Is internet porn equal to cheating on your girlfreind?
- Thread starter antoinewilson22
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Since when is masturbation an unhealthy part of a relationship? You can't spend EVERY NIGHT of your life with your wife. You should encourage her to express herself sexually when you're not there or when you are there, right? If you can't feel comfortably sexually with your wife, than who can you?
As Jagger said above..there's a HUGE difference between fantasy and reality.
I don't even think a husband going to a strip club is cheating. But it's easy to blur that fantasy and reality line in a strip club...
As Jagger said above..there's a HUGE difference between fantasy and reality.
I don't even think a husband going to a strip club is cheating. But it's easy to blur that fantasy and reality line in a strip club...
RealMenSwallow
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I tried that once, and it didn't go to well. I broke the CD drive, and I was left pretty unsatisfied. But then I found out you could just use your left or right hand. (Hell, even both if you're a true master of the 'force').
But is this cheating, this right now? That which is the most holy and sacred art of masturbation? I think not. Because you see, in my opinion at least, masturbation just isn't that great. When you're young and it's fun, under about 20 that is, then it's always great to do it, but when you get over 20, it seems to lose all it's glory, and becomes rather pathetic. You see, it's just gotten to me, and it has before, and I made strides in trying to quit. But it is...an addiction.
ause break for the gasping: We all need to stop at some point. It's hard I know. But there are rules you can follow, some may call them steps, that can help to cure your disease, come on you know jerking that poison out is a disease. I know this intervention may be hard to handle right now, but some day you'll see that I am only trying to help. Your pal at Freeones.
ChefChiTown
The secret ingredient? MY BALLS
I think your wife is incredibly insecure.
I can understand that she would feel jealous and uncomfortable, but to compare it to CHEATING? Eh, no.
I agree.
thanksimout
Loves the double vag
Wow Chef,
Insecure is the exact word I was going to use and that is the real point here.
If the thread starter tried to include her in watching porn she may feel less insecure. If the wife is not into porn she needs to understand that most healthy men masturbate, with or without porn we fantasize and masturbate that is just reality and nothing to be ashamed of.
Would it be weirder or "proper" if the OP (or married men) wanked to pictures of their wives? I actually think that would be strange:wtf:
I am for anything which creates/continues/grows a healthy sexual life for married couples. When married couples aren't having sex, that's when it's time for concern....
Maybe this wife's attitude is typical: "I'm the only one my hubby has ever been with...":dunno:
Additionally, I don't watch porn when I am in an exclusive relationship. A) Out of respect as it makes many women uncomfortable; just as it would make me if my partner needed to watch gorgeous guys in a porn flick to sexually satisfy her. And B) I don't want to as the sex is almost always satisfying enough for me.
Now watching porn together? That's an different matter. That I have done with partners on occasion.
Now watching porn together? That's an different matter. That I have done with partners on occasion.
I guess lucky for you and the men of the world that she will be hardpressed to find that in porn, eh...:1orglaugh
Yeah, really :1orglaugh
Unless of course his partner has a thing for skinheads and carnival freaks.
If that were the case he'd be in deep trouble :1orglaugh
Will E Worm
Conspiracy...
I'll be blunt, is she a Christian or was she a virgin when you met her?
If not she's not adverse to screwing around with other people, so she can keep her mouth shut. :hatsoff:
She used a cop-out. Tell her to get a cat or three and go live alone for the rest of her life.
If not she's not adverse to screwing around with other people, so she can keep her mouth shut. :hatsoff:
She used a cop-out. Tell her to get a cat or three and go live alone for the rest of her life.
Skyraider22
The One and Only Big Daddy
No way I would figure she would be happy that you are looking at it and doing it with some other woman.
^This. I am not proud to say that my sex life has all but disappeared since the birth of my son, so internet porn is the only outlet for my sexual needs. I only have around 30 mins per day to look at them but it's better than nothing. Trust me if you aren't getting it on the bed or through the net, eventually you'll seek out another woman to bang and that'll make your wife even more unhappy.
Values are not absolute ...
Values are relative, not absolute. There is no such thing as "right/wrong" or "cheating/not cheating" on a general scale.
Values are what you have. When you decide to share your life with another, you share those values. If they conflict, you have to decide how you're going to deal with them.
Seeking out right/wrong or cheating/not cheating on this board won't get you far. You have to decide with her how both of you are going to deal with it.
You obviously like to do porn. She does not like that. Throwing values around -- from either side -- solves nothing. Discussing what values are important to one another is what matter.
Honesty, openness and being forward is crucial. I always tell guys and gals not to radically change their values for others, but find partners who have somewhat compatible or understandable values.
Don't lie or hide your values from a partner to avoid conflicting beforehand, because what is important to each of you will eventually come out, and be an even bigger problem. That repeatedly happens in the real world, and why relationships fail -- not because of some arbitrary "value" that is "absolute."
If she doesn't like you doing porn when she knows about it, ask her if it's okay if you do it when she's not around? That's not hiding or keeping it from her, but just not exposing her to it. If she doesn't want to agree to that, then find out what she will. If she keeps throwing values in your face as if they are absolute, then tell her that everything else she loves about you should be devalued with it, because it is you.
Ask her if she's ever fantasized about another guy when making love to you, or when you're not around. If she says that's different than looking at porn or getting off without her, point out that mental v. visual is not a good value judgment (and most professionals would agree). If she says she's "pure" and doesn't think of anyone but you -- ever -- and you think she really means it, then you have a decision.
Accept her values and stay with her, but consider what that will be denying yourself and what you like. That's the hard choice, but this isn't about "right/wrong" or "cheating/not cheating" but about two people living together and finding values that are compatible. That's the reality.
Values are relative, not absolute. There is no such thing as "right/wrong" or "cheating/not cheating" on a general scale.
Values are what you have. When you decide to share your life with another, you share those values. If they conflict, you have to decide how you're going to deal with them.
Seeking out right/wrong or cheating/not cheating on this board won't get you far. You have to decide with her how both of you are going to deal with it.
You obviously like to do porn. She does not like that. Throwing values around -- from either side -- solves nothing. Discussing what values are important to one another is what matter.
Honesty, openness and being forward is crucial. I always tell guys and gals not to radically change their values for others, but find partners who have somewhat compatible or understandable values.
Don't lie or hide your values from a partner to avoid conflicting beforehand, because what is important to each of you will eventually come out, and be an even bigger problem. That repeatedly happens in the real world, and why relationships fail -- not because of some arbitrary "value" that is "absolute."
If she doesn't like you doing porn when she knows about it, ask her if it's okay if you do it when she's not around? That's not hiding or keeping it from her, but just not exposing her to it. If she doesn't want to agree to that, then find out what she will. If she keeps throwing values in your face as if they are absolute, then tell her that everything else she loves about you should be devalued with it, because it is you.
Ask her if she's ever fantasized about another guy when making love to you, or when you're not around. If she says that's different than looking at porn or getting off without her, point out that mental v. visual is not a good value judgment (and most professionals would agree). If she says she's "pure" and doesn't think of anyone but you -- ever -- and you think she really means it, then you have a decision.
Accept her values and stay with her, but consider what that will be denying yourself and what you like. That's the hard choice, but this isn't about "right/wrong" or "cheating/not cheating" but about two people living together and finding values that are compatible. That's the reality.
The tragedy of kids that affect too many lovers ...
That is always a great tragedy. It starts with the "quickies" just so you do, and then one (or both) of you don't like that and it ends. The reality is that married couples with kids have to make time, and that's hard. But the couples that do end up having enough time to do it.
Will E Worm
Conspiracy...
Re: Values are not absolute ...
They aren't? :dunno:
So, murder is not wrong if I say it's not?
Thanks...:ak47:
They aren't? :dunno:
So, murder is not wrong if I say it's not?
Thanks...:ak47:
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