey C.]

I'm not trying to be funny. But she's a female. You Might end up marrying her in six months. But you're never going to figure her out. Just accept that. Keep being yourself and don't sweat it. At some point, ask her out. If she says yes, continue being yourself and try to have a good time. If she says no, move on... or chase her like a puppy (which is maybe what she wants).

Some girls want you to chase them because they want you to catch them. Other girls want you to chase them because they like to play games. I don't chase. Once I learned that the big assembly line in the sky churns out hundreds of thousands of new girls every day, I started going with the flow.

Follow Jimi Hendrix's advice: "Guess if my baby don't love me no more, I know her sister will." You don't have to be a playa, but for goodness sake, don't be a punk. ASK HER OUT! Yeah? :thumbsup:

 

[Bone]

i think you are overly concerned and worried. just be your normal self and let her be her normal self, which may very well be someone who is inconsistent and hard to read. if something happens, great but i wouldn't push it too hard. i would ask her out on a date sometime so you too can be alone and get to know her better. if she yes, fine. if she says no, well, that's your answer.:2 cents:

 

[shaggydude]

ask her out.......if she says yes...great!!!.........if she says no, accept it.

sometimes not getting what you want is a blessing in disguise.

believe me, i've had the exact same situation and nothing eventuated.

several years later i look back on it and i'm so happy that nothing happened because she isn't the wonderful dreamgirl i thought she was!!!!

what ever you do, don't be confrontational........don't ask her why she's "hot and cold" around you just tell her how you feel about her and see what happens. talk to her in a confident, easygoing manner.

good luck.

 

[D-rock]

Could it be that you're just reading too much into the situation? Maybe it all means nothing.

...then again maybe you just freak her out or maybe she can tell you're more interested then she is so she trying to set the situation up for your own benefit to subtlety get the signal across so you don't take a hard fall.

Then again maybe Rey C. is right and women are just too damn hard to figure out. :dunno:

 

[Hot Mega]

sometimes not getting what you want is a blessing in disguise.

Agreed!! Everything that glitters isn't always gold...and sometimes perceived misfortunes are good fortunes in disguise and just need to play out to their ultimate ends.

 

[Eastcoast1]

serial hugger=needy
Based on her behavior and the fact that your even asking I'd suggest you don't try to date her. The combo of the "nice guy" and the "needy hottie" leads to the nice guy being turned into a jealous ass down the road.

This is just a generalized answer based on what I read into your post.

 

[kewlj]

Just quietly try and get behind her and slip it up the wrong 'un

 

[Boothbabe]

I'm not trying to be funny. But she's a female. You might end up marrying her in six months. But you're never going to figure her out. Just accept that.

Being a woman myself I have so say he's right. We can be very weird @ times :1orglaugh

I would just ask her out and see what happens. Maybe she's playing games and maybe she isn't.

 

[firefighter1]

Thakns for the replies!!! Keep the them coming. I just find it weird how she can go from being all hot than cold. I've honest to god done nothing to offend or updet her. Perhaps, I should jst move on or ask her? Better then 'what if', right?

 

[Boothbabe]

Perhaps, I should jst move on or ask her? Better then 'what if', right?

My grandfather told me on his deathbed that the worst thing a person can have in his/her life is regrets and that if you find yourself wondering "what if" you haven't lived you life to the fullest. So yes, go for it. The worst thing that could happen is that she says no but you'll never have to wonder "what if".

On a side note, it's the first time my user title is actually correct. I support thongs on myself and my girlfriend

 

[Baill Inneraora]

I think You Might have creeped her out. Give it a shot anyway.

 

[Hot Mega]

My grandfather told me on his deathbed that the worst thing a person can have in his/her life is regrets and that if you find yourself wondering "what if" you haven't lived you life to the fullest. So yes, go for it. The worst thing that could happen is that she says no but you'll never have to wonder "what if".

On a side note, it's the first time my user title is actually correct. I support thongs on myself and my girlfriend

The thong and those types of bikini/underwear are in my top ten list of human innovations. Part of the reason I date strippers on occasion....you can always guarantee they are comfortable wearing thongs and the majority of their underwear will be thongs. (Color me "Shallow" 'Mega on that one.:o)

I support seeing "boothbabe" and her "babe" in their thongs.

 

[Boothbabe]

I support seeing "boothbabe" and her "babe" in their thongs.

I bet you do :1orglaugh

 

[thebear247]

hell i would settle with boothbabe playing with her tits like in her avatar

 

[Ainttalkinlove]

JUst ignore her shes a stupid girl find one that isnt stupid and shit will be allright. You dont want to mess with coworkers anyway, its nothing but trouble.

 

[Mrs Jolly]

JUst ignore her shes a stupid girl find one that isnt stupid and shit will be allright. You dont want to mess with coworkers anyway, its nothing but trouble.

If the job is important to you then the value of this advice cannot be understated.

 

[firefighter1]

My grandfather told me on his deathbed that the worst thing a person can have in his/her life is regrets and that if you find yourself wondering "what if" you haven't lived you life to the fullest. So yes, go for it. The worst thing that could happen is that she says no but you'll never have to wonder "what if".

On a side note, it's the first time my user title is actually correct. I support thongs on myself and my girlfriend

Wow, thanks for the advice! Your Grandfather speaks the truth! And yes.....I'm totally aware about mixing pleasure with work, ha, ha!! I was talking with a female friend I trust and she was saying that perhaps I pissed this girl off because I haven't made a move. SHe may like me, but gets the impression I don't like her back, so she gives me this defense mechinism type thing by being quiet or cold. I mean at first, I guess ou could say she was giving me all the signs...flirting, hugging, very enthused to see me, eye contact, heck we even shared lunches (she's greek and I'm Italian so we loved each others food, ha,ha)

 

[Ainttalkinlove]

Wow, thanks for the advice! Your Grandfather speaks the truth! And yes.....I'm totally aware about mixing pleasure with work, ha, ha!! I was talking with a female friend I trust and she was saying that perhaps I pissed this girl off because I haven't made a move. SHe may like me, but gets the impression I don't like her back, so she gives me this defense mechinism type thing by being quiet or cold. I mean at first, I guess ou could say she was giving me all the signs...flirting, hugging, very enthused to see me, eye contact, heck we even shared lunches (she's greek and I'm Italian so we loved each others food, ha,ha)

If she has any drama before you ever even go on a single date with her, you dont want to end up in that hell. Dude, straight up, his grandfather wasnt talking about women. I know this because every time Ive gone after a chick because I thought 'what if...' It was always trouble. If its a sexual thing - pussy is all the same. If you really dig this chick, and can really handle yourself, meaning you dont kiss her ass and bend over backwards for her and give up your paycheck to her, then ask her out. There is an old saying, I dont quite remember how it goes but, its something about cats being killed.