You know what I mean. I'm talking to this girl at work and I can tell she's interested in me but I know she has three kids and everything inside me is telling me not to get involved in that baggage again. I know they're her biggest priority in her life and that's fine but I've dated a girl who had kids too and I told myself I would never do that again. I like her and everything but I'm so conflicted.
Is it wise to date a girl who has kids?
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I was seeing this girl who had a kid. Gawd, she was a freak.
I tore that up.
Sorry if that's not any help.
I tore that up.
Sorry if that's not any help.
Depends on her hotness factor. Gonna brag a little here. Dated a woman for a couple of months and then split up with her because she was getting kinda clingy. About a year later her 22 year old daughter saw me in a bar and said "you tried the mom, wanna sample the daughter?" After about 3 seconds of pondering the ramifications but since she was an adult I brought her to my place...Yeah , I am a scum bag.. 
Ace Boobtoucher
Founder and Captain of the Douchepatrol
Nope. No. Nah. No fucking way.
It's a fine line. My best advise if you should decide to pursue it is to leave the kids out of it as much as possible. Once you see if it's got a chance to work then you can work into the whole family dynamic. You have to decide if she is worth the work. Remember, if you get serious with her that you are dating the whole family. I have went both ways in situations like this. If you decide not to try You Might be passing up a really good thing. Again I say you have to decide if she is worth the possible complications.
Well said. She comes as part of a package. You have to decide whether you`re prepared to do that and deal with the implications - eg, You Might not always be able to go and see her an immediately shag her on the sofa!
Mr. Daystar
In a bell tower, watching you through cross hairs.
Forget the kids...ever hear the old saying, "don't shit where you eat"? Stay away from girls you work with, when it ends, you will have bigger problems, then her kids.
Rey C.
Racing is life... anything else is just waiting.
I agree. Once you get to a certain age in the dating world (like 19 these days?), kids, ex-husbands and baby-daddies are just factors that you deal with. It's the coworker dynamic that would concern me.
Well, since you've been in the situation before, just ask yourself the question - were the kids in any way a factor in it NOT working with the other girl, or did it simply not work out?
To be honest, either way, just go for it, if you like this girl. The only note of caution would be - and you probably already know this - if you do get to meet the kids, while getting on with them won't necessarily "make" the relationship, NOT getting on with them can absolutely "break" it as much as anything to do with how you and the girl get on. "This guy being in my kids' lives" essentially becomes the biggest factor in forming a relationship after the first few dates/screws, among the single mothers that I know.
Just get in there and fuck her stupid. If things turn sour wipe your dick off on the curtains and walk away with your head held high.
^ words to live by
by Jack Handey
by Jack Handey
Fucktards. Man up and take some fucking responsibility in life. Kids are not an accessory to be treated as a "complication". If you are in a place where you respect and love her AND the kids then go for it. If not, do not add any more hurt and complications to their lives. Grow some balls and think of them before thinking about getting your dick wet. Agree with Ace, NO if you can't handle it. If you can't handle it go get a flesh light, at least you won't be disappointing anyone else.
What if the feeling is mutual? Well, besides the wet dick part. In my aforementioned case, she wasn't looking for a dad for her kid. She already had one. I was 20, she was 19 and we both just wanted to fuck, and often, her moreso than even me, hence the freak part. After we stopped seeing each other I'm pretty sure she fucked two of my friends. Or maybe she did while we were still seeing each other.
hawt.
THREE KIDS!
NO!
One kid - maybe.
Just realize in her life you are her FOURTH priority.........at best! The kids will make sure and let you know "You're not my Daddy" and they are right.
Also know the Daddy of these 3 kids got this woman BEFORE she had kids - and probably had a better body - and he eventually got tired of it - and left. He got her at her best and tired of it - you are getting her with her "odometer" with many miles on it and no matter how many "tune ups" she gets she still has more miles on the car than you should be looking for.
No need to get involved with someone with "3 mistakes" in the other room and in your life. Instead of spending a romantic weekend with her you will be shuttling kids to basketball/soccer/dancing/etc.
Just not worth it
What?? You have no idea why they broke up.
Maybe he's looking at the girl as more than just a walking fucksocket? I'm dying for you to be less shallow.
Do you know any mothers that think of their kids as mistakes? I don't. Even those who aren't with the father any more ADORE their kids.
Jesus.
You are right I have no idea why they broke up
I agree he should look at her as more than a Sperm Depository but that has to be taken into account
3 Mistakes: Is the way the poor guy who is trying to date the woman needs to look at things. HIS P.O.V. - NOT Hers
If you just want sex, fine. But please think of the kids. How will it impact on them haveing a random hang with their mum that has no interest in them. Speaking from experience the question you will get early is, "are you mums boyfriend". And it won't take long for them to ask, "are you going to be our new dad". If you just want a fling, go for it, but realise there are 3 other lives involved. If you want something more serious then you need to take on the whole package.
Lola Luscious
Official Checked Star Member
I think it can be super complicated to date someone with kids - although in some cases it isn't. I will say that dating someone with kids can be a quick tell of their quality of character. But I, too, have had scarring experiences in that realm. I didn't meet my ex's kids until way into our relationship and they turned out to be total monsters and that quickly made me realize his character flaws, but the shitty part is I was already a couple of years in. I think as long as they handle things properly for the relationship AND their kids, it can be a good experience.
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