moral dillema....

[Shindekudasai]

Well, you probably should have used a different title, because (caution, here comes the wisenheimer) a moral dilemma describes the necessity to decide between two solutions, which both have a moral value, and thus settle on one particular moral level. Say for example your job is to watch a dam next to a hospital, because the wheather is really bad and it could burst. But you can see from your position, that the dam near your house, where your wife and your kid are, could fail. You have no opportunity to contact anyone. Do you abandon your post and endanger the hospital and its patients to run to your house? Or do you hope the dam near your house holds?
That is a moral dilemma (according to Kohlberg for example).

Now you have two positions, depending on your intentions:
Deciding between option a (be faithful to your girlfriend) or b (follow your own sexual drive and leave your girlfriend because of it) is a decision between a normal level of moral (a) and a level of moral that an educational scientist would attribute on a social level to a one to five year old (b), which leaves two possibilities: 1. you're unfit to live a life of reason or high moral value or 2. you have no morals but are still living in a learning state to acquire moral standards.
Deciding between option a (be faithful to your girlfriend) or b (follow your own sexual drive and betray your girlfriend but don't leave her) is a decision between a normal level of moral (a) and a decision described as amoral or anomic behaviour (b) which again leaves two possibilities: 1. you're unfit to live a life of reason or high moral value or 2. you have no morals.

As you see option b as a possible choice in a moral dilemma and probably are an adult above the age of 18, I'd say possibility 2 is the most likely one. Question is whether it will be the 2 with responsibility or without.

Ok, there's your answer science-style.

 

[Ainttalkinlove]

If shes your Friend and you want to stay that way leave it alone. I lost a really good Hot friend When sex got involved now we hate each other and I want to punch her in the mouth.

 

[calpoon]

I think you should bang dudes.

 

[Rusty Trombone]

If your girl is in a different area code, it's not considered cheating. Tap that ass. And if your girl asks if you cheated, lie. If she suspects your lying and calls you out, still lie. Even if she says she has it on audio and video, lie. Them's the rules, it's man-law.

 

[Hypergalaxy]

I dont think you should lie or cheat on your current gf.. If you are interested in just sleeping around go do that but if you actually want your relationship to work it cant have any lies in it. I would suggest you trying to hook up with your gf and this girl at the same time because that way there arent any lies and everyone can have fun(depending on sexual orientation)

 

[ChefChiTown]

so ive been with the same girl since november last year. she has been on a vacation to another country for the last 2 weeks and she gets home again tomorrow. and ive been completely faithful the whole time. which for me is unusual..... kinda proud of myself.

now for the twist.

i got a descent friend, wouldnt say we are very close but im way cool with her and we hang out occasionally..... yes im attracted to her physically but we have been strictly friends.

anyways she was engaged untill reciently and shes takin the separation well because its been comin for a long time now. so today she brings up that she knows my lady friend is outta town till tomorrow still. she said she wants to have her first freedom from her last relationship fuck just for the fun of it to say she did and she asks if id like to be the one to do it with her.

she was very specific the whole time that she wasnt tryin to steal me from my lady or have magic happen between us. its just as friends. but she thinks im cute too and shes comfortable with me so lucky me i get the chance.

do i take it or leave it?

I thought the Marines taught you a little thing called "discipline"...???

Keep it in your pants, soldier.

 

[Philbert]

I thought the Marines taught you a little thing called "discipline"...???

Keep it in your pants, soldier.

OR...
Since there is a lot more to add if you really wanted a decent bit of advice from the Forum horndogs...is she on a private vacation, where ya'll agreed to not question each other, or are you just dating but not really committed; are you ready to die, or do you still want to live a bit before going old dude?...I don't know what to tell you.
If you have given a commitment to her to be her guy, and her yore squeeze, then you're either a weak man or ready to move into a new level of love with her...and you aren't sure you want to. Either move on and have some more free time or go for the relationship that can end anywhere at any time, or last a lifetime.
Hit the guest snatch, if it is actually a private time for you, and see if you really want to continue with the main lady.
Or ...roam the open range a little bit more, life can be short, but very busy!
Or...stay home and settle in.


Free advice is always worth the price...

 

[D-rock]

If you want my advice, and I assume You Might considering you made a thread asking for that, and you want me to say something to give some support for some rationalization you want to give yourself for an excuse to cheat, then sorry I can't do that. There isn’t any justifiable reason for it.

If you want to be with somebody else then end the relationship you already have.

 

[Facetious]

I didn't read through the thread yet but I will later.


OK, guys in the huddle now

:Whispers: Have any of you guys ever been in a "tide me over" until something better comes along relationship ? You know -
√ A relationship that had peaked about a week after you met ?
√ A relationship where love will never grow because it lacks tenderness, sincerity and the right chemistry ?
√ A relationship that You Might have your own suspicions about ?
√ Hell, You Might already know the truth about your "tide me over" g/fs background, but it's good enough for now so you fail to look for better ?

Could ^ this be going on ?



USMC :hatsoff: -

All I know from personal experience is that when involved in a serious loving relationship, all sex aside, love continues to grow. Is your current relationship really growing or has it more or less plateaued ?

Seems like the latter to me.

Good luck whatever you decide, just try not to hurt feelings along the way. ;0

Aside -
Did you ever get your chopper up and running ? :o :rofl:

 

[x9estiv]

Fuck her and deal with the consecuences.

 

[pool_hustler]

If you want to be with somebody else then end the relationship you already have.

Absolutely. Words to live by :hatsoff:

 

[mario_pot]

it's bull shit to say you wouldn't be tempted in a situation like this i think nearly any dude would be. if you take the situation THEN and only then is there a problem with your relationship. if you love your girl it isn't an issue say thanks to your friend but let her know you have something more special:lovecoupl than to be her freedom fuck. if not than go have sex with your friend obviously you must have wanted it for a while. :nanner: , either way as previous posters said it's on you ,you'll live with the consequences and none of us will probably see what happens. good luck which ever way you decide though:thumbsup:

 

[Hot Mega]

it's bull shit to say you wouldn't be tempted in a situation like this i think nearly any dude would be. if you take the situation THEN and only then is there a problem with your relationship. if you love your girl it isn't an issue say thanks to your friend but let her know you have something more special:lovecoupl than to be her freedom fuck. if not than go have sex with your friend obviously you must have wanted it for a while. :nanner: , either way as previous posters said it's on you ,you'll live with the consequences and none of us will probably see what happens. good luck which ever way you decide though:thumbsup:

If you don't know who you are and/or what you're about many obvious decisions will appear to you as "dilemmas".

In this case, if you're a person who doesn't value commitment then you should immediately know that your decision in a case like this would be to do it, have no regrets and sleep well at night after having done it. If you're a person who values commitment then you should immediately know that your response is "no" irrespective of the circumstances, have no second thoughts and sleep well with that decision.

If you figure out first who you are and what you stand for then you will have crossed many of life's bridges before you even get to them.:2 cents:

 

[nothingandless]

its shity to cheat on your girlfriend. if you do, you don't deserve her. either that or its not that serious. has she cheated on you? if so, its not a strong relationship.

 

[STDiva]

Well, you probably should have used a different title, because (caution, here comes the wisenheimer) a moral dilemma describes the necessity to decide between two solutions, which both have a moral value, and thus settle on one particular moral level. Say for example your job is to watch a dam next to a hospital, because the wheather is really bad and it could burst. But you can see from your position, that the dam near your house, where your wife and your kid are, could fail. You have no opportunity to contact anyone. Do you abandon your post and endanger the hospital and its patients to run to your house? Or do you hope the dam near your house holds?
That is a moral dilemma (according to Kohlberg for example).

Now you have two positions, depending on your intentions:
Deciding between option a (be faithful to your girlfriend) or b (follow your own sexual drive and leave your girlfriend because of it) is a decision between a normal level of moral (a) and a level of moral that an educational scientist would attribute on a social level to a one to five year old (b), which leaves two possibilities: 1. you're unfit to live a life of reason or high moral value or 2. you have no morals but are still living in a learning state to acquire moral standards.
Deciding between option a (be faithful to your girlfriend) or b (follow your own sexual drive and betray your girlfriend but don't leave her) is a decision between a normal level of moral (a) and a decision described as amoral or anomic behaviour (b) which again leaves two possibilities: 1. you're unfit to live a life of reason or high moral value or 2. you have no morals.

As you see option b as a possible choice in a moral dilemma and probably are an adult above the age of 18, I'd say possibility 2 is the most likely one. Question is whether it will be the 2 with responsibility or without.

Ok, there's your answer science-style.

This...

If your girl is in a different area code, it's not considered cheating. Tap that ass. And if your girl asks if you cheated, lie. If she suspects your lying and calls you out, still lie. Even if she says she has it on audio and video, lie. Them's the rules, it's man-law.

this...

Fuck her and deal with the consequences.

and this are probably the best posts I've ever read.

 

[nearlyinvisible]

Usmc071984, Would you be ok with your girlfriend doing the same with another guy? ...................probably not, don't do it.

 

[JakeSnake]

Leave it!